The Changes of Contemporary Young People's Views on Marriage. What are young people worried about in the face of marriage?

In recent years, more and more young people are wandering outside the marriage hall, and the delay of marriage age and the low willingness of young people to marry and love have become the hidden worries of the whole society. Come and have a look with me at this article "What Young People are Worried about in the Face of Marriage".

Marriage is the bond of family, and family is the cell of society. The harmony of marriage and family is related to people's livelihood happiness and social stability. ? Generation z? (refers to 1995? The generation born in 2009, also known as? Internet generation? ) Young people are the main force of marriage in the future 10, and their willingness to marry and love deserves attention. In view of this, the research group of Socialism with Chinese characteristics Theoretical System Research Center of the Central Committee of the Communist Youth League conducted an in-depth investigation on 2,905 unmarried urban youths aged18-26, focusing on their views on marriage and what hidden worries are behind their willingness to marry, and put forward countermeasures and suggestions on how to help them correctly understand and treat marriage and love issues.

Mid-Autumn Festival and National Day, two festivals in succession, 26-year-old Xiao Gu was urged to get married by her mother. Why not fall in love? When people your age are in love and married, children will play soy sauce. You are not too slow. Don't be picky, you can only pick the rest of others in the end. ? Xiao Gu's good mood for the holidays plummeted and he quarreled with his mother. Do you have to make me sound so miserable? Many people around me, like me, are not in love. When I want to fall in love and get married is my freedom, so don't rush me! ?

This kind of urging marriage is staged in many families and has become a major theme of the conflict between the two generations. This also reflects that with the changes of the times, young people's attitudes towards marriage and love have changed greatly. Born in 1995? Youth in 2009, as? Internet generation? What is their view on marriage and love? What are they worried about in the face of marriage?

1, the willingness to love has become a major feature of young people's views on marriage and love.

? My parents are more anxious to get married than I am and have been urging me to move out. ?

? I have not fully enjoyed my single life. I want to get my work done first, then buy my own house and talk about it after I get married. ?

? I don't want to settle down, but it's hard to find the right person to marry. ?

? I have never seriously talked about an object, and film and television dramas and social media have a great influence on my concept of mate selection. ?

Marriage is a major event in life. Men should get married and women should get married? It is the traditional marriage values of our country. In recent years, more and more young people are wandering outside the marriage hall, and the delay of marriage age and the low willingness of young people to fall in love and get married (they don't want to fall in love/get married, and they are not sure whether they will fall in love/get married) have become the hidden worries of the whole society.

Under investigation, right? Will you fall in love in the future? Question, 12.8% of young people choose? Not in love? 26.3% of the respondents expressed uncertainty. For what? Will you get married in the future? , 25. 1% Youth Choice? Not sure? 8.9% of young people choose? Will not get married? That is, 34% of young people no longer take marriage for granted. In addition, nearly 30% of the young people interviewed have never been in love.

The survey found that as the main force of marriage in the future 10, generation z? Young people's willingness to get married is on the decline. According to the world marriage data released by the United Nations Population Division, by 2030, the proportion of people aged 20-29 who are married in China will be 69.2%, which will be 8 percentage points lower than that in 20 13.

Further analysis shows that women's willingness to get married is significantly lower than that of men. The woman said? Not getting married? And then what? I'm not sure I'll get married. 43.92%, more than men 19.29%. Women are more hesitant about marriage. However, in the investigation of love attitude, this gender difference was not found. This shows that women are more cautious about marriage.

Youth choice in economically developed areas? Will not get married? 14.4%, 7.7 percentage points higher than that of young people in small cities. This shows that the more developed the economy, the more people choose to be single. According to a statistical data, the provinces with the lowest marriage rate in China are economically developed Shanghai and Zhejiang provinces. With the improvement of economic development, the number of young people with low willingness to marry and love may continue to increase.

2. Young people who are willing to get married and fall in love, what are they thinking?

Trapped by real obstacles? Worried about getting married? . An interviewed youth said:? In big cities, there are only two kinds of young people, those with houses and those without houses. How can a person without a house have a good love? ? This self-mockery represents part of it? Worried about getting married? Psychology. These young people are worried and helpless because of the high cost of marriage and childbirth in reality, and their willingness to enter marriage is virtually suppressed. People in China have been pursuing to live and work in peace and contentment, and the wedding room has become the standard for marriage in some people's eyes. The pressure of real estate has become a major obstacle for young people to choose marriage. A survey of Beijing youth by China Youth Research Association shows that among unmarried young people who are in love, the proportion of both parties without real estate is 64.62%. This survey shows that what do young people choose among the reasons that affect their willingness to get married? Jiehunjingji is too expensive? 46%. In addition, choose? Is it too expensive to have children? Among them, 56.2% are married, ranking second. Many young people are deterred from marriage by worries about the cost of childbirth and support. ? Get married? To consider bride price, banquet, house, car and children, these eight words stumped me. ? Did netizens joke about this? Worried about getting married? Worried.

Label marriage? Fear of marriage? . Netizen Zhou Xiao said? My parents asked me why I didn't want to fall in love and get married. I said I was scared. Afraid that love will break up, that marriage will fail, that having children will be painful, that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to handle, and that it is too tiring to educate children, represented by Zhou Xiao? Fear of marriage? There are many negative perceptions and expectations about marriage, full of fear and anxiety. They? Talk about marriage. Marriage turns pale? Some people don't even have the courage to fall in love The survey shows that what do young people choose among the reasons that affect their willingness to get married? Do not believe in marriage? 30.5%, of which 73.4% are women. Fear of marriage? There are more volunteers than men. Some of these young people's negative cognition of marriage comes from their own bad marriage experience or their parents' relatives and friends, and some comes from the mass media's reports on the malignant events of marriage. For example, an interviewee said: I can't imagine being like my parents after marriage? Noisy, hate each other for life? ? Others said:? Look at how many cases of wife-killing and insurance fraud and how many cases of divorce and murder exist on the Internet. How dare you get married after watching too much news? ?

Adhere to marriage Buddhism? Attitude? Lazy marriage? . There are also a group of young people who are not exclusive to love and marriage, but they are not looking for it? The other half makes special efforts, but takes a carefree attitude. Xiao Li said: I won't go on a blind date to get married. Maybe I will meet the right person in the future and walk into the marriage hall together, but if I can't find it, I can live alone. ? High-pressure work and study and fast-paced lifestyle consume a lot of energy of young people, who have no time and patience to devote themselves to love and marriage. In the survey, choose? Think you have no time or energy to get married? 34.5%. In addition, what do young people choose among the factors that affect their willingness to get married? It's hard to find the right person? 60.8%, ranking first. Without time, the probability of success is not high Many young people choose? Buddhism? Attitude towards marriage. There are also some young people who are immersed in the protection of their families, and the ease of their existing lives stifles their motivation to pursue a happy marriage. The netizen silently said,? Growing up, I have been living under the care of my parents and my brother. I think it is good to stay at home. They advised me to go out to participate in activities and take the initiative to meet some members of the opposite sex. I was too lazy to go. ?

Have no illusions about marriage? Unmarried family . The rapid advancement of modernization and urbanization has enhanced the subjectivity and independence of young individuals. The vigorous development of the Internet has enhanced young people's right to speak in social life. Their attitudes towards marriage and love have changed, and many people no longer take them seriously. Get married and have children? Because life goes through a process. Some young people yearn for a free and unrestrained life and think that an interesting single life is better than marriage. These? Unmarried family Take being single as a way of life, and devote more time and energy to personal career development and hobbies. In the survey, when asked? Don't want to fall in love? What are the reasons for choosing? It's nice to be alone, but falling in love is troublesome? The proportion is 74.8%. ? I don't want someone to affect my mood, and I don't want to deal with another person's mood when I am busy and tired. ? Having a house under your name and money in your pocket is the real sense of security. Marriage is not a necessary option, let alone a source of security. ? What do these remarks show? Unmarried family The voice.

What makes young people linger in front of the marriage hall?

Based on individualistic values, some young people attach too much importance to the pursuit of personal values. The biggest manifestation of individualism is expectation? Live for yourself? . ? Generation z? Young people are deeply influenced by individualism. They pay attention to their emotional cognition, psychological experience, spiritual needs and value realization. They not only have distinct personalities, but also have prominent self-awareness and are more independent. Under the guidance of individualistic values, these young people have a stronger sense of independence in marriage and love, and pay attention to self-feeling and independent choice. If marriage can not improve their quality of life, or affect the realization of personal self-worth, they are unwilling to accept and choose marriage.

Based on the fragmented cognition of the Internet, some young people have disastrous thoughts on marriage and love. The quantification and fragmentation of Internet information leads to the weakening of deep thinking ability and the decline of information discrimination ability, which is easy to form perceptual deviation and stereotype. With the development and popularization of the Internet? Generation z? Young people's cognition of love and marriage largely comes from the internet. Once their fragmented and unsystematic understanding and thinking about love and marriage, coupled with negative experiences in life and negative reports from mass media, will form irrational and disastrous thinking about love and marriage, and then appear? Fear of marriage? Phenomenon.

Due to the squeeze of time and space in modern life, some young people feel powerless to find a suitable partner. In today's society with increasingly fierce competition and increasing work pressure, high-intensity work constantly squeezes the personal life of young people, leading to tension between work and mate selection. ? White and black? 996? 007? It has become the normal work and life of some young people, often sighing? Are you tired? I just want to lie quietly after work. In addition, the interpersonal circle is small, the network meets most of the communication needs, the actual social needs are reduced, the information about marriage and love is asymmetric, and the credibility of the commercial marriage and love service platform is insufficient, which increases the difficulty of finding a desirable partner and prolongs the search time. Multiple objective factors lead to some young people's low willingness to get married and forced to choose single.

Based on what? Shortage is better than abuse? Some young people have high expectations for marriage matching. Is it difficult for young people to choose a spouse or match? Not sure? In addition to the above objective reasons, the primary reason for whether to get married is the internal subjective factor of young people's low willingness to marry and love. Many young people hold an idealistic attitude towards mate selection. When there is a gap between expectations and reality, they will sigh: It is too difficult to find the right one! ? Did they both pay attention? Is it appropriate? Still paying attention? Internal match? ; It needs both the material foundation and the combination of the three views; Two requirements? Beautiful woman? Looking forward to it again? Interesting idea? . This kind? Shortage is better than abuse? Their concept of mate selection makes their expectations of their partners too idealistic, which may lead them to miss the best period of love and marriage.

Due to the high cost of marriage and childbearing, some young people take a rational evasive attitude towards marriage risks. With the improvement of social consumption level, we pay more attention to children. Can't we afford to love them? Can't afford it? Can't afford it? Has become ubiquitous. Generation z? Three mountains in youth life. One about? Valentine's day? According to the survey, there is 10.77%? After 95? Is there anything to borrow for consumption? Lover robbery? . Marriage customs such as sky-high wedding rooms, sky-high bride price and extravagant weddings cost young people hundreds of thousands to millions of yuan. Parents bring up their children in every possible way, and the pressure brought by the high investment in educating their children makes young people feel like it? Dare not give birth? There is a fear of education. ? Generation z? Young people's attitude towards marriage is rational and pragmatic, right? Cost? Income? Choice has become an important factor in marriage decision-making. If you think the cost of getting married is higher than the benefit, in order to avoid what you may face after marriage? Unhappy marriage? Getting married will bring a lot of trouble? The children raised have no talent? Waiting for risks, reducing and restraining their willingness to marry and love has become their choice.

Based on what? Maternal punishment? Some women have resistance and hesitation about marriage. With the process of urbanization and marketization, women are also facing fierce competition in the workplace. However, the family-oriented parenting model and the imperfect social public service system make women have to face up to the reasons. Maternal culture? And professional discrimination? Maternal punishment? . ? Maternal punishment? That is, women's role as mothers has a negative impact on job hunting, job evaluation, salary and promotion opportunities. The survey found that the primary reason why women don't want to get married is? Don't want to have children? (68.83%), the hesitation of childbearing has become an objective obstacle for women not to get married. In addition, with the continuous manifestation of subjectivity, many young women gradually break through the barriers of traditional gender culture and redefine the significance of gender roles in the times to express their appreciation of traditional gender roles by staying single. Mother role? Resist.

4. How to make young people? Can you love? Want to get married? Dare to get married?

Improve personal marriage and love accomplishment, make? Not in love? People? Can you love? . For what? Lazy marriage? Generally speaking, we should be both economically independent and psychologically true? Weaning? Walking out of the comfort zone can make psychological space for seeking intimacy, thus activating the motivation to enter love and marriage. At the same time, actively explore interpersonal circles, enrich spare time, and actively learn the skills of communication with the opposite sex. For what? Fear of marriage? Generally speaking, we should treat the direct or indirect negative experience of marriage and love rationally, analyze the specific problems, sum up the failed experience and change our attitude towards marriage. Terrible? Think about cognition and eliminate fear. For what? Worried about getting married? Generally speaking, we should set reasonable standards for self-expectation and mate selection, do not follow the trend, do not compare with others, settle down, be based on reality, and attach importance to the value of marriage to the spiritual nourishment of both parties, such as attaching importance to the fit of values, interests and personalities of both parties and bravely pursuing their own beautiful love.

Based on the system of marriage and love education, let? Fear of marriage? what's up Not afraid? . Establish a trinity of school, family and community education system for young people's love and marriage. First, it is suggested that the education department organize experts in love and marriage to design courses, incorporate love and marriage education into the ideological and political education system, and offer related courses in junior high schools, senior high schools and universities from three aspects: values, knowledge and ability. Colleges and universities should combine classroom teaching with extracurricular activities, online and offline, so that teenagers can form values that attach importance to marriage and family; Popularize the knowledge of gender relations, dispel the fragmented cognition of the internet with systematic education, and correct the irrational concept and disastrous thinking about marriage and childbirth. Second, families should play an active role in the emotional harbor, advocate excellent family education methods of harmony between husband and wife, equality between men and women and emotional harmony, enhance teenagers' positive experience of marriage and love, and stimulate their yearning for emotional experiences such as love and marriage. Thirdly, it is suggested that the community should unite with professional social organizations and marriage experts to set up youth marriage classes, marriage counseling and other activities to improve the accessibility of marriage education and enhance the emotional management ability of young people.

Build? Marriage is friendly? Environment, let? Want to get married? what's up Can you tie a knot? . First, the Propaganda Department organizes propaganda media, literary and art societies and cultural companies. Create positive cultural products of marriage and love families, organize selection activities for the most beautiful families and couples, visualize the pictures of beautiful love and happy families, and arouse the positive emotional experience of teenagers based on marriage and family happiness. In addition, vigorously advocate civilization and simplicity in the whole society? New marriage customs? Let love and marriage get rid of utilitarian colors and bad habits, and let the whole society? Marriage = economic need? Shame, let youth get rid of it? People who have no room are not qualified to fall in love? Internal and external pressure, return? Two people holding hands, starting from scratch? A beautiful painting.

The second is to give full play to the advantages of group organizations, integrate platform resources such as civil affairs departments, market institutions and social non-profit organizations, establish and improve a big data platform for dating information, explore and develop a mobile Internet dating platform that integrates information collection, scientific matching and other functions, and create a number of public service brands with low cost, strong accessibility and high trust, and provide professional and accurate dating services.

Third, the government should strengthen? Marriage and friendship? For the purpose of system design, formulate preferential policies for public rental housing and house purchase for marriageable young people; Enterprises and institutions should strictly protect the labor rights and interests of workers, oppose the culture of excessive overtime work in the workplace, and protect the rights of workers to rest and leisure space; Unit trade unions and Communist Youth League organizations can actively organize youth networking activities to enrich the amateur cultural life of young people.

With the support of supporting policies and services for fertility, let? Afraid of life? what's up Dare to knot? . One is to provide? Can you afford it? Can you buy it? Is it safe to buy? Universal child care service. It is suggested that the central level should strengthen the top-level design, issue a list of policy support, and build a diversified and multi-level inclusive care service system by integrating child care, social organization, employer operation and embedding into the community. Systematic training is provided for the employees of baby nurses to provide high-quality talent support for the service of baby nurses. The government and industry associations should do a good job in training employees and constantly improve their professional identity. Relevant departments should strengthen the perfection and implementation of the qualification identification and filing management system, information disclosure system, quality supervision and evaluation system of nursery service institutions.

The second is to improve? Female-friendly? Fertility support policy for the purpose. Improve the legislation related to marriage and childbearing, extend male paternity leave, set up flexible and enforceable paid parental leave for both parents, and guide men to assume more parental responsibilities. Change the existing one? Employer responsibility system? On the basis of all employers paying maternity insurance premiums, the new maternity insurance cost burden model strengthens the overall planning of the government and promotes the social burden of maternity expenses, thus reducing the maternity insurance burden of employers and alleviating gender discrimination in the workplace.

The third is to promote family education guidance and shape a scientific and reasonable concept of parenting education. Through publicity and education, parents' classes, etc. We should actively publicize the new concept of talents and family education, oppose excessive refinement and comparison education, and put an end to it? Run away? Phenomenon, reduce the cost of childcare and educational anxiety.