What is the current situation of marriage in China and how to manage it?

First, the status quo of marriage in China ① Follow the trend and have no opinion. Whether it is between elders, brothers and sisters, or girlfriends, such a situation will occur. Compared with gifts and dowries, wedding ceremonies, houses and cars, wives and husbands, children ... others have their own differences, which will bring friction between husband and wife and lead to contradictions!

(2) too much material, despise love. Influenced by the old ideas left by traditional feudal thoughts, marriage seems to be an exchange, family conditions are very important, you must have money, and put forward various "material" requirements before marriage; However, if we despise their love, we can guarantee life but not the long-term and happiness of their marriage.

③ Pay more attention to wedding forms than marriage management. The wedding ceremony is exquisite and complicated, but now there is a phenomenon of putting on a show for comparison and face saving. Marriage is a major event in life, but the marriage management of two people after marriage is more important!

(4) Pay too much attention to marriage. Influenced by traditional ideas, women put marriage in an overly important position, and it is not advisable to have only marriage without themselves. Equality between men and women. Marriage is very important, but it should not be the whole of life.

⑤ Excessive self-centeredness. This essence of men is male chauvinism. From a certain point of view, if there are no serious problems, it may be beneficial to the development of the relationship between husband and wife, but if male chauvinism is too heavy, it will also make women vulnerable.

6 if you are too dead, you still dare not control it. Due to the poor trust between the two sides, many couples either control each other too much or can't control each other, which is not only not conducive to the harmony of marriage, but also leads to the emergence of marriage crisis.

⑦ Elders excessively intervene in marriage. Elders are also influenced by old ideas, and they will participate in interfering with young people's marriage life, no matter big or small, which will reduce the burden on young couples to a certain extent, but it will also easily lead to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which will bring contradictions to their marriage; The deeper the elders intervene in marriage, the lower the probability of children's marital happiness!

8 excessive child-centered. Marriage is essentially for the continuation of life and the inheritance of the family. Driven by such a source of power, couples will revolve around their children, and any change in children may fundamentally change the direction of marriage. Excessive child-centered is not conducive to the harmony of marriage and the growth of children.

Second, in order to avoid the tragedy of widowed marriage, how to manage a marriage well? (1) If there is a problem, find out the root cause in time, find out the main contradiction, and fundamentally solve the problem; ② Husband and wife should communicate actively and effectively, don't make noise and reduce complaints; Pay more attention, praise and affirm; ③ Keep life fresh and increase interest; Have the same hobbies and life goals; 4 give each other a certain space; Learn to empathize; Responsible for marriage, mutual respect and tolerance; 6 change and improve yourself and grow up with your partner!

Chinese marriage is not bad. Inheriting the Millennium has its rationality and morality, and it is also related to the big family culture and marriage concept in China! We need to look at marriage rationally and look at the little things in marriage life. Marriage is like an advanced exam, and everyone needs to grow up in the running-in friction and mutual assistance of marriage! In the face of marriage, there is no standard answer, but our life should not be defined, let alone "China people"!