What traditional family education concepts need to be corrected and abandoned in China?

What traditional family education concepts need to be corrected and abandoned in China?

1. The traditional family education thought should abandon the dictatorship of "parents". Traditional family education is the education of elders, especially "parents" to the younger generation. "Parents" are educators and the younger generation are educated. This family education system puts too much emphasis on children's "filial piety" to their parents. Parents, especially "parents", have absolute authority in the family, and children must obey absolutely, without any freedom of thought, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of children. Other people's children are always better than their own. From a psychological point of view, parents like to compare their children with others' children, which is generally caused by their own self-desire not being satisfied. They are not satisfied with their current living conditions, so they hope to find a sense of self-worth in their children.

Usually, some old people chew food before giving it to their babies. The general concept of education is very wrong, because there are too many bacteria and children's immunity is not good. The idea that nothing can beat and a dutiful son is born under a stick must be abandoned. This traditional concept has been unreasonable until now, and unreasonable beating children will only hurt them. We should abandon the traditional parenting concept of beating and scolding children if they don't obey, and more importantly, correct and educate them through benign communication with children. "Combating education" is essentially a distorted abnormal education, that is, a kind of mind control! It ignores the child's self-esteem and makes the child bear the language of his favorite person every day. These "striking" words bring great psychological and spiritual pressure to children, stabbing their hearts like sharp knives.

3. In traditional cognition, sons are the inheritance of family incense, and the folk saying of "raising children to prevent old age" is widely circulated. Therefore, from the moment the son was born, parents unconsciously planned for his son's future life. For example, when they grow up, they will consider their children's marriage and prepare for their son's future house and car, so they will work harder to make money in order to help their son reduce the burden. "Don't fight, you will float", which is an educational method that many parents firmly believe. They firmly believe that their children are vain and will be cocky as long as they are praised. Therefore, parents must use sarcasm or even abuse to suppress their children, constantly imitate other children, and awaken their self-esteem and self-motivation.