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Zhenyuan marriage customs taboo

Traditional Zhenyuan marriage customs complex, far-reaching implications. Both the deep connotation of the Longdong traditional culture, but also has a distinctive regional cultural characteristics. Whether it is the choice of marriage, the first course, the second course, the third course, or engagement, after marriage have formed a series of local characteristics, colorful marriage taboo (Zhenyuan slang, and taboo agree), was agreed upon, although some magical and esoteric, and even colorful, but for a long time by the people to be taboo and follow.

First, the choice of marriage taboo

1, with the same surname, the same family taboo marriage. In the town of the original marriage customs, the family that is the same surname, the same door between the choice of relatives to marry, that this move reason, must be opposed by the family and others shame. According to "Chinese history" records, the same name does not marry in the patriarchal clan period, as early as the Western Zhou on the reverence for intermarriage. According to "Baihu Tong. Marriage" cloud: "do not marry with the same name, heavy human relationships, prevent anonymous, shame and the same." Today, many places out of the "five services" can choose relatives, but in Zhenyuan even outside the "five services" also have this taboo.

2, non-peer marriage. Zhenyuan marriage customs are different generations to marry, both non-immediate relatives, but because of distant relatives or the same village generations are not the same can not be intermarried, commonly known as "mess class generation.

3, maternal uncle family not married. Zhenyuan wedding customs in the "blood line does not flow backwards", specifically against the aunt's daughter married to the uncle's son, that is, "inverted relatives". The proverb also has "aunt as a mother-in-law, knife and scissors grinding each other", "aunt as a mother-in-law, a life of discord" said. In real life, there is also a cousin of the knot, although the relatives, but because of the blood relations of the children born deaf and dumb is more common.

Second, marriage taboo

1, marriage age and eight taboo. In Zhenyuan generally require men to be older than women, there are "rather call the male big ten, do not let the female big one." and "female big one, the female big one. The "female big one, not a wife," said. In recent years, some places also have "female big two, trickle", "female big three, hold gold brick". Marriage is good, they will ask Mr. "eight characters", so as to determine the fate of the two, that a person's birth year, month, day, time, each with the Heavenly Stems and Earthly Branches, each with two words instead of four is eight words. "Combined eight characters" is in accordance with the two men and women of the year stem, year branch, month stem, month branch, day stem, day branch, time stem, time branch (commonly known as the time of the fall of the grass), as well as the "heavenly grams and earthly rushing", the defeat of the month and the Chinese zodiac sign to determine whether the two sides of the genus is compatible.

2, the defeat of the month taboo Gu. Zhenyuan customs have "defeat month" said, that is, "is a snake, two rats, three cow head, four monkeys, five rabbits, six dog head, seven pigs, eight horses, nine sheep head, October's tiger roar, November's chicken rack worry, December's dragon undersea swim." If a person born in the year of the sheep, the birthday in September is the month of defeat. That the defeat of the month of the person's life, bad luck, both in-laws, and impede the husband, it is taboo with the defeat of the month of the person to marry. Defeated month and have a "bright defeat" "dark defeat" points, born in the month of defeat for the "bright defeat", in the month of defeat pregnant for the "dark defeat The "dark defeat" is for those who get pregnant in the month of defeat. The general saying is that "the bright defeat is not defeat, the dark defeat is really defeat".

3, Zodiac taboo. In accordance with the five elements since ancient times, there is a saying that the big marriage is not compatible. That is: "rabbit and dragon meet once off, since ancient times, the white horse is afraid of the green cow, tiger see snake such as knife scraping, sheep and rats meet less than the head, pig see monkey tears long flow, the dog meets the golden chicken lifetime worry." There are also "rat taboo horse, cow taboo sheep, tiger taboo monkey, rabbit taboo dragon, dragon taboo dog, snake taboo pig" and so on. The phases of each other as a marriage is not, is a marriage taboo, as long as the marriage is not, they will be considered to be two grams, harmful, absolutely can not be married.

Third, the betrothal taboo Gu

By both sides of a certain degree of knowledge and understanding, the birth date and eight characters are compatible, are no objection, the parents of men and women to do the Lord, selected the auspicious date of betrothal. Engagement is an important part of Zhenyuan wedding customs, in this link, mainly including the ancient "six rituals" in the "Na Ji" "Na Zheng" two parts. Specifically in the chain son-in-law, chained daughter-in-law and the man to the woman to return the bride price.

1, tethered son-in-law, tethered daughter-in-law Ji Gu. The main sign of betrothal is the men and women's families tethered to each other newcomers, and there are some contraindications. Both parents must be equal to the number of double-digit coins (generally two silver rounds, now more paper money) with a red line chained into a lock, the male elders will be tied to the coin of the red line locks hanging in the girl's collar, the female elders will be tied to the coin of the red line locks hanging in the guy's collar, said "lock lock lock", also known as tethered son-in-law, tethered daughter-in-law. "Shuan lock lock" both the meaning of a thousand miles of marriage, but also symbolizes that men and women who love each other as long as they are locked by the same heart will never be separated! The "lock lock" has the meaning of a thousand-mile marriage.

Avoid the year. Marriage ceremony to be done in which year is very delicate. Generally placed in people think no special circumstances within the normal year to do the wedding. Jealous of the year of marriage, such as the rat people, if the year of marriage is the year of the child, is prohibited years, is not married, to avoid the year of the child. Another woman married, Zi year taboo rabbit phase, ugly year taboo tiger phase. Think 12 zodiac sign and called the age of the Jupiter 12-year cycle cycle coincides with the year, the year when the head sit, no disaster fear sit. Tai Sui God is the most powerful in the year of God, sixty Tai Sui God each year round a deacon, the average person's year Geng and the value of the year of the same year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the year of the same, known as the crime. The earth's branch of the current year of life and the earth's branch of the year of birth must be the same, so the current year of life is regarded as the Foo Yin God. Jealous of the "black year" that is, no spring year of marriage, that the marriage of the year no joy, inauspicious, will affect the future of family happiness. At the same time, there is a "home honored relatives funeral not married" taboo, that is, grandparents and other relatives died, especially the seventy-seven forty-nine days, a hundred days is not yet full, and even the first year has not yet passed, the younger generation can not get married, in order to show respect for the deceased, to send the younger generation's condolences, is a filial piety expression.

The month of taboo. The month of marriage with the phases of the genus In conjunction with the month of marriage to choose the female party's "eight characters of the birth" prevail. Each sign in a year, there are two "big profit month" and two "small profit month". The mnemonic for the "big favorable month" is: "positive, seven welcome chickens and rabbits, two, eight tigers and monkeys, three, nine snakes and pigs, four, ten dragons and dogs line, five, November cattle and sheep, six, December rats and horses with." The mnemonic for the "Month of Small Profits" is: "The first seven months welcome dragons and dogs, two, eight cows and sheep, three, nine rats and horses, four, ten chickens and rabbits, five, November tigers and monkeys, six, December snakes and pigs." For the sake of good luck, people often use "Da Li month". These corresponding months are called "favorable month", all taboo, suitable for marriage.

忌日. Marriage in the choice of specific days also have to pay attention to, avoid single-day marriage; avoid the fate of the day of marriage. In addition, some years, months of unfavorable signs, because they can not choose a good day, but also choose to play the spring (spring) of the day of marriage, that the spring is the beginning of a new year, the earth back to spring, the recovery of all things, but also two years can be counted on the day, nothing to avoid.

(1) welcome the family taboo Gu. Speaking of "son-in-law not personally welcome". Generally are father and brother, friends and relatives to drums and music to the female home to meet the bride, now this custom has changed, neither advocate son-in-law to meet the bride, nor absolute.

(2) marriage, send relatives to avoid Gu. Marrying, sending relatives is a very solemn ceremony in the wedding of Zhenyuan, reflecting the economic and status of the families of both men and women, etc.. Speaking of aunts do not marry people, aunts do not send people. Especially on the marriage, send the two sides of the female guest requirements are very strict: a taboo pregnant women can not marry; two taboo can not marry; three taboo women can not marry the infamous; four taboo within a hundred days can not be married to send two people; five taboo children do not give birth to women can not be married; six taboo within a hundred days into the kiln of the woman can not be married; seven taboo women can not be married to a sick woman. The number of men marrying for the singular, generally 5-11 people, one of which is married to a woman (or aunt, or sister-in-law), that "go single welcome double". Women send relatives for the even number, generally 6-10 people, which must be a 10-year-old or so (mostly for the bride's brother or nephew) to sit with, commonly known as the "pressure horse doll", to the male home, to give the "pressure horse doll" betting on horse money, the bride is willing to get off the horse (car). The bride is willing to get off the horse (car). At the same time, to choose to give birth to a child, no mourning clothes, not sterilized female relatives or sister-in-law for the "send female guests".

(3) marrying in the bride's maiden home jealousy. The dowry wrapping cloth and other items. In addition, you should also bring the wedding list and tiger (such as willow bow, mahogany arrows, mallet) and other items to prevent the death. Welcome the departure of the bride in addition to eating a banquet, are to eat some churn, symbolizing a group of peace, and to the groom's grandparents kowtow when starting, the groom should also go to the front to meet the bride kowtow, and sit on the vehicle to meet the bride to go forward a few dozen meters, heralding the future of the woman obedient to the man.

"Welcome to the" one to, the female home set up a table in the courtyard, set up cigarettes and wine, by the steward to welcome the family leader to toast three cups of wine to show that welcome, welcome to the family leader will be brought to the table one by one in the table to account for the so-called "table gift". And then eat three meals, first casual meals, the second noodles, and finally the banquet. After the meal, the head of the bridegroom to the female family elders kowtow, the head of the female family to the bridegroom to the head of the dowry, at this time, the male officiating person is given to the female side of the folding instrument (accompanied by the discounted price of the goods), the needle and thread money (to do the handmade money of the needle and thread) doubled to pay. Before the journey, the man welcomes the bridegroom and then salutes the woman's family. Then on the head, the bride to sit on the in-laws brought "sitting head wheat", facing the happy place. The bride's hair is first pulled up with a red headband, combed back and forth, and covered. After the head is finished mixing female red cloth cut into five minutes wide strip of cloth to the bride's coat buttons on a tie, and the rest of the points to marry the bride to send personnel to wear.

(4) the bride on the horse (car) Jigu. The bride on the horse (car) by marrying the bride to hold or back on the horse (car), now basically changed to change shoes. Bride on the horse (car) before, to cry a few times, no tears have to pretend. Crying a... Mother with a handful of new chopsticks on the back a few times, throw the chopsticks outside the threshold, the meaning is not to take away the mother's family's fortune, also known as "goodbye". Bride on the horse (car), the orientation is more elaborate, according to the opening of the marriage list face west to the auspicious direction, generally according to the sedan chair hour to calculate the orientation, such as c, d, e, to the west, has been to the north, Shen Youxu to the east, Ohio ugly to the south. There are also selected "God of joy" position. At the same time, according to the bride's phases of the current year nuisance "three-phase people" such as pigs, rabbits, goats or tigers, horses, dogs; snakes, chickens, cows; monkeys, rats, dragons should also be avoided, off the horse (car) is also the case, that the red brake on the nuisance of the people who are unfavorable. In addition, Zhenyuan wedding customs, to stone mill symbolizing the White Tiger, threshing floor symbolizing the Green Dragon. Qinglong", "Huainanzi" cloud "Qinglong for the sky of the noble God. It may be a synonym for Tai Sui. "The Tai Sui is the unity of all the gods." "White Tiger", the name of the seven stars and hosts, known as "the year of the God of evil". Wedding sedan chair, have to use red cloth and red paper to grind, mill, threshing floor and other large point of the stone stone stone cover, can not let the newcomers see, in order to prevent "punch wedding".

The bride to the male home, the bride is not trampled on the ground, but also the groom back or holding to the cave, or another pair of shoes into the cave shoes. Into the door, choose a man with a good-looking wooden bucket, head to sprinkle walnuts, jujubes, candies, cereal sections, grains and other things, known as the "rush".

(5) married to send relatives on the way to avoid care. If Feng, intersections, graves, old trees, displays, monuments, river ditches, marrying people have to spread the red paper strips written with "bonus cover," in order to suppress the town of brake. If you bring a drummer to marry your wife, you have to play a long music when you pass by the above places. On the way, if there are two welcome team to meet the same direction, there is a "grab the road" custom. Rob the road, the general leader of both sides to avoid strife, after consultation, often let the first one with Mimang sweep the road, signaling the new road for the latter; if they meet each other, the two women should be exchanged for red cloth pants or red headband, and then use Mimang to sweep out the new road and walk. In the marriage to send relatives on the way, avoid meeting the funeral, that "fierce rush of joy" inauspicious. In addition, to marry, send relatives must be that a road to go, from that road back, to go can not take a different route.

(6) worship of heaven and earth jealousy. Bride and groom in front of the arranged tablets of the god of joy. Wedding by a reputable person in the clan. Bride and groom at this time to perform three worship nine kowtow rite. If the bride and groom, the bride and groom, worship heaven and earth with a large red cloth or sheet will be separated from the bride and groom salute, the party that was hindered by the sleeve tube within a mallet to avoid.

(7) cave in the jealousy. Before the bride did not enter the bridal chamber, the in-laws should be the first into the bridal chamber, clip the pillow to walk around, commonly known as "holding grandchildren". Within two days of the bridal chamber, avoid children, people with filial piety, hairy women (underage women), pregnant women, etc. into the "new room" (the bridal chamber), to prevent the "wedding". After worshiping heaven and earth, the bride is led into the bridal chamber, and the bride goes to the bed, storing the things that have been pressed at the four corners of the mat (needles and threads, walnuts, jujubes, coins, etc.), which is called "stepping on the four corners", and then going to the front of the bed. The groom uses a rolling pin to pick off the bride's head and puts it in the noodle jar at home. In the corner of the bridal chamber kang, a five-liter wheat bucket is placed, with a ruler, scissors, scales, mirrors, a rolling pin, and the head of the bag on top, and if there is any harm to the newlyweds, the walls of the kang are also plastered with red paper with the phrases "the golden lion is here" and "long life". The long life lamp in the room, three days and nights without extinguishing.

(8) caveman, play house taboo Gu. Cave generally in the evening, is a way to celebrate the newlyweds, also known as "play daughter-in-law", "play room". Guy "play room" Let the two newcomers to make a variety of public intimacy action, guests out of the program, the newcomer performance, so that the viewers laugh, Jigu bride and groom to the guests to play face. As the saying goes, "do not play not lively", so the most popular house hilarious, taboo cold. This three-day no size, the boys, the children to the bride to ask for the dates, walnuts, eggs in the belly pocket, if the bride does not give, the boys, the children will be forced to pull out.

(E) after the wedding taboo

1, back to the door taboo back to the door, also known as "back to the mother's home". The date of return is generally in the third day after the wedding; the newlyweds to return to the door with a single gift avoid; return to the door, the bride and groom avoid cohabitation in the mother's home, that will make the mother's family decline; furthermore, the newlyweds in the woman's home for a period of time to return to the male family, the day chosen to avoid a single day to seek good luck.

2, "sitting on the month" taboo. Newlywed for a month. The new daughter-in-law's family to pick up the daughter back to live on three or five days, up to seven days, avoid excessive time. "The bride back to her mother's home to sit against the month, the money of the two families as follows snow".

3, some other time taboos

January 15, the bride the first year to go back to her mother's home (or point the wax of the mother's home), the second year to live in the mother-in-law's house, the third year back to the mother's home, known as the hiding lamp. "

Zhenyuan marriage customs in the taboo, is the Zhenyuan people in the practice of long-term production and life in the formation of customary culture, reflecting the people of the ancient customs of the abiding. Zhenyuan marriage customs in the taboo, all reflect the Zhenyuan people to the pursuit of happy marriage. Do not fit" and thus affect the happiness of the new couple after marriage. Zhenyuan marriage customs in the taboo although mixed with some color, with the development of the times and progress, people have removed some of the stereotypes, but it is people in the long-term practice of life to create, accumulated experience, taboo customs undoubtedly also has its own reasonableness, scientific, and a certain code of ethics. As the same family name taboo marriage, different generations do not marry, maternal uncle's family do not marry on the scientific reasoning and basic human moral norms of eugenics, has a certain degree of scientific. Marriage in the focus on "family-like", pay attention to the relationship and prestige, but also with the traditional moral norms, these excellent traditional culture and good customs should undoubtedly be recognized and inherited.

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