Why do people always say that the thinking of the older generation is very traditional?

In fact, the older generation still cares about children, so they will educate you. Generally speaking, they don't like your style and your ideas, so they say that your possible methods are wrong, but the starting point of the older generation is good.

The older generation or their parents love their children very much, but they don't use the right way, so that it is difficult for children to understand and receive such education.

They subconsciously follow the traditional thought, regard the relationship between children and themselves as the relationship between superiors and subordinates, blindly defend their dignity, copy and imitate the education method of the older generation "filial son under the stick" right or wrong, and transmit anxiety to children without scruple, and finally get the result of extremes meet.

they want to talk to you, but they never give you equal status.

They want to communicate with you, but once they are questioned, they are totally verbally violent.

They want you to be strong and confident, but in fact, you are obedient to them and obedient to Nuo Nuo at home, criticizing, even abusing you in front of others.

You did something wrong. They want to blame you and all your actions, but they don't help you find a way. When you did the right thing, they were ecstatic, and everyone showed off the Excellence and success of their education, even if they just gave you a bite to eat.

They are too impetuous to have good communication and patient companionship, which are the two basic essentials of family education.

When we uncover the surface of impetuous anxiety, we can only see another similarity in their education, that is, controlling their children with their own ideas.

Psychologically, the harm that controlling parents bring to their children is also difficult to cure.

A controlled mother generally has the following characteristics:

She is highly neurotic, anxious, and easily caused by trivial matters. After anxiety occurs, she needs to bet on the outside world to relieve her anxiety, lacking friends and hobbies.

The relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious, and they feel that their husband is incompetent. If parents often quarrel, it will hurt their children many times.

On the one hand, they strictly discipline their children, on the other hand, they love their children very much, and they don't want their children to go out independently. Generally, they interfere with and control their children by accusing, belittling and distrusting them.

Characteristics of children under control:

Children are clever and sensible, and their grades are not too bad. Willing to pay for others.

The grades in junior high school decline (compared with primary school). If the decline is serious, it is generally accompanied by isolation and bullying. If the grades are upstream. Generally more aloof. Strong ideals.

In the middle and high school years, my grades are seriously declining, and my interpersonal relationship is sensitive. On the one hand, I am eager to socialize, on the other hand, I pay too much attention to myself, which leads to a bad situation of making friends. Began to rebel against her mother, but depended on her.

Education is the process of casting swords for children, and these parents seem to be more willing to control the sword-bearer before encountering wild animals.

children who don't have a sword in their hands will be hindered by anything.