What is the meaning of traditional Chinese love

Traditional Chinese culture is y influenced by Confucianism in the ritual, in the expression of feelings, including love are more subtle, as the old saying goes: "Do not look, do not see, do not listen to, do not listen to", because the ritual is one of the Confucianism in one of the four elements of the four ends, so in the Chinese tradition of cultivation of moral character, the ritual will prompt the Chinese to express their feelings on the more introspective and subtle.

Fidelity Although the Cowherd and the Weaving Maiden can only see each other on the seventh day of the seventh month of every year, they do not give up on each other, and still pray every year for the moment of reunion. The story of the Cowherd and the Weaving Maiden to each other's feelings of fidelity, and the traditional Chinese culture of marriage to hold a lifetime of commitment to women have the same requirements of fidelity, which led to the circulation of the party between the different stories of the Tanabata, but also this point of fidelity of the common points, see the importance of traditional Chinese love to emphasize fidelity of the importance of the Tanabata story in the experience of time under the scrubbing, the fidelity of the meaning of the time-honored.

Traditional Chinese culture, y influenced by Confucianism's rituals, is more reserved in the expression of feelings, including love, as the old saying goes: "Do not look, do not see, do not hear". poetry and paintings. So in the many legends about the Tanabata Cowherd and the Weaving Maiden, not much ink is spent on directly expressing their love for each other, but rather more ink is spent on their lives, expressing their love for each other.

No freedom, no autonomy Although the Cowherd and the Weaving Maiden truly loved each other, their ending was doubly sad. Although their story moved heaven to meet each other on the seventh day of the seventh month every year, they had to suffer from the pain of longing for each other for three hundred and sixty-four days.

The story of Tanabata fully expresses the people's desire for freedom of love, the people's desire to love each other as the cowherd and the weaving maiden can be together, but also reflects the people's despair of being bound by destiny, they know that destiny is not good even if they are in love with each other, such as the cowherd and the weaving maiden suffer from the pain of lovesickness.

In fact, this is related to the ancient Chinese marriage system, because in ancient China, marriage was often subject to the order of parents, the words of matchmakers, because the father and the son of a more important than the husband and wife of a family, so based on the filial piety of the performance of the majority of the people also long for the freedom of independent love, but also on the blind marriage will not rebel, so the matter of freedom of love, they will be sent to the legend.

The song "Magpie Bridge Immortal" sings about the two stars, the Cowherd and the Weaving Maiden, with the line, "Tenderness is like water, good times are like a dream, and I can't bear to look at the road back to the Magpie Bridge. The author seems to resent that the lovers are not together enough, but in a twist of the pen, the author delivers the line, "If love lasts forever, what does it matter if it lasts forever and durations? It tells us that love is not just a child's play on the time of getting together. Although traditional Chinese love is not as passionate as Western love, it is not restricted by time and space, which makes Chinese love seem extra timeless.

Class Limitations Although the cowboys and the weaving maidens fall in love with each other, they have to suffer from longing for each other for three hundred and sixty-four days and see each other for one day. This has to do with the traditional Chinese culture's concept of love, which believes in 'bamboo door to bamboo door, wooden door to wooden door', and that a wrong match will only lead to a sad result, just like the pairing of the Cowherd and the Weaving Maiden in the Immortal World.

Traditionally in our culture, people believe that marriage is a bridge that connects one family to another, so there are political marriages that use marriage for profit, and under the influence of these wrong political marriages, marriage becomes a political tool, such as to promote the business relationship between two families, and so there is a restriction on class.

Unknown Grace and love Often, grace is regarded as love, and love is given in return for favor. In fact, the favor is to stand in the unfair position from the start, one in the high place to give grace, one in the low place to receive grace, but but can not afford to return the favor, had to 'give their bodies in return'. But this kind of favor is not love, and one of the most important conditions of love is that the man and the woman must stand on an equal footing to make emotional exchanges. There is no argument that gratitude should be rewarded, but it should not, and cannot, be rewarded with love. The uncertainty of love is the greatest misunderstanding of love in the Chinese tradition. Therefore, there is a story of the Tanabata circulating in this way, there is the beginning of the love for the Cowherd and the Weaving Maiden, such as one of the cowherd and the Weaving Maiden, the Weaving Maiden will promise the cowherd to be his wife.