How to cultivate children's manners and manners in daily life?

As the saying goes: "Sowing behavior, harvesting habits. Sowing habits and harvesting character. " In other words, good habits can be cultivated through education. From the child's physiological characteristics, early childhood is very plastic, which is a critical period for habit formation. Mr. Ye Shengtao, a famous educator, once said, "Education is the cultivation of habits". It is very important for children's lifelong development to grasp this critical period of early childhood education and let children form good behavior habits. At present, early education has attracted wide attention from all walks of life, but people's understanding of early education is often one-sided. Some parents only pay attention to the early development of children's intelligence, while ignoring other aspects, especially the cultivation of civilized manners and habits. In addition, some kindergartens and kindergarten teachers do not pay enough attention to this, which makes the cultivation of children's civilized and polite behavior habits a weak link in early childhood education. There is a formula for early childhood education: early education needs one kilogram of strength = later education needs one ton. Explain the importance of early education. Preschool teachers and parents should actively cultivate children's good habits according to their own characteristics, especially to strengthen the cultivation of their civilized and polite behavior habits.

How to cultivate children's good manners and manners should start from the following aspects:

First, improve children's awareness of civilized and polite behavior habits.

Politeness is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation, a manifestation of one's spiritual level and a symbol of social civilization and progress. Politeness not only reflects the friendly relationship of mutual care and respect between people in today's society, but also reflects people's own cultural accomplishment level. Today's children are all the only daughters in the family, all "little emperors" and "little princesses", all of whom are self-centered, competitive and polite.

Today, when building a harmonious society is advocated, the education of civilized manners has become an important part of the construction of spiritual civilization. The Regulations on Kindergarten Work and the Guiding Outline of Kindergarten Education of the Ministry of Education clearly require that civilized and polite education should start with dolls. "According to the age characteristics of children, children should be educated in manners from an early age in daily life, and good manners and manners should be cultivated through games and theme activities."

British educator Locke said: "In fact, all education comes down to cultivating children's good habits, and often one's own happiness comes down to one's own habits." Politeness is a good habit of moral behavior, and psychological research has found that the whole infant stage is the best time to cultivate moral behavior habits. As the saying goes: "Look at the small at three years old, and look at the old at seven years old." Man's behavior depends largely on his habits. Therefore, society, schools, teachers and parents should realize the importance of children's civilized and polite education, seize the critical period of children's education, cultivate children's good civilized and polite behavior habits, and benefit children for life.

Second, the current problems and manifestations of children's civilized and polite behavior habits

Now most children are only children, and there are many problems. Through the summary and investigation of kindergarten work, the main problems of children's civilized and polite behavior are: selfishness, self-centeredness, pampering and willfulness, emotional fluctuation, excessive fighting, spitting, littering, not caring for the environment (destroying flowers and public environment), not loving labor, using uncivilized language, being picky about food, sleeping late and not caring for the old and young. Mainly in kindergarten classes, he or she is often the center, and other children will not be taken into account in the activities; When there are differences with other children in play, they will abuse their children by touching or exporting, and they will be aggressive when something happens, conquering other children and listening to their own leadership; Don't greet teachers and elders, and don't use ugly names.

Third, measures to cultivate children's good manners and manners

There are many ways to cultivate children's good manners and manners. Not only does the society need to provide children with a civilized environment suitable for their lives, but also the whole society needs self-discipline to supervise children's bad manners and behaviors. At the same time, parents and teachers need to set an example and conduct subtle and meticulous education. Kindergarten teachers should correctly guide, reasonably educate and actively cultivate children in daily life and teaching. Specific measures are as follows:

(A) to create a good atmosphere of civilized environment

The society is complex and changeable, and there are many bad civilized behaviors. Children have limited cognitive ability, strong imitation and poor control, and are easily influenced by the external environment, forming bad manners and manners. Therefore, it is necessary to create a good civilized environment for children to grow up healthily.

1. Parents should set an example, be polite parents, set an example for their children and create a good civilized family atmosphere.

2. Parents should do a good job in supervising their children's good manners and habits, try to avoid their children's bad manners and manners, and strictly demand their words and deeds, not being intolerant or intolerant. Children should help them correct their mistakes and actively reward them if they make progress.

3. Schools should carry out more activities of "civilized new style". Carry out the theme spirit of "safety, health, civilization and harmony" in kindergartens. For example, the school spirit activity month of "building a harmonious society and creating a new atmosphere of civilization" was launched, and a series of activities of "I am an angel of civilization" were carried out in combination with the school spirit activity month. There are many polite cards in the classroom, such as "please", "hello", "good morning", "goodbye", "sorry", "never mind" and "thank you". Let children learn in the form of pictures and texts, read them every day and implement them in their own actions. Praise children with good manners in time. For example, children who are polite in kindergarten and at home can greet their teachers loudly when they enter the park in the morning, and they will also be rewarded with a "flash". Children who get five "sparkling" in a row can become "civilized angels". The teacher will write the name of "civilized little angel" in the contact column at home, so that the children in the class can learn from him or her. The children's enthusiasm is mobilized, and they demand themselves everywhere with "civilization in my action" and strive to be "civilized angels". These activities will greatly improve classroom rules and routines.

(2) Infiltrate civilized manners education into all aspects of children's lives.

Civilization and politeness education is not only limited to teaching activities, but also should penetrate into children's daily life. Such as: morning corner activities, allowing children to freely choose areas and guiding children to cooperate with each other; In the language corner "I'll speak", guide children to pay attention to basic etiquette. Children who tell stories should greet everyone first, and then introduce the name of the story. Children who listen to the story ask to listen quietly, don't interrupt others at will, and applaud after listening to the story. Ask children to use polite expressions when eating, such as "teacher please add rice" and "teacher please add soup"; For example, when washing cups, guide children to wait in line until the first child washes the second one, which changes the chaotic situation of washing cups in the past. When children eat together, they must say "invite everyone to dinner" before they start eating. When children eat cakes on their birthdays, all children will take the initiative to send blessings to those who celebrate their birthdays and say something like "thank you for the cake". Children can say "good morning" loudly to their teachers and children when they enter the park in the morning, and then say "goodbye" to their parents happily? This is the way to educate children to be a civilized and polite person through the dribs and drabs of daily life, and gradually let them know how to use polite language when interacting with others.

(3) Teachers should set an example and set an example.

Teachers are the first imitators of children, and their words and deeds will affect children's behavior. Therefore, teachers should pay more attention to their words and deeds, set an example, and subconsciously educate and guide children. Ye Shengtao pointed out in the book "Habit becomes Nature": "To have the ability to read, you must open your books and read carefully; To have civilized and polite behavior, you must go into the environment and edify it bit by bit. " Because children are still young, they will feel insecure when they leave their families and parents, and teachers will become their only reliance. This requires teachers to care, love and help every child like mothers, eliminate their fears, create a relaxed, harmonious, democratic and equal spiritual environment, and warm children's hearts with love. While gaining and feeling love, children gradually learn how to care and help others, and at the same time gradually form a good personality and behavior quality of mutual respect and love, courtesy and discipline. As a teacher, we should be aware of the exemplary role of our own behavior, strengthen moral cultivation and psychological cultivation, and always pay attention to the subtle influence of our words and deeds on children. For example, if you enter the park in the morning and take the initiative to say hello to the children, then the children will definitely say "Hello, teacher!" "When we accidentally hit a child, we will kneel down and sincerely say" I'm sorry "to the child; When we disturb the children, we will whisper "excuse me"; When we need help, we will say to our children, "Can you help me? "We should let go of the condescending position of teachers in the past, enter the children's world, blend into the children's hearts, and find our own role orientation. At the same time, children naturally learn various polite expressions in this polite environment. As long as teachers seize the educational opportunities around them and start from bit by bit, then I believe that no pains, no gains, we will certainly enjoy the sweetness in the joy of success.

(4) Infiltrating civilized and polite behavior in the game.

It is children's nature to love games, and games are also children's active activities to know the world and explore the world around them. Educator Dewey said: "Games have great educational value. Children first know the world through games. " Explain the important role of games in children's life, so kindergarten teachers should use games to realize civilized and polite education. For example, in creative games, let children try how to be polite to guests. Through the form of competition, children can be stimulated to make continuous progress in the atmosphere of chasing each other and strengthen their behavior habits. For example, in our class, we set up a competition wall for small animals to pick fruits. According to the number of times children use polite expressions, increase the number of fruits for small animals, so as to select the stars of civilization. You can also design a variety of games such as "Grandma fell down", "uncivilized behavior in the classroom" and "What would you do" to educate children on etiquette. Let children correctly distinguish civilized behavior from uncivilized behavior, and let children get natural education in the game.

(5) Do a good job in parenting so that parents and teachers can jointly cultivate their children.

Family is not only a living environment for children, but also an important educational environment. For young children, the time spent at home accounts for about two-thirds of their life time. Therefore, family education plays a very important role in the development of children's good habits.

The formation of children's good behavior habits is inseparable from the guidance of teachers and the edification of families. The reason is simple: children are constantly developing and changing physically and psychologically, and their behavior habits have not really formed. The behavior pattern accepted in kindergarten, if parents don't cooperate, children may soon abandon it when they get home. Therefore, kindergarten education can not be separated from the cooperation and supplement of families. Children are plastic and imitative, and parents' words and deeds play a subtle role in their growth. To this end, children can regularly invite experts to the park to provide tutoring guidance and training for the parents of the whole park, and ask parents to adopt appropriate educational methods, carefully care for and guide their children, and gradually develop good manners and manners.

In order to synchronize family education, we pay attention to guiding parents to create a good family education environment. First of all, parents are required to create and maintain a harmonious, happy and respectful family atmosphere. Let children feel warm and happy in such a warm family, feel emotional stability, be influenced by love, and sprout self-confidence and self-motivation; Secondly, it is required to create a beautiful and clean family environment. Let children sprout good behavior habits such as love cleanliness, care for things, and rules of life from an early age; Moreover, the teacher's education model extends to family education, and what children are asked to do in kindergarten is also asked to do at home. In order to consolidate good behavior habits. At the same time, kindergartens can create a variety of parent-child activities for parents and children, provide opportunities for parents and children to get closer, understand and communicate, and carry out parent-child activities once a month, with rich and colorful contents: teaching achievement display, teaching aid design and use display, parent-child paradise, literary report performance, and parents' experience exchange.

China is known as "an ancient civilization" and "a state of etiquette". Xunzi believes that without politeness, people can't survive, their careers can't succeed, and the country can't be stable. Jia Yi in Han Dynasty regarded politeness as the difference between man and beast. Politeness is the code of conduct and moral standard of interpersonal relationship in public life. It can make society harmonious and orderly, thus maintaining the normal development of society. Civilized language and polite manners can reflect a person's connotation and accomplishment, and also contribute to a person's healthy growth and career success. Goethe, a famous German writer, said: "A person's courtesy is a mirror that reflects his portrait." Indeed, people always judge you by your behavior. Because politeness is the golden key for human beings to live in harmony, with it there is happiness. With the acceleration of China's internationalization, we should vigorously promote the virtues of civility and politeness, which is the premise of improving competitiveness. We all hope to train our children into excellent people, and let them have good ideology and morality, healthy personality, healthy life and happy life, so that our society can make progress and our country can have hope. Therefore, we should start with cultivating children's good manners and etiquette and strengthen their manners and etiquette education, which is the most precious lifelong wealth we leave to our children!