What is the custom of getting engaged in Xinghua?

1. Pick up the bride early in the morning

Usually the bride is picked up in the morning. There are also some villages that welcome the new year in the afternoon, which is not considered a local custom.

If there are two neighboring families holding weddings at the same time, there is a practice of welcoming the new year as early as possible.

2. Crying to marry

The bride leaves home and cries goodbye to her mother.

Although the daughter often had quarrels with her mother before getting married, and Xinghua called her "for marriage", the farewell at this time was sincere.

3. The bride leaves home without touching the soil

Especially if the bride has brothers, this is very important and the wealth of the family should not be taken away. Generally, after the bride dresses up, she changes into new shoes before going out, and her uncle and other elders carry them out to the sedan chair. Nowadays, there is no need for a sedan chair. Instead, people walk on their own and use new carpets. Those who use a car to welcome the new year have the same function as a sedan chair.

4. The bride wears red shoes

Customs believe that the bride’s wedding day is when the “fire” is at its lowest, and she is prone to encounter monsters and ghosts. Wearing red shoes can enhance her resistance. . This also shows the traces of the ancient custom of marriage robbery. Marriage is like a "disaster" for women.

5. Open the door and seal it off

The man’s wedding team arrived at the door of the woman’s house, and the woman’s brother deliberately locked the door. The groom must pay a bribe - seal the door so that the door can be opened. < /p>

When the bride arrives home, she should have a big show;

The biggest show is when the appetizer (the first hot dish) is served at the wedding banquet.

7. The bride sits in the room

The bride does not go out to the living room to receive guests, but is accompanied by her female friends and the male family members. This is under house arrest and smells like a "hostage".

Nowadays, weddings have changed, and the bride has got rid of the "hostage" treatment and can receive guests with the groom openly.

8. Wedding banquet

Generally in the evening, in order to correspond to the meaning of "marriage". "Marriage" originally means "hun", which means dusk - it is convenient for robbery.

9. Worship

This is the "opening ceremony" of the wedding banquet. Now it's simpler.

10. Warm bed

The groom's younger brother often takes the lead and rolls around in the new bed of his elder brother and sister-in-law, which is called "warm bed". Some pranksters even made the children pee on the new bed.

As for throwing wedding tents and the like, they have been avoided for a long time.

But the quilt for the new bed is very particular. You need to find someone with both children to "hook the quilt" for the last time.

11. Window paper

Paste red paper on the outside of the windows of the new house.

The relatives who came to congratulate me brought their children to puncture the window paper, and said:

If you can blow it, you can raise it;

Raise a boy to scrape it Scratch!

Pour, poke. Whistle, fast.

12. Listening to the outsiders

Listening to the noise in the new house outside the window is called "listening to the outsiders".

This move is purely "making trouble" now, but it had practical significance in ancient times: the old mother was worried that her son was too innocent and "the spring breeze did not know the Yumen Pass", and always wanted to provide off-site guidance - this was recently broadcast There are also demonstrations in some costume dramas.

13. "Handover birthdays"

After marriage, the mother's family will hand over the daughter's birthday to her husband's family in the first year of marriage. It is said that if a woman meets a very mean mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law's status in the family will be very low. Not only will she have to take on all the work at home, but she will also have to endure her mother-in-law's harshness. On the birthday of a daughter-in-law in the first year after she marries her husband's family, if her mother-in-law's family does not come to celebrate her birthday, the mother-in-law's family will deliberately not prepare delicious food for her daughter-in-law on this day. If your daughter-in-law complains, her parents-in-law will say it confidently, but you didn’t say anything, and your parents-in-law didn’t come to tell us that today is your birthday. How would we know? Therefore, in order to give their daughter a status in her husband's family, her mother's family lets her husband's family know her daughter's birthday. There is a saying about today's "birthday". On the day of "birthday", the parents' family will make it very grand and prepare birthday peaches, noodles and other birthday things for their daughter.

The mother-in-law’s family celebrates her daughter’s first birthday in her husband’s family in such a grand way. From then on, every year on the daughter-in-law’s birthday, they will celebrate her daughter-in-law’s birthday