How much harm does a patriarchal family do to girls?

In the eyes of many people, son preference can be said to be a deep-rooted concept. With the popularization of Confucianism in ancient times, the three cardinal guides and the five permanent members? It's more like an invisible shackle tightly locked on women in China. In ancient times, married women didn't even have their own surnames, but took their husbands' surnames.

It is for these reasons that the idea of son preference has lasted for thousands of years. In modern times, with the country vigorously promoting family planning, publicity? Are boys and girls all the same? People's preference for boys has also changed, but the older generation still likes boys more or less.

With the improvement of living standards and the liberalization of the second child policy, even people who do not have the idea of son preference want to have both children. Because of this, there are more and more non-only-child families in China, and even many families have three children.

Today we are talking about two families with many children. One has three daughters and the other has three sons. What's the difference between their families?

? Help the devil? In fact, as mentioned above, in many places, especially in areas with generally low educational level, it is common to have children without stopping. After all, the concept of son preference has been circulating for thousands of years, and it is still difficult to completely eliminate it.

I remember that in the TV series "Ode to Joy", fans' families seriously preferred sons to daughters. Fan's brother idles around at home and makes a lot of noise, while Fan's mother is eccentric everywhere, but she has no pity for this daughter who is working hard outside.

Many people may think that TV dramas are too exaggerated, but such families are really not few in life. Just because the living environment is different, I can't understand the harm that son preference does to women.

In the new era, mothers don't want to be kidnapped by son preference, so how can they abandon the concept of son preference as women?

1, you should know your husband's attitude before marriage.

As a woman, in order to avoid being influenced by the concept of having children in the future, it is necessary to know the attitude of her husband's family towards having children when talking about marriage. Even if it is not easy to ask directly, you can allude to it before marriage.

However, this does not mean that the husband who prefers boys to girls directly denies it, but that he can communicate effectively after knowing his attitude. If communication fails, it depends on your choice.

2. Look at the clues from the family composition.

In fact, from the composition of the husband's family, we can see whether this family is patriarchal. If the husband has several sisters in the family, the in-laws are more likely to prefer sons to daughters. At this time, we should be psychologically prepared in advance and think about countermeasures.

3. Don't be kidnapped by your child's gender.

The most important point is that even if parents and in-laws have the idea of son preference, as women, we can't be kidnapped by the sex of our children. The final decision on whether to have children is still in the hands of women, and how to treat children is also their own business.

Family members can discuss suggestions, but they can't force them. As women, we should be firm and not compromise because of gossip. The end result may be worse than we thought.

Parents'? Conscious? Then, in this era, which will still be influenced by the concept of son preference, parents must make correct choices in educational attitudes and methods, and don't regret their mistakes at the end. Don't hurt your child's life because of the wrong choice.

1. Men and women enjoy equal right to education.

Because of the popularization of nine-year compulsory education, it is no longer a problem for men and women to receive education equally in most areas. However, in some poor and remote areas, there will still be examples of my sister giving up her studies and working for my younger brother to go to school.

In fact, if family conditions do not allow all children in the family to go to school, parents should also choose the best, not by gender. At first, don't overload your children just to compete for boys.

2. Both men and women need to be frustrated.

When raising girls, parents should not blindly protect them. Girls need to be frustrated just like boys. An overprotected girl, after entering the society, will be even more ignorant of the difference between good and evil, and will not know how to protect herself, and will even be overwhelmed by some minor setbacks.

? Little princess? Parents with daughters at home should pay more attention to some things when educating their children. Only in this way can our daughter become an independent woman, not an accessory of anyone.

Encourage daughters to pursue dreams and beauty.

In educating their daughters from childhood, parents can influence their daughters subtly and cultivate their independent personality earlier.

For example, when parents educate their daughter, they should let her make her own choices, not for her. Encourage daughters to pursue dreams and beauty.

Here? Beautiful? , refers to a kind of from the inside out,? Are you full of poems and books? Noble character and temperament. In the process of her daughter's pursuit of dreams and beauty, she will become a new woman with more personality charm.

Give back the right to get married and have children to your daughter.

As parents, we should give our daughter enough respect. When her daughter grows up, parents should not hit her? For your own good? The flag of interference. Especially in the near future, the most spit in society? Urging marriage? Have a baby? Phenomenon is a very disrespectful behavior to my daughter.

If parents really want to be nice to their daughters, they should give them the right to marry and have children. What if I can't stand my parents? Forced? And hastily choose to get married, such marriages are definitely unhappy. Is an unhappy marriage what parents expect?

Therefore, if we really think about our children, parents should respect their wishes and give them the right to choose.

? Love crystallization? Some people say that children are the lovers of their parents in previous lives, some people say that children are a gift from heaven to their parents, and some people say that children are the crystallization of their parents' love. So what? Love crystallization? Where is the gender?

As a society that emphasizes equality between men and women, parents should first correct their attitude towards their children's gender in order to truly achieve equality between men and women. As a woman, if parents don't love themselves, how can they learn to love? So what? No difference? Love is the most basic and sincere.