How to deal with contemporary interpersonal relationships with traditional culture and be a confident China person?

There are many ways to be a man in traditional culture.

In modern society, people are generally busy with work and study. They don't pay enough attention to the people around them except those who have direct interests with them. Unconsciously, the psychological distance between them is getting bigger and bigger, and people around them feel indifferent, selfish and don't care about themselves. They are not easy to talk to others and become lonely, depressed and unhappy. In fact, these problems are all caused by themselves. I don't care about the joys and sorrows of others, and I don't pay for it. How can I get a reward? This situation will change if we can perceive other people's emotions with our hearts. The other person's eyes, expression, posture and voice will tell us his physical and mental state at the moment: whether he is comfortable or not, and whether he is in a good mood. Perceive each other's emotions, and further analyze the reasons, and first observe whether his negative emotions are caused by us. At ordinary times, people's hearts are very thick, either groggy or falling apart, which brings unhappiness to others, but they don't know it. Go into someone else's room without knocking, and forget to close the door when you leave; After washing your hands, throw them around, and water droplets splash on others' faces; Get up and drag the chair, making a harsh sound; Heavy steps up and down the stairs; Shoes rub on the ground when walking; Don't cover the door with your hand after going to the toilet; Talking loudly in the corridor ... is subtle, but it often brings unhappiness to others. Speaking and doing things without considering other people's feelings brings trouble and pain to others: mean words, sarcastic tone, contemptuous eyes, indifferent expression, rude actions, indifferent attitude, jealous psychology, etc. Are invisible swords, cutting scars in other people's hearts. Everyone has experienced the pain of being hurt and the happiness of being cared for. Putting yourself in others' shoes will often bring trouble and unhappiness to others, and there can be no harmonious interpersonal relationship. If the other party has an incorrect view and unreasonable treatment of us, we must first warn ourselves not to be angry and hateful. Feel the other person's physical and mental state with your heart, and you will find that he is troubled by bad emotions and loses his peace and happiness. If we are out of control, it is tantamount to rubbing salt in each other's wounds and punishing ourselves with other people's mistakes. If unreasonable treatment doesn't have much influence on you, you might as well accept and tolerate it and wait for the right opportunity to communicate sincerely. The two sides don't give in to each other, just ask for it. Of course, tolerance does not mean connivance. If concessions will only lead to worse negative results, appropriate countermeasures must be taken, but only if they are not out of anger and hatred. If the other person's negative emotions are not caused by us, we can also feel what the other person needs most now. By understanding his troubles, we can shorten the psychological distance and draw closer to each other. Sincere sympathy will at least relieve each other's pain psychologically. Pay more attention to others and less attention to yourself, and interpersonal relationships will be better.