Why do parents want to take their children away from the "national studies class"

When she was in the middle class of kindergarten, the school taught her to read The Amethyst and Disciples Rules. Although I've always heard people say that Disciples Rules is cultural rubbish, I don't particularly mind it. Anyway, children don't know anything, just exercise their memory.

To my surprise, Wa quickly recited thousands of words together with the Three Character Classics and Disciples Rules, and even the kindergarten teachers praised him for his strong memory.

Adults often push their luck, so I'll ask him to recite some pipa and Mulan words when I'm free. Aren't there many masters who recall their childhood, mention the poems they read later, and always say that blind back is actually very valuable? Besides, Eva is not exclusive to this. With a child's heart, she can recite it fluently soon.

One day, a friend passed by my city. He is engaged in education. I mentioned the ancient poetry of Wa Bei with great pomp. He seriously suggested that your son has this talent and can go to Bible reading class. You have one here, and it's well done.

According to his instructions, I went to the Bible reading class to observe it. In a small classroom, a group of children are studying and reciting. One of them is a little boy, about three or four years old, with a round head, big eyes and clean and fair skin. Like a little Tang Priest, he can recite "University" in one breath, but now he is cultivating a future scholar. His family and other parents said that they often take him to meditate and cultivate his self-cultivation.

I suddenly felt a sense of urgency and rushed the baby in. I was encouraged to learn from him when he could recite a "University" from beginning to end soon. I think, in a few years, my baby should be able to recite all those classics. This kind of reserve is also one step ahead of peers.

I am not alone. While the dolls are reciting in the classroom, adults are chatting outside. Most of them have been here longer than us, and some of them still walk through the city rain or shine. They also feel that the competition is too fierce now, so they should lay a good foundation while their children are still free.

Only the father of "Little Tang Priest" is more radical. He thinks exam-oriented education is a mess. He is considering giving up the college entrance examination in the future. He heard that there is a good Chinese studies class somewhere, boarding, and her husband takes his children to learn Chinese studies, English, martial arts and Qigong. He praised this gentleman, saying that he is a dragon and a phoenix among people, far from being comparable to ordinary primary and secondary school teachers: "Since you can learn classics from such people, why waste time in the system of exam-oriented education?" He looks very angry, and his anger makes me very alert.

I also know that exam-oriented education has many disadvantages, but it is a system, subject to multiple supervision and a lot of discussion and trial and error. It may kill some of children's talents and make them mediocre, but it is safer than betting on the knowledge and morality of a "gentleman" According to my limited experience, people who are rendered fantastic are not necessarily good educators. Education is long-term and meticulous, and it is no exaggeration to test people's sense of balance and patience.

I didn't stick to it in the Bible reading class, but I didn't find any problems. A few months later, the baby caught a bad cold, the classroom in the Bible reading class was not ventilated, and the doors and windows were closed during class. Health is undoubtedly more important. I explained to the teacher why I would never take my baby with me again.

A few years later, I had the opportunity to interview a famous advocate of Chinese studies. Speaking of my child, he said, then why didn't she go to Bible class later? When I talked about his illness, he said slowly, "well, your child doesn't have this blessing." His dissatisfaction cannot be expressed in words. I'm a little surprised. If learning can't make a person more tolerant and calm, what's the point of having knowledge? Later, I met some "China School" people who were as proud and irritable as he was, even though I wanted to be kind at first.

With the release of some reports about Chinese studies, I gradually understand why. In the impression of many people, they are retro, but the fact is that they are rebellious. They disdain to associate with mediocrity and don't want to go with the flow. They think they have the ability to find another way, and "Chinese studies" is the only way out for these people of insight. These reasons seem reasonable, but proper limit is hard to grasp. If you are not careful, you will go too far and become an idea and a kind of self-hypnosis with pyramid schemes.

Self hypnosis is dangerous. In Zhang Ailing's novel Lust, Caution, Wang Jiazhi knew nothing about the revolution, but when her classmate wanted to carry out a "honey trap" assassination and needed her to be a "beauty", she was unconsciously infected with that excitement and regarded herself as a heroine. When she approached the traitor who needed to be assassinated and was about to succeed, she was suddenly infected by the atmosphere at the scene, thinking that the traitor had true love for herself, turned the enemy into a friend and set the traitor free. As a result, as soon as the traitors returned to a safe place, they ordered "blockade of the area, netting and shooting before ten o'clock at night."

In this novel, what I saw was not love, but a kind of psychedelic produced by self-hypnosis. I thought I was close to some greatness, but I was finally betrayed by this imaginary "greatness". It is also applicable to many educational methods that are taken for granted, not only boarding "Chinese studies classes", but also not letting children go to school and letting them stay at home for self-study. The surging passion for self-confidence and yearning for freedom are enough to overcome the fear of leaving the existing track, treat themselves and their children as soldiers and think that the dawn of victory belongs to them.

Personalized education has too much wishful thinking, lacks comparison and reference, and problems are considered as characteristics, and there is almost no error correction mechanism. If artists do experiments, problems can sometimes be equated with characteristics, but education is not. In education, it is more important to endure and deal with tedious things than anger and passion.

No, no, I don't mean to submit to the examination-oriented education system. It's not enough just to have fantasies in education. I hardly watch TV series, and I have been following the recent hit TV series "Little Separation". As a TV series with the theme of "parenting", it is rare for a screenwriter not to take sides. It criticizes parents' "ambitious" behavior, but it also has a lot of recognition; For adolescent children, there is appreciation, but it also points out its problems. The 30 episodes that have been broadcast now show the process of parents and children looking for a way out together in today's educational environment.

The process of watching this TV series sometimes really makes people feel collapsed, very unhappy, all kinds of collisions and entanglements, love and hate, and many problems are almost unsolvable. When Christina roared, "Of course I know it's useless, but I'm sorry, it tests these things, it tests these useless things"; When Zifeng Zhang cried, "I am a scoring machine!" It's hopeless Born to be human, why compromise like this? Why can't we turn around and go the other way?

But, God bless, the Christina couple and the children in the play are not angry, patting their heads and looking for a brighter road. Although everyone says it's good to go abroad, they care about their families, their time with their children, their endurance and their living conditions after leaving their hometown, so that children can make their own choices after considering various situations.

The stumbling growth of parents and children may not seem so cool, but the running-in process has made me learn more from and think about this pragmatic audience.

Many years ago, a passage written by Li Fang left a deep impression on me. He said: "freedom is not always as slippery and melodramatic as' there are no traces of wings in the sky, but I flew over';" Many times, it is easier to be in a state of listlessness and panting. " What puzzles me about Chinese studies and family education is that it is too "light" and simplifies education. However, children's hearts are like glass lamps with complicated structures, and the process of accompanying them to grow up is like walking across a wooden bridge with a glass lamp, which is not as easy as some parenting experts say.

Romain rolland said: "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after seeing the truth of life clearly." What is lacking in Chinese studies and family education is probably that in the process of taking it for granted, the link of "seeing the truth clearly" has been cancelled.

It's just that the truth doesn't disappear when you avoid your face. If it is not here, it may appear at that time. In the news report, the disappointment of those students in the "Chinese studies class" is that they finally met the truth face to face, but it was too late and more efforts were needed to remedy it. Parents, can you be careless ~