How to write parent-child homework

Cartographer Wang Chenxiang

The children's manual work, at first glance, is the parents' handwriting

The manual work completed by Ms. Yang's lover and children * * *

Next to a tree made of leaves, there are pictures of children running and playing, as well as flying snow all over the sky. Recently, Ms. Yang, a citizen of Taiyuan, took a picture in a circle of friends, with the words "Look at the works of Wa Da, like one." In fact, this is a manual assignment arranged by Ms. Yang's children's kindergarten.

On a white paper tray, all kinds of flowers were painted with blue strokes, and the strokes were a little immature. This is a picture of another child's parents, Ms. Pang, in a circle of friends. She also said: It's a real fight. It turned out that "the child drew a cloisonne plate by himself, which I thought was quite good. I didn't expect to be criticized by the teacher and said it was not very good."

Making lanterns, making books, making scales, and painting leaves ... Nowadays, parent-child homework in kindergartens is becoming more and more common, and many "new parents" can't adapt to it at once, either dragging their feet or racking their brains for fear of not doing it well for their children. Some "old parents" spit out manual homework for parents. Some people say that they have a sense of accomplishment after finishing it. Others joke that after their children graduate from kindergarten, their painting level and manual ability will be greatly improved.

what homework is assigned to the kindergarten? How to do parent-child homework? Will the child's psychology be affected during the process of spelling homework? In the past few days, the reporter has conducted an interview on this.

It's not nice for children to draw their own dishes, which is criticized by teachers tactfully.

Many kindergartens will decorate them with white paper plates. Ms. Pang told reporters that her children's kindergarten has a theme class of drawing plates, and plates will be distributed every week or two for children to take home. Her painting level is average, and the child has already entered a large class. She thinks that the child should be allowed to draw by himself. Unexpectedly, after the child's homework was handed in to the kindergarten, the teacher praised other children and said that her children's paintings were not very good.

The reporter looked at some pictures sent by Ms. Pang. Some white plates, or blue deer turning back, or butterflies flying with wings, or swimming fish, looked as amazing as printed, and it was obvious that they were not painted by children, but were entirely "OEM" by parents. Ms. Pang said that this is what other parents basked in the circle of friends. Compared with their own baby paintings, it can be described as falling from the sky. Why are their children's paintings criticized? "The teacher said that these plates should be displayed on the wall, so they should be beautiful."

But in Ms. Pang's view, since it is a child's work, it should not be entirely done by parents, even if parents are assisting, children should be involved. However, what makes Ms. Pang more acceptable is that the teacher will not directly criticize the child, "it is directly told to the parents."

Not all kindergartens have high demands on children's works. A parent showed the reporter the pictures he took in the kindergarten: there were display stands of dishes drawn by children in the corridor. It can be seen that most of these dishes were drawn by children, and some of them looked like parents drew rough pictures, and then the children painted them.

Parents who work with their children will also feel a sense of accomplishment

Since kindergarten, Ms. Li's children have been asked to make books every year, each time on a different theme. "One is about happy growth, and the other is about all seasons." Ms. Li said that when a child has just entered a small class, she will do what books, so most of the work is done by her, and the child can only do some auxiliary work. As the child grows up, the part she does will increase.

how are books made? Ms. Li said that after the theme is set, it is to stick colored paper on cardboard and let the children draw or paste pictures on it. She helps to match words, poems, etc. It takes about two days to make a book, and children will participate in the whole process. "It is neither the best nor the worst." Ms. Li said that after the book was taken to the kindergarten, the teacher would evaluate it and the child had won a certificate. "There are some good ones in the kindergarten." Ms. Li's lover chimed in, wondering if those parents studied art, but they made their own books, just like the picture books they bought. Therefore, parents help their children to do it, on the one hand, they have an interaction with their children; On the other hand, I also hope that what children do doesn't look too bad, so as to avoid that children will feel inferior to others when they go to kindergarten.

Cut mountains, trees, people, houses, etc. with colored paper, and knead plasticine into various shapes and put it on the tray ... Every time the kindergarten arranges manual work, it will try to do it together with the children. Ms. Li said that the children are happy in this process, and she is also very happy, and she has a special sense of accomplishment after completion.

The reporter interviewed more than a dozen parents at random, and more than half of them finished the manual work with their children, but most of them did some simple parts, such as gluing water on the paper, sticking some scraps of paper for decoration and coloring. For example, Ms. Yang, who is drying her works in a circle of friends, has also done a part of it, but in her subconscious, the work was completed by her father.

Hand-made homework is endless. Working mothers complain that they are completely arranged.

Painting with leaves, making stilts with cans, making tabloids, making pumpkin lanterns, making toys with beverage bottles, making frisbees ... Ms. Cheng is the mother of a 5-year-old child. When she mentions the hand-made homework assigned by her children in kindergarten, she can't help but vomit. She lists a series of hand-made homework assigned by kindergarten in the past two years. Moreover, this is only the part she can remember. Once the kindergarten asked parents for advice, she suggested that parents should be less involved.

"Who did your children's manual homework?" When the reporter throws this question. Ms. Cheng suddenly got excited. "How can a child do it? I did it all the time. It's hard for him to do it!" Ms. Cheng and her lover are both office workers. Her lover often goes out early in the morning and goes home at 11 o'clock in the evening, so she is entirely responsible for the work with her children. Unexpectedly, there are a lot of manual work in kindergartens, but whenever there is a festival, children will be assigned tasks.

children are not allowed to do it. First, because children are naughty, they are basically making trouble. It could have been completed in two or three hours. If you do it with children, it may not be completed in one day. Another reason is that it is also dangerous to do manual work. "To make stilts with cans is to make a hole in the cans, tie a rubber belt and let the children tie their feet up and walk. I can't even get that cut open. Another time, I was asked to use a beverage bottle as a toy, and I broke my hand. I have a hard time doing this, let alone children. " Ms. Cheng said that when she heard that her child had homework, she had a headache and often couldn't sleep at eleven or twelve at night.

Mr. Li's children don't do much manual work in the kindergarten. What impressed him was that they made lanterns on the fifteenth day of the first month. "In the first year, her mother and I made one out of a cardboard box. In the second year, we went back to our hometown. There was a special lantern in the village, so people made one and brought it to Taiyuan." Mr. Li said that the children did not intervene in these two times. "Where can she do it? At most, she is watching."

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Mr. Liu: My friend's children's homework is to design clothes for dolls. Children can't do needlework, and besides, they can't design clothes.

Ms. Yang: In addition to painting with leaves, our children's kindergarten also has homework for parents, writing parenting experiences and writing comments on children's handmade books. The child has just been in kindergarten for less than 3 months, and I have written more than 2, words.

User Tea: Not long after the children started kindergarten, the teacher said that parents should make patterns of vegetables and let the children take them to school to make vegetable paintings. From the beginning, I looked at the pictures sent by the teacher and made a few simple ones. Later, I saw other parents carve them beautifully. It was almost 1 o'clock in the evening. I went to the supermarket to buy carrots and carved them again. It was not finished until two in the morning. After all, it is the first time to do it, and it is not practical if it is not done well, for fear that the child will be wronged.

Ms. Wu: When the children were in large classes, they were asked to make scales out of waste bottles. Basically, I made them, and the children decorated them a little.

Ms. Sun: Kindergartens let self-made books. Originally, I bought colored paper and drew it myself, but I saw the works of other parents in my circle of friends. I felt that I was doing relatively LOW, so I quickly bought materials and made them again.

Zhao Nvshi: I usually do my homework well. On the 15th day of the first month, I often let people make lanterns. Some lanterns made this year will be used by others next year.

The kindergarten director said that parents should guide and demonstrate, but it is not advisable to do everything.

Some parents feel that they have been badly abused by homework, some parents have fun from it, and some parents are worried that their children will be affected by poor work. Then, as a kindergarten, why should we arrange these homework? The teacher commented that the child was not doing well, right? The reporter interviewed Guo Wansheng, director of Shanxi Kangle Kindergarten. "The purpose of assigning homework is to promote the healthy development of children and also to guide parents on how to train their children." Guo Wansheng said that the kindergarten homework that parents said is actually some small parent-child tasks extended from the kindergarten curriculum. In the process of doing homework, parents should play the role of guidance, advice and demonstration. So, first, you can't do homework instead of children. If parents do it all, they will cancel the way for children to grow up through these interactions. Second, parents can't order their children, and they can't ask them to do what they want, otherwise it will hurt their interest in independent development. After all, kindergarten children are not old enough to learn technology. What parents should do is to promote the diversified development of children through guidance and demonstration. In view of the situation that children's dishes were criticized by teachers, Guo Wansheng said that in real life, some teachers do have problems with their concepts. For children's works, first, you can't make a horizontal comparison, that is, compare one child's homework with other children's homework and make an evaluation; Second, children's works are not good or bad. Teachers should make multiple evaluations according to the children's own situation. They can't evaluate whether the paintings are like or not. They may be creative. They may be creative in this respect or have ideas in that respect. Every child has many possibilities, and it is difficult to measure them with a ruler. Third, parents can't be guided to do it for them, which will completely fail to play the role of assigning homework.

Psychologists say that these behaviors may affect children's mental health

How to do parent-child homework in kindergarten is not only related to how children and parents "explain" to teachers, but also related to children's mental health growth. The reporter interviewed Rebecca, a national second-class psychological consultant and associate professor of psychology, about the possible problems in the process of children's homework.

● "Did the teacher praise your leaf painting?" "Other children do well? Is it as good as yours? " Many parents in life like to ask their children such questions. What's wrong with this?

Rebecca: Actually, children themselves have no concept of competition and comparison. When parents ask their children this way, they will draw a line between right and wrong, good and bad, intentionally or unintentionally, which will lead them to form a dichotomy thinking and simply evaluate the world with right and wrong, good and bad.

● If the teacher directly criticizes the child's poor homework, what impact will it have on the child?

Rebecca: Kindergarten children need sensory training. As long as children do and participate, they will make progress in their growth. As a teacher, affirming their participation will guide children to establish a healthy attitude towards life; If we deliberately evaluate the quality of children's works, it is easy to mislead children, which will lead to parents doing their homework next time, and the works done by parents will definitely be better than other children. If we keep up with the competition, homework will become parents' homework and parents' burden.

● Parents will arrange their children's homework, which will not only cancel their children's development in this area, but also affect their psychological growth?

Rebecca: If parents do everything, children may feel better at the moment, but it is easy for children to ignore doing things in a down-to-earth way, and children will pursue vanity. At the same time, it will bury hidden dangers for children's growth, and it will not train children's independent ability, learning ability and interpersonal communication ability.