Adoption of Marriage Customs in Vietnam

The marriage customs of the Gong nationality in Vietnam are also very special. The most important feature of their marriage is to adopt a son-in-law before getting married. First of all, the man's parents, brothers, heads of families and the future groom go to the woman's house to propose marriage, bring a pack of salt, a pack of tea, a bundle of twine for weaving nets and a bottle of wine, and go to the woman's house at night. They discussed their children's marriage while smoking and drinking. If the woman agrees, the time limit for the man to adopt his wife should be agreed first. It used to be 8 to 12 years, but now it is roughly shortened to 3 to 4 years.

It was agreed that the groom would take a quilt, a pillow and a knife to the adopted daughter's house the next day. The girl's hairstyle began to change, and her long hair was put on her head, indicating that she had a husband. Although Shangmenlang was regarded as the son of the woman's family at the time of adoption, she was bound. You can't sit on a stool at home, wear shoes and slippers, or enter the room of your mother-in-law and sister-in-law. When parents-in-law are eating, people who come to the door can't sleep. He will pour tea for his parents-in-law after dinner, get up early in the morning to boil water for the whole family to cook, and cast a net to fish.

A few months before the adoption expired, Lang and his parents visited the woman's house again. The two sides agreed on the date of the wedding ceremony, usually between 1 1 and 65438+February after the autumn harvest, which is the second day of the harvest.

On the wedding day, a large group of men's parents, uncles, aunts and brothers all went to the woman's house to pick up the bride. Miss Gong wears Thai clothes on weekdays, but on big days, she has to wear her own traditional clothes. The bride and groom sang folk songs in front of the stairs of the house. The woman used shredded banana to stir-fry sesame seeds and peppers as appetizers and invited the man's guests to drink together to celebrate. After men sing and drink, women invite all men into the house.

The bride's family gave her married daughter a quilt, a cushion, some clothes, a knife, a hoe, a pick, a pig and a hen. When I arrive at my parents-in-law's house, my husband will hold my daughter-in-law in her room when her period comes. If the bride is from this village, she will take it to the man's house. If the distance is far, she can only carry it symbolically for a while.

At this time, the woman spilled sewage mixed with kitchen waste ash, cow dung and pig manure on the heads and bodies of all the visitors of the man, both inside and outside the house. Chaos, chasing each other, very lively. Because of this marriage custom, all the people who attend the wedding of both men and women have prepared two sets of clothes, wearing old clothes first, washing them and then putting on new clothes. This similar marriage custom also exists among Pula people and Xingmen people.