The custom of the relationship between an uncle and an nephew

On the second day of the lunar new year, my nephew must go to my uncle's house to pay a New Year call. As the saying goes, mom's uncle is older than dad's uncle. )

Usually, if there is a conflict between mother and child, an uncle will come forward to mediate. So nephews generally respect their uncles. My uncle is second only to my father and my nephew. So my nephew is welcome when he pays a New Year call to my uncle.

Presumably, many people know that it is a custom not to shave your head in the first month, but you have to shave your head to death. Please introduce it here about its origin.

Confucius' Book of Filial Piety: Zhongniju, attended by Ceng Zi. Confucius said, "The late king had a road of supreme virtue, so as to obey the world, make people harmonious, and have no complaints from top to bottom. What do you know? " Ceng Zi walked out of the meeting and said, "If you are not sensitive, how can you know?" Confucius said, "Filial piety is the foundation of virtue, from which teaching is born." Sit down and I'll talk to you. The body is a skin injury, and parents dare not hurt it. Filial piety begins. Standing on the street, making a name for yourself in later generations to show your parents, is also the end of filial piety. Filial piety begins with pro-service, middle-service and finally stands. "Daya" says:' If you don't think about your ancestors, you will learn virtue.' "

One of the most famous examples, Xia Houdun in the Three Kingdoms period shot people in the eye, took them out and ate them. He said: "I was covered with skin, and my parents didn't dare to hurt me, so I was filial from the beginning. Standing on the street, making a name for future generations, to show parents, the end of filial piety is also. "

Therefore, in ancient times, a person's birth year was generally 12 years old, and everyone had the saying of "turning off the lights". 12 years old, although there is no adult ceremony, it is basically an adult, and then you can't shave your head. Both men and women put his hair in a bun and put it on their heads.

When the Qing army entered the customs in 1644 (the seventeenth year of Chongzhen in the Ming Dynasty), it issued a "haircut order", which was publicly abolished because of the dissatisfaction of the Han people. 1645 After the Qing army marched into the south of the Yangtze River, Sun Zhixie, the minister of the Han Dynasty, was pushed out by other ministers of the Han Dynasty and became angry from embarrassment. He proposed to Regent Dourgen to issue a new "haircut order".

So Dourgen issued another "haircut order", stipulating that wherever the Qing army went, no matter the government or the people, it was limited to ten days to shave their heads, cut their hair and hang their braids, and those who did not comply were beheaded. Its implementation slogan is: "Leave the head without hair, leave the hair headless."

With nostalgia for the Ming Dynasty, some people privately called on everyone not to shave their heads in the first month to recall the tradition of keeping all their hair in the old country of the Ming Dynasty, and named this action "thinking about the past". Over time, the feeling of "homesickness" faded, and the homophonic accompaniment was "dead uncle", so there was a folk custom that has been passed down to this day.