What do you mean by forbearing others with your heart and tolerating others with your heart?

The phrase "self-denial with one's own heart, tolerance with one's own heart" is to demand oneself with the mentality of asking others, and to have a strict spirit of self-discipline; At the same time, we should tolerate the shortcomings of others with a tolerant attitude and give more understanding and support. This is also an important concept in Confucius' theory, that is, "self-denial is benevolence."

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This sentence comes from the chapter of The Analects of Confucius Yan Yuan.

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Yan Yuan asked Ren. Confucius said, "Self-denial and courtesy are benevolence. A day of self-denial and self-denial, the world will return to benevolence. For benevolence, for yourself, for people? " Yan Yuan said, "What's the purpose?" Confucius said, "see no evil, don't listen to evil, don't say evil, and don't move if you are evil."

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Yan Yuan asked Confucius what benevolence was, and Confucius replied, "Self-denial is benevolence. As long as we can restrain ourselves and observe etiquette one day, the world will become kind. Benevolence is realized by oneself, not by others. " Yan Yuan asked again: "How can we do it?" Confucius said, "Don't look at things that are impolite; Don't listen to those who don't conform to the etiquette; Don't say anything that doesn't conform to the ceremony; Don't do it if it doesn't conform to the ceremony. "

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This sentence embodies an important idea in Confucius' thought, that is, "self-denial and courtesy are benevolence", that is, by restraining oneself and observing etiquette, the realm of benevolence is achieved. To do this, we need to constantly improve our self-discipline and self-cultivation, and at the same time tolerate the shortcomings of others with a tolerant attitude. Only in this way can we establish harmonious interpersonal relationships and achieve harmony among people.

Creation background

This sentence comes from the chapter of The Analects of Confucius Yan Yuan, which is a teaching dialogue of Confucius. At that time, Yan Yuan asked Confucius what benevolence was, and Confucius explained it and told everyone what real benevolence was. The sentence "self-denial and self-tolerance" is a profound interpretation of the concept of benevolence by Confucius.

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Self-denial: self-restraint, abstinence from selfish desires and pursuit of moral realm.

Heavy ceremony: restore traditional etiquette and make demands on yourself.

Benevolence: a moral quality in ancient Confucianism, including love, respect for others, tolerance and kindness.

Enlightenment of life

This sentence tells us that, first of all, we should demand ourselves by binding others' standards, have discipline, abide by social morality and pursue noble moral quality. When getting along with others, we should also tolerate their shortcomings with a tolerant attitude, understand their situation and position, not criticize or blame others easily, but be good at accepting different opinions and viewpoints.

In life, when we get along with people, we often encounter contradictions and conflicts. At this time, if we can treat ourselves with a self-denial attitude, we will look at things more rationally and objectively, and we will not make excessive behaviors because of our emotions, nor will we blame others because of our subjective thoughts. At the same time, we should be tolerant of others, try to look at the problem from the other side's point of view, understand the thoughts and emotions of others, and establish a more harmonious relationship with others.

In a word, being kind and tolerant to others is a noble moral realm, and it is also the quality we should have when getting along with others.