Why is it that in the countryside, there are still so many people who close themselves off to the confines of tradition?

The articles and comments under the topic show that there is a strange phenomenon in Chinese families, no matter whether the parents are very pampered or very strict in educating their children, all of them will cause the children to grow up with a little bit of a bad time and then blame their family's education for the problem.

And it's true that our parents, who want their children to live up to their ideals, are not only worried about their children, but also have a lifetime of resentment against them.

There is a classic quote on Weibo that is highly praised:"The biggest failure of being a child is to hate the life designed by your parents, and be afraid of going down the wrong path and failing to live up to your parents' expectations."

It's not only hard to be a parent, it's also hard to be a child.

The issue of family of origin has always been a lingering pain for many people, like the three siblings in the hit TV series "All's Well That Ends Well", whose marriage and life trajectories are inextricably linked to their mother's treatment of their education and upbringing.

My deepest impression is that in one scene when Mingyu scolds her dad for being too manipulative and incompetent, her dad calls out her mom's name, and then Mingyu realizes that she's living the life of the person she hates the most. The person she hated the most since she was a little girl was her mom, overbearing and brash, never caring about her needs, only snapping at her and her dad according to her mood and temper.

And I also have the survival shadow of my family of origin, when I was a child, my mom always said when she felt that I did not do the housework as well as she did, "If you work like this, you will be disliked by your in-laws when you get married later."

From that time on, I hated doing housework and didn't have much to look forward to in marriage. Because I grew up thinking that I wasn't born to serve others, this is the opposite of my mom's expectations.

Back in the day, when people were still trying to make ends meet, they didn't have that much time to focus on their family's mental health.

In recent years, more and more people who are overwhelmed by the burden of work and family have come into the counseling room to tell their grievances and stress, according to the counselor's incomplete statistics, more than 75% of the source of the complainant's stress is related to the conflict of the family of origin.