Help research and study the wedding customs of Wenzhou

Traditional wedding customs in Wenzhou from the matchmaker, open and close, discuss hiring, small fixed, big fixed to the marriage, roughly along the six rites, but more complicated than the six rites. Especially after the wedding is still continuing, a week square stop. The so-called seven days in the cave eight days scattered. Now will be related to the Wenzhou wedding customs of the sight and sound. And special statement, not against imitation.

Pre-marital etiquette:

Matchmaker: As the saying goes, the sky is not difficult to line rain, the world is not a matchmaker. Marriage in the old days, there must be a matchmaker to summarize. Do not allow men and women to be private. Matchmaker's job is to introduce men and women back-to-back with each other, in the mouth of the matchmaker, men are strong, family and good, women must be like a flower, chaste and virtuous. When the two sides of mutual interest, the matchmaker is involved in the negotiation of the bride price. Then they act as messengers for the two families who have been betrothed, until they get married. The man pays the matchmaker a pig's head and the woman a valve of muffin.

Marriage: men and women are mutually agreeable to each other can not be counted, the meaning of God is the most important. God's meaning is generally through the marriage or directly "ask Buddha" know. Marriage is the year of the parties involved in the geng to the fortune-teller to calculate, to see whether there is a collision with each other. If there is any conflict, the couple cannot get married. "Ask Buddha" is to ask for a sign in front of the Buddha. There is also a simple way, that is, the other side of the annual paper pressure in the God of the stove under the incense burner for seven days, during which if there is no broken dishes, or family quarrels and other unlucky things happen, it is OK.

Negotiation of bride price: the gods **** Xu began to negotiate the bride price and dowry, which can be detailed to the dumplings several quintals (a quintal of ten), a few basins, etc. Both sides may fight for these face to face. The two sides may fight for these red faces, the onlookers do not think it strange.

The small fixed: after all the negotiations, the first small fixed. That is, the first part of the agreed bride price to the woman, equivalent to the deposit in the business world now. First pay a few minutes of a few, the initiative of the male side is relatively large. You can use the harvest has not yet arrived as an excuse to eat candy first, about a few dozen dollars is enough. However, too unimpressive or female economic difficulties will be in the big fixed before pressing some of the property, such as wool, wool, cash, etc..

The big decision: after the harvest or nearly before the wedding on a good day, the two sides held a big decision. The atmosphere is much warmer than that of a small wedding.

At this time the bride price must be paid, mainly watches, the most high-end is 120 yuan Shanghai brand. Big fixed fashion can not be honored when the bride price agreed, at this time it is dangerous, that incomplete bride price is thrown out of the door, but it does not matter, is not really do not want. As long as it is more good words, promised to make up for, picked up after the woman will still be smiling. Dading put the gift of the best Fang Sheng a pair of utensils, the rest can use the new Luo frame, if you can not borrow Fang Sheng, you can use six boxes instead (talked about below).

Send day: that is, the six gifts in the invitation period. After the big decision, the wife is basically their own, you have the right to negotiate with the woman to marry matters. If you have no intention of marrying for a long time after the big decision, most of the reason is that the hole brother does not agree, at this time, the woman will not mind you poor, will only force you to marry as soon as possible. You poor, husband's family is not rich ah, can not ask his wife to rely on the husband's family to eat white rice, right? So, you chose an auspicious day (certainly not the first or fifteenth day of the lunar calendar) and ask someone to write in brushstrokes on red paper, put in six boxes, sent to the woman. Together in the six boxes, there are carp, pork, pork belly, live chickens, cinnamon, flowers ha*** six in the gift, called the six kinds.

Six is a slight change can be made, such as the pork belly replaced by pig liver, liver and belly can be replaced under the cinnamon.

On the head: a few days before the official wedding to the female party to send pork-based gifts, pork is generally about two hundred pounds, at least 150 pounds or more. The woman received so much pork is used to share relatives and wine with. What gifts on the top is also negotiated in advance, how much pork, is the focus of the negotiations.

Moving the dowry: the morning of the day or the day of the wedding, the male party to send young strong relatives and friends and a young boy to the female side of the dowry transportation. The woman's dowry has been laid out by the master tailor and gathered in the upper room (the center hall), tied with a red silk ribbon, and tied with branches of Nelumbo nucifera and cypress leaves. The wooden furniture is labeled with red "double happiness". The little boy came to carry the urine tray, the urine tray with red envelopes, usually 50 cents to one dollar, later rose to two dollars, the author will not have a share. The back of the urine plate is a good job, usually the bridegroom's next of kin, the water does not flow outside the field ah.

Crying wedding: the day of the wedding, the bride is to cry. Really can not cry out, but also must make their eyes red, in order to avoid gossip. Otherwise, it is "big heart (Wenzhou pronunciation)", and its mother is the first unhappy people, she thinks that her daughter has no sense of attachment to her, has long wanted to fly. The author's sister married just curious giggling, the mother's face can not hang on, on the stove is very serious to make some noise. Informed aunt secretly pull the corner of the sister's coat, gently persuade it to cry.

If the bride cries, the female guests have to stop, there are accompanied by crying, there are also persuade while crying. The men knowingly walk away and say "there is a show" "there is a show" (that is, should mean). I've heard that Yueqing brides cry the most, and Pingyang brides cry the most literary. Pingyang bride is crying while singing, they sing some rhyming words to the drum tune. The content is to say goodbye to the mother of the relatives of the main, the scandal of the world of marriage, lamenting the life of a thin red face and so on.

Welcome and sedan chair (or boat): welcome to the bride on the door and dusk door points, earlier to the bride on the door of the five, probably not objective time, and then basically set off after lunch, married back to the bride to eat dinner. Lunch is called a banquet, the evening is called the wine. Haunted feast food is relatively simple, mainly to take its haunted, do not care to eat. There is a proverb: Tangjiaqiao people ate haunted feast, bring their own wine cups since the chopsticks.

The bride got up on the day of the wedding basically do not eat food, especially do not drink water. Only before the start of the line to eat some, mainly cinnamon, the mystery of which only women know, men do not ask. Why less food and drink can tell you, it is afraid to eat more drink more toilet inconvenience. Old-time people are not very civilized, often to the bride to urine pants pride. As for the sedan chair soup, that's just a symbolic eat a little, in front of so many guests, the mood of nervousness you still eat?

The bride wore a crown of pearls, wearing python robes is a pre-liberation thing, during the Cultural Revolution only to wear the general new clothes. When the bride crossed the threshold of the male family, red rain like rock, and early prepared bridesmaids held up the rice sieve, screaming and blocking, and the sprinkler happy and smiling. So the wedding into the climax.

Now, the bride has been married to you, the next how to get the family production and construction is your own thing.