How to effectively cultivate the communication and cooperation of left-behind children

Interpersonal communication is a psychological relationship established between people because of communication. Cooperation is a joint action of individuals, collectives and collectives to achieve the same goal. Both are important parts of human life. With the development of society, people's communication and cooperation ability has also put forward higher requirements. As a modern person, if you want to succeed in your career, you must learn to communicate and cooperate with others and be able to organize and coordinate various forces. In the process of children's physical and mental development, children's physical and mental development is rapid and plastic, which is a critical period for children's growth. At this stage, cultivating good and harmonious interpersonal relationships can help primary school students to establish a good psychological state, have a sound personality and integrate into collective life, which is conducive to coping with every challenge in life, helping them to better complete socialization and help them to succeed. According to the investigation of our research group, it is found that many students in our school have problems caused by poor communication or poor communication, and will not cooperate with others, which seriously affects their study life and hinders their further development. Analyzing the current situation of students in our school, it is found that the factors that affect the interpersonal communication and cooperation of primary school students mainly include the following aspects:

First, the lack of family education.

The main performance is that parents spoil their children too much and fail to teach them how to treat people and learn basic survival skills, which leads to these students being selfish, heartless and overbearing, unable to be kind to others, lacking the willingness to communicate and cooperate with others, accustomed to the life of making ends meet, and unwilling to pay when interacting with others, making others unwilling to associate with him, and even more unwilling to cooperate with him. Children from single-parent families or families with estranged parents lack love and have more problems in communication and cooperation with others.

Second, the lack of school education.

In recent years, although the country advocates quality education and requires students to develop in an all-round way, due to the guidance of the baton of college entrance examination, we attach importance to students' "success" and ignore "adults". The school's standard for evaluating students is scores, so some students with learning difficulties are neglected by teachers and discriminated by classmates, which leads to their enhanced inferiority complex, psychological fear, fear of communication and cooperation with others or low quality of communication and cooperation.

Third, lack of social interaction.

In an environment where test scores are the last word, schools and higher authorities evaluate a teacher by test scores, which leads teachers to increase students' homework in pursuit of scores, deprive students of time to rest at noon and play in the afternoon, and reduce the time for students to communicate, cooperate and play with their peers. The popularity of TV networks also makes children addicted to TV and the Internet, which reduces the chances of dealing with people.

Fourth, the lack of traditional culture and education.

Since modern society, due to the invasion of western ideas and values, China has lost its excellent traditional culture which has been passed down for 5,000 years, and the principles and methods of how to cultivate talents and how to communicate and cooperate with others. For example, if people can do things according to the way our ancestors taught us to be human, and handle peer relations and life affairs well, I believe there will be no big mistakes. Unfortunately, this course is not offered in China.

In a word, in order to cultivate qualified talents in the new century, we must change our teaching strategies. The reality and the future put forward new requirements for school education, which requires that school education can help children and adolescents to know themselves, develop their potential, and make reasonable attribution, so that they can have a healthy psychology and sound personality and actively adapt to the ever-changing and developing society. In order to improve students' communication and cooperation ability, our research group, with the strong support of school leaders, tried to start from the following aspects and received good results.

First, the school creates a beautiful communication environment for children.

In order to make children grow up healthily and develop in an all-round way, our school strives to build a harmonious, independent, safe and beautiful environment for children to live happily. In order to improve the effectiveness of the classroom, strive to improve students' learning efficiency, and achieve efficient classroom within a limited time of 40 minutes, and at the same time, in order to improve students' communication and cooperation ability and create conditions for cooperative learning, our school adopts the form of grouping around the table during the semester, with 4-6 students in each group. Students' class, homework, recitation and extracurricular study are all in this group, and the group leader is responsible, cooperating with each other, supervising each other and helping each other to cultivate students' ability. Teachers should establish an effective evaluation mechanism, giving extra points to groups that are United and overall progressive, and giving extra points to groups that shirk each other. Once students' sense of collective honor is aroused, in order not to lag behind other groups, each group will compete with each other and soon become a competitive cooperative learning group, so that children's learning enthusiasm will be greatly improved, and students with learning difficulties will be helped and supervised by excellent students, thus changing many bad habits, making rapid progress, and increasing students' communication and cooperation with others. We also encourage children to actively participate in extracurricular activities, get in touch with children of different ages and exercise their communication skills. In the past three years, the school has been carrying out extracurricular interest activity groups to organize children to learn various skills, so that they can get in touch with students of different grades and improve their communication and cooperation skills.

Second, teachers' positive expectations of students are an effective means to promote the benign interaction between teachers and students.

In most classes in our school, students with learning difficulties and students with special family circumstances (parents divorced, left-behind children, etc.). ) communication and collaboration skills are the worst. To this end, the school held a special meeting for teachers, asking teachers to strengthen education and care for students with learning difficulties and special students, establish a good relationship between teachers and students, strengthen their study guidance, establish a twinning relationship with outstanding students, help students with learning difficulties, and consciously cultivate their correct interpersonal attitude and ability. Yu Guoliang pointed out that teachers' expectations have a wide influence on children, and adopting a positive attitude towards children with learning disabilities is more conducive to their healthy growth than a negative attitude. At work, our teacher pays attention to tapping every student's bright spot, appreciating them, making him think I can do it, giving students with learning difficulties good expectations, increasing their self-confidence and feeling the teacher's care. Bai Jiahui, a fourth-grade student in our school, is timid by nature and afraid of meeting strangers. Because parents have been working outside for a long time, relying on grandparents to take care of them, they can't help him in his studies, have low grades, have a strong sense of inferiority, dare not talk to classmates, and are often bullied by classmates. After the school carried out the above work this semester, I talked to him several times, encouraged him to speak actively, participated in class activities, and asked excellent student Wu Bang to help him. After making progress, I praised him many times in front of my classmates and punished several problem children who bullied him. The child has changed a lot and can communicate with his classmates normally. The implementation of these measures has greatly encouraged students with learning difficulties and problems. They are willing to tell their teachers the truth, so that teachers can find the crux of the problem, eliminate their ideological, emotional and psychological barriers of being lazy and afraid to speak, exercise their courage to speak, enhance their awareness of performance, participation and competition, dare to show their abilities, knowledge and opinions, establish self-confidence in communication, and greatly improve their communication and cooperation ability. Third, teach students the skills of interpersonal communication and cooperation.

Interpersonal communication and cooperation is also an art. In order to improve children's communication and cooperation ability, our school specializes in cultivating students' communication awareness and communication and cooperation skills, so that they can master correct communication skills, develop good communication habits, master polite language, let them actively participate in inevitable communication, and use polite language to get along with others and promote each other in communication. Teachers teach students to pay attention to several communication points in class meetings: first, be generous, and second, respect each other. Practice students' communication words and deeds, standardize communication language, pay attention to the etiquette necessary for interpersonal communication, and memorize and use polite expressions 2 1 (please, thank you, sorry, hello, goodbye, excuse me, thank you and welcome). And let students exchange their own communication experience, learn from each other's strong points, help each other and promote each other, so that students can understand that communication skills include: 1 Learn to adjust your role and communicate in different positions. 2. Learn to talk with people actively, produce the same language as * * *, and enhance mutual understanding. Learn to communicate with others, seek common ground while reserving differences, and respect other people's hobbies. When you enter our school now, you can always hear the greetings from the students. Most students can take the initiative to ask "hello" when they see the teacher, and they can also take the initiative to ask "hello" when they see their classmates. Teachers consciously mobilize the enthusiasm of students to organize exchange activities, so that they are willing to communicate and complete teaching tasks with their classmates. The fifth-grade students in our school finished the science class "History of Ship Development" and spontaneously organized shipbuilding under the advocacy of the science teacher. The results are quite good, especially the electric propeller boat made by four students, such as Liang Shunxi and Wu Chery, which will turn when connected to the battery, which is particularly good, showing the students' good willingness and ability to cooperate. Teachers' efforts have enabled children to have good communication and cooperation qualities since childhood, laying a solid foundation for them to participate in higher-level communication and cooperation in the future.

Fourth, parents cooperate with schools to improve their children's communication and cooperation ability.

Family is very important for children's social growth. Children first gain the first influence of interpersonal communication and cooperation in family life. Parental rearing patterns and different parent-child relationships will directly affect children's social skills and popularity among the masses. For this reason, our school uses parents' meeting to publicize the importance of family education, tell parents the ways and means to cultivate their children's communication and cooperation ability, and ask parents not to spoil their children too much, but to teach students basic life skills, so that they can be helpful, learn to listen to others' conversations and learn to be tolerant. Parents cooperate with schools to improve students' language communication ability, exercise their children's courage to speak in front of strangers, teach their children to say hello to their guests or neighbors at home, learn to sell themselves among their peers, and know that speaking is an important means of selling, so that children can win the favor of their peers.

Fifth, strengthen the education of traditional culture.

My school was sponsored by caring people and donated 200 copies of Disciples Rules. The school decided to teach Disciples' Rules among the students of Grade 2-6 in our school as a major ideological course, teaching students that "Disciples should be filial when they enter, be cautious when they leave, be sincere, believe, love others, be kind and spare no effort" to cultivate students' good habits. "Only by establishing good interpersonal relationships can primary school students improve their comprehensive quality.

Six, organize a variety of activities, strengthen cooperation and exchanges.

Rich school life is what students yearn for most, and activities are the basis of interpersonal communication. Students constantly expand their relationships and cultivate their communication skills in activities. To this end, our school advocates that all classes use physical education class to organize some meaningful activities, such as organizing class students to skip rope, run, tug-of-war and so on, so that students can have a normal concept of cooperation and competition in the competition, and hold fun sports meetings after the mid-term exams of each semester to enhance the sense of collective honor. According to the learning content or national affairs, organize students to read poems, sing literature, write exercises and perform plays in textbooks, so that students can cultivate the spirit of unity and cooperation in activities. Organize students to visit their sick classmates, so that students can feel the warmth of the group and sincerely bless others. Students participate in a variety of colorful activities, expanding the scope of communication, gaining opportunities for self-expression, enhancing the exchange of students' emotions and ideas, and learning to adjust and resolve conflicts, thus gradually developing their communicative competence.

Through the implementation of the above measures, the communication and cooperation ability of our students has been greatly improved. Pupils are simple and lovely, only teachers who can't teach and students who can't teach well (excluding mentally retarded students). The Book of Rites says, "Building the country and the people, teaching comes first". Education is the foundation of strengthening the country and enriching the people. Under the correct guidance of teachers, children learn to love the group, care about their classmates and learn to communicate. Under the correct guidance and education of the school, students' minds will certainly establish a correct outlook on life, shape a noble personality, have a sincere and kind heart, and lay a good foundation for their future adulthood.