It's really wrong to expect your son to be the best and your daughter to be the best! The premise is to do which points?

Looking for a son to become a dragon, looking for a daughter to become a phoenix is really wrong! The premise is to do which points?

I firmly believe that every parent has a wish: to see their son, to see their daughter become a phoenix. But in reality, there are a lot of parents who have more to lose than to gain, and in the face of these good wishes are inferior.

Is it wrong to expect a son to be a dragon and a daughter to be a phoenix?

From my experience of 7 years of home schooling, guiding more than 800 families, there is no doubt that it is right to hope for a child to become a dragon, who does not want the child to become a dragon, who does not want the child to get into a famous school, who does not want the child to grow up to be successful.

First, parents are overly eager.

Education is a process, and cultural education is characterized by a certain slow spirit, if we are overly eager parents, in violation of the laws of education, the conclusion must be more than lost. When it comes to family education, it is difficult, and it is not too much to say that it is simple. The difficulty lies in the fact that parents must eliminate fame and fortune, never compare themselves with others, and have great patience to wait for their children's development. Each flower blooms at a different time.

Second, ignoring the necessity of parent-child relationship

People say that building a building, the most important thing is the roadbed, the roadbed is not stabilized, the upper side of the cover and then the luxury will not help. If the cultural education of children is compared to build a building, the cultural education of children this building foundation in the end where the road base is the parent-child communication between parents and children, if the relationship between parents and children is not in place, parents even if they have a wealth of background information, the so-called parenting education tips, parents are experts and professors, but also everyone can not help, as the relationship depends on the parents of the child influence, and no Visibility parents say something children just refuse to listen.

Third, do not pretend to understand, and even good intentions to do bad things

What does this mean ah! Usually a lot of parents on home education despite the great importance, but in the parents did learn how much ah, there are still a lot of parents feel that parents still need to learn, not quite understand the regularity of the development of the child, not quite understand the regularity of the contemporary children's behavior, when encountering difficult and confusing situations, the parents are only emotionally unstable, a little bit of that is to say that the reasoning, with the obvious can not be a real sense of help on the children.

Being convinced that the parents can do the above three points, together with all the parents hope that the child will be determined we will be able to bring up the child well.