The mother-in-law under the sky, is nothing but these four kinds, which one do you favor more

The mother-in-law under the sky is only these four kinds, you more inclined to which one?

A good "mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship" is based on mutual respect and tolerance, even if the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law there are thousands of kinds, as long as the heart to heart, you can manage the relationship.

After all, there are four types of mothers-in-law, which one do you prefer?

The "child-controlling" mother-in-law who loves her son

There is no doubt that every mother loves her child. Therefore, there is a category of mothers-in-law who will become the most typical "child-controlling" mothers-in-law.

The so-called "child-controlling" mothers love their sons very much and prioritize everything for them. From a mother's point of view, there is nothing wrong with this.

But if the son is already married, and the mother's status has changed to that of a mother-in-law, then the son and daughter-in-law should be treated as a whole.

For the "child-controlling" mother-in-law, whether her daughter-in-law has taken good care of her son is the most critical issue.

If the daughter-in-law is more virtuous and better at taking care of people, then basically we can get along. But if the daughter-in-law is a small woman who wants her husband to take care of her, perhaps she will not be spared from her mother-in-law's nagging.

This type of mother-in-law does not have too many faults, just too much love for their own children, so sometimes a daughter-in-law a little strict.

It is important to realize that a daughter-in-law is also someone's beloved daughter. So the "child-controlling" mother-in-law might as well love her son's wife while she loves her son. The mother-in-law is the only one who can give her son the love he deserves, so she should give her daughter-in-law a portion of her love!

Conservative mother-in-law

It has been said that there is a generation gap between a person and a person three years apart. A whole generation separates a mother-in-law from her daughter-in-law, so it's not unusual for there to be some differences in thinking. There is a category of mothers-in-law who are such traditional and conservative mothers-in-law.

Small Jing and her husband have been married for less than a year, and the two of them are very much in love, and they are inseparable from each other in everything they do. Once the couple took Jing's father-in-law and mother-in-law to the mall, Jing hooked her husband's arm and walked in front of him, occasionally pampering him, but did not do anything out of the ordinary.

When she returned home after shopping, she realized that her mother-in-law's expression was very bad, and asked her husband to ask what happened.

Mother-in-law then complained that in public men and women pulling and tugging, especially indecent, let her feel very ashamed. Afterwards Xiao Jing was also very aggrieved, but she was also very clear that her mother-in-law was just a particularly conservative type.

The reason why this kind of traditional old-school conservative mothers-in-law are like this has to do with their own experience as wives and daughters-in-law. They themselves are very proper and traditional women, so they also hold their daughters-in-law to such standards.

To make an analogy, if a mother-in-law has been doing the laundry, cooking, and bringing up the children at home since the beginning of her marriage, she will think that her daughter-in-law should be just like her, quitting her job and devoting herself to the family, in order to be a good and qualified daughter-in-law.

Be aware that times are always progressing. Old-fashioned mothers-in-law may want to accept the changes of young people with a more open mind, while daughters-in-law should also respect the habits of their mothers-in-law and give more understanding to the ideas of their elders.

The "capable" mother-in-law who controls everything

There is a category of mothers-in-law who are capable of making their daughters-in-law feel at home.

This type of mother-in-law is usually more fierce and vigorous. They control most of the things in the family decision-making power, such as son and daughter-in-law to buy a house site, such as the future grandchildren to be called what name, all of these have to be through her nod, only to be determined.

As long as the daughter-in-law does not have the same strong personality, having a mother-in-law who is so capable and bold can still help a lot.

A while back, I heard my best friend talk about her mother-in-law, and I felt that she was this type. She has a full range of martial arts skills, can cook a full meal and teach English to her children.

It's just that she's got a big mouth and a big heart, and when she's nagging her, it's like she's her own mother. She didn't expect to be able to continue to live a life where she was fed and clothed even after she got married.

The "capable" mother-in-law, who is in control of everything, can discuss with her son and daughter-in-law more, and the family happiness index will continue to soar.

Boundary clear cold mother-in-law

The so-called "cold" mother-in-law, in fact, is the most free, the most self-motivated type of mother-in-law.

They have adopted a "free-range" policy towards their sons and daughters-in-law with the idea that there is no place for a child or grandchild.

A while ago, I went to a friend's house, and while we were all sitting together chatting, my friend's son suddenly worried that his future daughter-in-law would not be good enough for his mother.

The friend said, "Take a daughter-in-law as long as you like. Anyway, your mom has your father to love her and doesn't need a daughter-in-law to take care of her." I sighed, she has this realization later will be able to become a very good mother-in-law.

So the so-called "high-cool" mother-in-law does not mean that she wants to make a face to her daughter-in-law, but to give the young people full freedom.

Since it's hard for a mother-in-law to get along as well as a daughter-in-law, it's not necessarily a bad thing to have a relationship where there is mutual respect, courtesy and clear boundaries.

Mother-in-laws come in all shapes and sizes, and there are a thousand different kinds of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law problems. But hearts are made of flesh, and as long as both mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are able to communicate more and understand each other, getting along with mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law will not be difficult.

As a mother-in-law, you must change your mindset and not demand too much from your daughter-in-law. If you can't love your daughter-in-law as a daughter, then it's not a bad idea to maintain a polite and courteous relationship.

And as a daughter-in-law, respect comes first. Even if she is not a mother-in-law, she is still an elder. So even if there is a conflict, as a latecomer, you have to maintain basic etiquette. On the basis of respect for your mother-in-law, if you add some genuine care and sincere communication, you will find that your mother-in-law is also a mother and is not terrible.