Binzhou huimin county funeral customs

Huimin County, Binzhou funeral customs

Since the 80s, the traditional funeral customs in part of the ritual in the countryside is popular again. When the old man's life is in danger, the children will give the old man to change clothes, no matter in winter or summer, are wearing cotton clothes. Where immediate family members are guarding the side, listening to the will, watching the old man pass away. The old man breathed his last, the younger generation immediately to the courtyard facing the southwest, "called the soul", intended to call back the soul of the deceased, but also obituaries of the clan, the neighbors. Then put the dead on the bed, food, incense, light lamps. The younger generation wears mourning clothes and white paper is put on the door. Preside over the funeral of the patriarch or village cadres assigned to the deceased's relatives and friends, written obituaries and oral funeral two forms, the main content of the deceased's name and death, coffin, funeral time.

Early 80's, rural areas, the implementation of burial, the dead must be put into the coffin, called the coffin. At this time, relatives must be present to say goodbye to the body. If the deceased is a woman, must be the presence of the mother's family. After the coffin, the coffin parked in the hearth, the younger generation according to men and women on both sides of the acceptance of friends and relatives mourning. The mourners first cry and then kneel, the next of kin must also pay the ceremony. The period of suspension ranges from 3 to 5 days.

The night before the funeral, the funeral home for the deceased to hold a ceremony, commonly known as "send the tray," the location selected at the intersection or open space. Deacons pre-set tables, incense burners and candlesticks, prepared dishes and wine, the younger generation and friends and relatives of the deceased soul streamer one by one to kowtow to send off. After the ceremony, burning paper car, horse, sedan chair, money tree, etc., the children cried and ran to the fire to show that the dead to stay. Funeral, also known as burial, the eldest son holding a streamer, the other younger generation to carry the staff of mourning, with the coffin to the cemetery. After the coffin has been placed in the hole, the younger generation sprinkles soil on the lid of the coffin to show that they are burying the deceased. Then the neighbors pile up the soil to form the grave. On the third day, the children fill in the earth to "round the grave" and burn paper to mourn. Every seven days since the date of the death of their loved ones to the grave to pay tribute, "seven seven" until.

The deceased whose parents were alive did not follow the above etiquette.

In the mid-to-late 1980s, cremation became commonplace in the country, and the government advocated for a change in customs and traditions, which led to a gradual streamlining of the etiquette. In the 1990s, it was fashionable to erect monuments or plant trees to commemorate the dead.

The townspeople funeral more simple, after the death of the body held in the funeral parlor farewell ceremony, relatives, friends and colleagues to pay tribute to the deceased. After that, the body is sent to the crematorium for cremation and the urn is sent to the Memorial Hall for storage.

Binzhou other customs

One, marriage

proposal of marriage since the 80s, the proposal of marriage in various ways. First, the introducer of the situation of men and women (age, appearance, personality, cultural level, family status, etc.) is familiar with, enthusiastic to help, take the initiative for its matchmaking, or by a party entrusted to propose marriage. Secondly, men and women are free to love, in order to seek the name and honor, trust an acquaintance as an introducer, this kind of marriage proposal is just a form. Thirdly, the mass media and marriage agencies undertake the function of proposing marriage. Men and women who have been proposed by an introducer must agree on a time to see each other, and the first meeting is only a superficial understanding of appearance, age, and mannerisms; later, they will make their own appointments to gain a deeper understanding of each other's character, family, occupation, and hobbies. Many young men and women in cities and towns fall in love freely, bring each other to their homes, introduce them to their families, and act as introducers themselves. Zhanhua, Wudi County, a few areas are still booked "baby marriage" custom.

The betrothal of men and women to interact for a period of time, that you can be satisfied with the betrothal, written and oral two ways. Written betrothal will be the elders of the family's seniority, name, age, etc. written on red paper, the name of "post"; another paper to write the child's name, age, phases, and "the years in line with the geng, the genus life is born, would like to knot Qin Jin of good" and so on the text, name The name "invitation". Then by the introducer to the two sides, the male party to the female side of the gift. 80's, part of the rural areas are used in this way. Oral betrothal that is, men and women (including parents, children, immediate family members, etc.) agreed to meet at a time to talk about the marriage will be finalized. The place is usually chosen in the male side, the male party hosted a banquet, and give the female side of the meeting gift.

Negotiation of the marriage of men and women to discuss the time of marriage, the bride price, the marriage agenda, pick up (or send) the way of marriage and so on. Negotiation of marriage by the parents of both sides, children directly to exchange views, and sometimes have to be introduced from the coordination, often discussed many times before reaching **** knowledge. Negotiation of marriage, the man to pay the woman a dowry dowry, the woman often return a small portion to show politeness.

Marriage before the marriage of men and women to the local government for marriage registration procedures. Female dowry, the male side to decorate the cave, put the new furniture (if the female side to accompany the furniture, need to be delivered in advance), bed (kang) laid a new, the door to paste couplets. The day of the marriage, generally by the male party to pick up (some sent by the female party), the early 80's, by horse-drawn carriages or bicycles, in the middle and late by tractors or agricultural vehicles, the 90's more small cars. The bride was accompanied by her family, the dowry was sent at the same time. Get off the firecrackers, drums and music to welcome. Bride and groom into the courtyard, the master of ceremonies to preside over the wedding ceremony. Afterwards, the bride into the bridal chamber, onlookers then flocked to the name of the "cave", Binzhou area, there is also a "haunted mother-in-law" custom. The day, the man hosted a banquet to entertain the female guests and congratulations to friends and relatives, towns and banquets more in the hotel. 90's, the government advocated the change of customs, the organization of collective weddings, both lively and thrifty, and there are young men and women who choose to travel to get married.

The phenomenon of excessive wedding dowry is more common in rural areas, the towns to transport the bride, wedding banquets to talk about the trend has also spread.

Second, fertility

Since the 1980s, the state has advocated family planning, which has since been designated as a national policy, and has had a greater impact on fertility practices. Most people of childbearing age have delayed and the number of births has been greatly reduced. After years of infertility after marriage, no longer use superstitious ways to seek children, couples to the hospital for examination, timely treatment of diseases. After pregnancy, they often go to the hospital for checkups and generally go to the hospital for delivery. Three days after the birth of a baby, the mother's family brings nutritious food and baby clothes to visit. Because most of the only child, the name is particularly careful, pay attention to the fresh and chic, far-reaching meaning, smooth and catchy, rural name must also reflect the generation of the word into account. Most of the family is involved in naming, and often come up with several names, choose the best and use. Breastfeeding name is mostly stacked words, the name of two words more and more. On the twelfth day of the baby's life, commonly known as the "twelfth zhou", friends and relatives brought gifts to congratulate the baby, giving the baby "round ears". Born 1 month, commonly known as "full moon", the mother's family to pick up the mother and child to live for a period of time, to the baby "hinged head". 90's, the towns and cities are fashionable to use the baby's lanugo to make a brush, as a permanent souvenir. To the 100th day, for the baby hanging long life locks, wearing a "hundred clothes", take a picture to commemorate. On the day of the baby's first birthday, friends and relatives came to congratulate the baby, and the host held a family banquet to entertain the baby. In the countryside, if the boy, the anniversary is particularly grand. In the past, the popularity of the "week" custom, now gradually abolished.

Three, title

80s, the family and relatives with the former title is basically the same, written titles such as father, your father, your father, brother, brother, such as the use of less and less, only on some special occasions, most of the use of verbal title.

Social appellation changes. 70's, members of the community called each other comrades. 80's, only in the meeting or official activities, comrades, general occasions called master, if the acquaintance or colleague more than the family name, according to the age of the family name before the crown to "old" or "little". ". Rural neighbors to generation, age as the basis for the title. 90's, the towns of men called Mr., women called Mrs., Mrs., Ms., Ms., Miss and so on. In the industrial and commercial sector, it is popular to call "boss" (business owner) and "boss" (company manager). Civil servants are mostly referred to as positions, such as the other side for the deputy, the "deputy" word removed. Professional and technical personnel to professional title, such as a professor, a doctor, a worker (engineer).

Four, birthday

The birthday for the elderly is a traditional custom of respect for the elderly. 80's, generally more than 60 years old people began to do life. On the day of the birthday, children, relatives and friends with cakes, meat, wine, tea and other favorite gifts for the elderly to celebrate the birthday. The family organized a sumptuous banquet, the old man dressed up in the first seat, the whole family one by one toast, wish the old man a long and healthy life. 90s, many families to the hotel for the old man to celebrate his birthday, some to the TV station, the radio station to order a song or pack a movie for the old man to celebrate his birthday. It is the day, because the sons and daughters gathered, most of the family photo portrait.

90s, under 60 years of age, young people also began to birthday; only child for the center of the family's attention, every birthday must be, and grand, has lost the original significance of birthday customs.

V. Funeral

Since the 80's, some of the rituals of traditional funeral customs have become popular again in the countryside. When the old man's life is in danger, the children will give the old man a change of clothes, no matter in winter or summer, are wearing cotton clothes. Where immediate family members are guarding the side, listening to the will, watching the old man pass away. The old man breathed his last, the younger generation immediately to the courtyard facing the southwest, "called the soul", intended to call back the soul of the deceased, but also obituaries of the clan, the neighbors. Then put the dead on the bed, food, incense, light lamps. The younger generation wears mourning clothes and white paper is put on the door. Preside over the funeral of the patriarch or village cadres assigned to the deceased's relatives and friends, written obituaries and verbal funeral in two forms, the main content of the name of the deceased and the time of death, coffin, funeral.

Early 80's, rural areas, the implementation of burial, the dead must be put into the coffin, called the coffin. At this time, relatives must be present to say goodbye to the body. If the deceased is a woman, must be the presence of the mother's family. After the coffin, the coffin parked in the hearth, the younger generation according to men and women on both sides of the acceptance of friends and relatives mourning. The mourners first cry and then kneel, the next of kin must also pay the ceremony. The period of suspension ranges from 3 to 5 days.

The night before the funeral, the funeral home for the deceased held a ceremony, commonly known as "send the tray", the location selected at the intersection or open space. Deacons pre-set the table, set incense burner candlestick, prepared dishes and wine, the younger generation and friends and relatives of the deceased soul streamer one by one to kowtow to send off. After the ceremony, burning paper car, horse, sedan chair, money tree, etc., the children cried and ran to the fire to show that the dead to stay. Funeral, also known as burial, the eldest son holding a streamer, the other younger generation to carry the staff of mourning, with the coffin to the cemetery. After the coffin has been placed in the hole, the younger generation sprinkles soil on the lid of the coffin to show that they are burying the deceased. Then the neighbors pile up the soil to form the grave. On the third day, the children fill in the earth to "round the grave" and burn paper to mourn. Every seven days since the date of the death of their loved ones to the grave to pay tribute, "seven seven" until.

The deceased whose parents were alive did not follow the above etiquette.

In the mid-to-late 1980s, cremation became commonplace in the country, and the government advocated for a change in customs and traditions, which led to a gradual streamlining of the etiquette. In the 1990s, it was fashionable to erect monuments or plant trees to commemorate the dead.

The townspeople funeral more simple, after the death of the body held in the funeral parlor farewell ceremony, relatives, friends and colleagues to pay tribute to the deceased. After that, it is sent to the crematorium for cremation and the urn is sent to the Memorial Hall for storage.

Sixth, ancestor worship

Since the 80s, the old style of ancestor worship in rural areas again. Ancestor worship by sweeping graves, family worship two ways. Tomb-sweeping, also known as grave-sweeping, has a fixed date. Tomb-sweeping is the most common in Qingming, and in addition to offering sacrifices, it is also necessary to add soil to the graves to prevent the summer rain from washing them away. Tomb-sweeping on the 15th day of the 7th month and the 1st day of the 10th month of the lunar calendar is mostly done by women, and generally only on the "new graves" (i.e., the graves of grandparents and parents who have died recently). Tomb-sweeping on the Spring Festival is the most solemn event, with all male members of the clan going to the tombs to pay homage to their ancestors, beating drums and playing music, and setting off firecrackers. Family worship, that is, set up a hall at home to worship ancestors. Generally, in the early morning of the 30th day of the New Year (small into the 29th), parents rate their children and nephews to the village to invite their ancestors home for the New Year. In the hall set up tables, hanging "family hall", display genealogy, lighting incense and candles, put tribute. On New Year's Eve, family members kowtow to their ancestors, burn incense and paper, and set off firecrackers. On the second day of the lunar month, the ancestors are sent home. There are also sacrifices on the Mid-Autumn Festival and the Day of the Ancestor's Sacrifice.

Seven, etiquette

80s, people interact with etiquette popular handshake, arching, nodding. Spring Festival to the elders, worship ancestors, condolences and other special occasions, the rural areas have a kneeling ceremony. Gifts or banquets between friends and relatives, must be returned at the appropriate time. When you meet for the first time, introduce yourself first, or present a business card. When you meet again after a long time, shake hands and greet each other. When parting, wave your hands in greeting. At banquets, guests are first invited to take their seats, and are offered wine and food; after the banquet is over, guests are first to go and are sent to the door. In the car, shopping, medical care and other occasions, the old, young, ladies first. 90's, the government at all levels to grasp the spiritual civilization construction, to comply with the etiquette, politeness, civilized speech and behavior has become fashionable.