Tang Ying, a real celebrity of the Republic of China: a woman who became king after divorce! Lifestyle has nothing to do with the environment.

"Southern Tang Dynasty and Northern Land" are the two most famous celebrities in modern history. Here, "Lu" refers to Lu Xiaoman, the wife of the poet Xu Zhimo, and "Tang" refers to a Shanghai celebrity.

No matter from which angle, Lu Xiaoman and Tang Ying have a lot in common. Judging from their origins, both of them were born in famous families; From the perspective of talent and appearance, both of them have peerless looks, are proficient in many languages and are good at Kunqu opera; From the experience, they both married rich children, divorced and remarried. .......

Two people with so many characteristics also performed on the stage and became close friends.

It happened that two people who were so similar ended up in opposite fates:

Lu Xiaoman spent a lot of money and got opium after his second marriage. In order to support her, Xu Zhimo had to do several part-time jobs at the same time, running back and forth, and eventually suffered an air crash. After her husband's death, Lu Xiaoman has been attached to married Weng Wurui to help her live. It was not until Weng Wurui went bankrupt that she found a job to support her old age. After her death, her ashes were unclaimed. .......

After her second marriage, Tang Ying took off her gorgeous clothes and began to take care of her husband and educate her children. While she achieved herself, she actively helped her husband achieve his career. In her later years, she was full of children and grandchildren, and finally, she died quietly with her children and grandchildren. ........

The ending of Lu Xiaoman and Tang Ying: one is extremely miserable and the other is extremely happy.

There is a saying in the Buddhist classic "Jue Yuan Sutra" that "all beings come to plant, and the fruits are still alive", which means that all the experiences in a person's life are the fruits of the "cause" he once planted.

So is the "fruit" of different endings in Tang Ying and Lu Xiaoman.

Tang Ying was born in 19 10. Her father, Tang Naian, is a famous doctor in Shanghai and studied in Germany in his early years. Her brother Tang Tuo is the confidential secretary of Song Ziwen, the finance minister of the National Government.

The Tang family is very rich, therefore, they have received the best education since childhood. As an adult, Tang Ying is not only talented and beautiful, but also good at Kunqu Opera and performance.

16 years old, with the help of her father, she quickly became a famous communication star in Shanghai. At that time, newspapers even regarded her as a typical example of encouraging women to enter social life. In Shanghai at that time, Tang Ying shone like a star.

Tang Ying's success as a star in that era was not only related to her good family education, but also to her own efforts.

Tang Ying is a woman who really takes "beauty" as her career. She has always been avant-garde about clothes. In Shanghai at that time, she was absolutely synonymous with fashion. She chose No.5 perfume Chanel perfume, CD lipstick, Celine clothes and LV handbag. .....

In order to strictly control her figure, Tang Ying is very particular about her diet. She made a timetable, which accurately marked the time for breakfast, afternoon tea and dinner. More importantly, she ate two meals accurately.

In order to establish his own image, Tang Ying also stipulated to himself: during eating, you can't play with bowls, chopsticks and tableware, and you can't talk while eating; If the soup is too hot, you can't blow it with your mouth. ......

Besides, Tang Ying has never relaxed her study. She studies dance, English, opera and so on, and she studies hard every time. Sometimes, in order to make the catwalk look better, she can even repeat thousands of exercises.

When Tang Ying plays a "rich boy", when she dances in Paramount in a long skirt, every gorgeous turn is flamboyant and luxurious. The world will never know how much effort Tang Ying has made behind this fascinating transformation.

A woman who demands so much from herself like Tang Ying must be a little totally honest and cherish her rejection. To put it bluntly, I cherish my feathers extremely.

Tang Ying knows that a real beauty is always independent, self-respecting, self-reliant and self-loving. In this way, she will naturally not gamble on the future fate for those illusory dreams and romantic love.

This is also the essential difference between her and Lu Xiaoman.

Like Lu Xiaoman, in the best years, Tang Ying met countless excellent suitors, and Song Ziwen was one of them. Because Tang Ying's brother Tang Tuo is Song Ziwen's secretary, Song Ziwen can often go to Tang Fu, so he met Tang Ying at the best age.

Song Ziwen, who fell in love with Tang Ying at first sight, quickly pursued her, and a passionate love letter was sent to Tang Ying. At that time, Song Ziwen was the richest and most graceful person in China. In the face of such a person, Tang Ying was naturally moved.

But when this relationship was opposed by her parents and family, she thought twice and chose to cut the gordian knot. Love is particularly charming in Lu Xiaoman's view, but it is full of sinister in Tang Ying's view. After explicitly rejecting Song Ziwen, she only locked more than 20 love letters he wrote to herself in a box as a souvenir.

After Tang was engaged to Li Zufa, the son of a wealthy businessman, the revolutionist fell in love desperately and seemed to fall in love.

1925 In the second half of the year, in order to bring Yang Xingfo and Tang Ying together and solve the love triangle between Lu Xiaoman, Wang Geng and Lu Xiaoman, Liu Haili hosted a banquet for a group of people in Shanghai Guodong Pavilion.

Everyone understands what Liu Haili said, which means that Wang Geng should agree to divorce Lu Xiaoman, and at the same time let Tang Ying give up his marriage with Li Zufa and stay with Yang Xingfo for love.

The dinner was awkward, but in the end it really solved the problem. Later, Lu Xiaoman successfully divorced Wang Geng.

But after the dinner, Tang Ying resolutely rejected Yang Xingfo, because in Tang Ying's eyes, since the engagement is fixed, it must be observed, which is the minimum moral bottom line. She can allow herself to break off her engagement with Li Zufa for other reasons, but she can't accept that she broke off her engagement because of "others".

Because of the latter, you will be branded as "disobedient".

It is perfectly normal for Tang Ying to make a completely different choice from Lu Xiaoman.

Real celebrities, generally like Tang Ying, are never willful, and never lose their chains at critical moments. They know that the world is dangerous, and they can only go far if they can carry it all the time.

As the saying goes, "Eating salted fish is thirsty. Who doesn't have the regret that' even taking Qi Mei as an example, it is difficult to make peace'? "

The difference is that Tang Ying has never been obsessed with these possible regrets. She always cuts and cuts, crunchy!

At this year's Shanghai Women's Troupe Art Conference held in the Central Grand Theatre, Lu Xiaoman and Tang Ying jointly performed Kunqu Opera "Picking up Paintings" and "Calling Paintings".

There is a photo of Lu Xiaoman and Tang Ying, with Lu Xiaoman shaking a folding fan and Tang Ying walking on the runway. Both are a play. Since then, the saying "Southern Tang and Northern Land" has become popular, and Tang Ying is very popular.

But when Tang Ying became more and more famous and her life became more and more lively, the contradiction between her and her husband began to appear more and more frequently. To some extent, what happened after Tang Ying and Lu Xiaoman got married is exactly the same.

As socialites, they are keen on socializing and like to be lively. It happened that they married a "science and engineering" man. Most of them prefer quiet to excitement, and they never have too many hobbies in their lives. Therefore, couples rarely have the same topic. After a long time, the bad blood between husband and wife naturally grows bigger and bigger.

1autumn of 935, Tang Ying and Yang Xianyi. Lin, president of Hujiang University, boarded the Shanghai Grand Theatre and performed the Peking Opera Wang Baochuan in English, which caused a sensation in Shanghai.

However, at this time, the contradiction between Tang Ying and her husband further expanded, and their private relationship was frozen.

The difference is that in the face of the same situation, Lu Xiaoman chose Xu Zhimo, who cheated in marriage, while Tang Ying chose: divorce first and then find the right one.

1937, when his son Ming Cho Lee just turned 6, Tang Ying resolutely broke off his engagement with her husband Li Zufa.

The reason why she dared to divorce her husband was simple, because Tang Ying had already thought it over. In this inappropriate marriage, she has made it clear what kind of man is really suitable for her and can accompany her for life. It's better to let the other person be free than to guard the unsuitable person.

At the same time, Tang Ying also believes that he will find a more suitable and excellent man after the divorce.

Some people say that confident women can communicate with God.

Because she was confident enough, Tang Ying was not depressed after the divorce. On the contrary, she is more comfortable in social life.

It is probably the most appropriate poem to describe Tang Ying's life after divorce. At this time, although she is nearly 30 years old, she is still charming, which suddenly eclipses all young women.

It was also during this period that Tang Ying met the love of his life: Rong Xianlin, nephew of Hong Rong, the father of overseas students. Rong Xianlin has a lively personality and diverse hobbies. Like Tang Ying, he likes dancing and literature. After having the same-sex interest, I soon felt the feeling of short meeting.

After her last marriage, Tang Ying has understood that what she needs is a man with the same sex interest, and she will join hands with him for life, and Rong Xianlin is just the most suitable candidate.

Soon, the two married in Singapore.

Compared with Li Zufa, who was married by Tang Ying for the first time, Rong Xianlin, who has four children, is obviously inferior to him economically. However, Tang Ying is not dissatisfied with this. She took the initiative to bid farewell to the gorgeous life in the past and began to live a life of caring for her husband and educating her children.

Every day, she takes her son Ming Cho Lee and four children of Rong Xianlin at home. In the process of raising children, she pays great attention to their personality development, and these children have achieved good results when they grow up. Especially her son, Ming Cho Lee, was later known as "the master of contemporary stage design in the world" and "the master of American stage design".

In the decades after marriage, Tang Ying and her husband had a harmonious relationship and the whole family was happy. Ming Cho Lee later said in memory:

Compared with Lu Xiaoman, who still lived a luxurious life after Xu Zhimo's second marriage, Tang Ying's life after her second marriage was completely different.

Tang Ying used to be a noble family. Like Lu Xiaoman, she was untouched. But after her second marriage, she not only began to take care of everything for her children, but even often cooked for her children and her husband. Ming Cho Lee said in memory:

After arriving in the United States with Rong Xianlin, in order to make a living, Tang Ying also actively helped her husband to contact customers by using his social relations.

No matter in the cloud or on earth, Tang Ying always keeps humble and tries to live a good life.

There is a saying that "the only difference between enduring life and enjoying life is mentality". Rich or poor, Tang Ying enjoys life all his life, which is the real lifestyle of a Shanghai celebrity.

In the days after the death of her husband Rong Xianlin, one's Tang Ying will also lead a colorful life.

Tang Ying, who really loves herself, knows how to take care of herself and live the best life under any circumstances. Alice thinks this is the real confidence of a senior beauty.

After being widowed, she didn't feel sorry for herself, but let herself know that "contentment is always happy."

She always arranged her time to be full and didn't give up dressing up because of her husband's death. She is as elegant as ever. In addition to accompanying her children, she also manages her own circle with care. Yan Youyun, the wife of Mr. Gu Weijun, was a frequent bosom friend in her later years. Occasionally they meet to play cards, and occasionally they live happily in the opera.

In her later years, she lived with her son, daughter-in-law and grandchildren. As long as she has time, she will cook for them by herself.

In a good mood, Tang Ying will take his grandchildren to the theater to watch movies and come back to eat snacks made by himself.

His son Ming Cho Lee respects and loves his mother very much. In order to take care of his mother conveniently, he also installed a "bell" in her room, but her mother never used it.

Tang Ying never bothers anyone, let alone depends on anyone. Her independence is beyond the imagination of contemporary women. Compared with Lu Xiaoman's dependence on men for a living, Tang Ying was independent all his life.

Even in her later years, she never refused to leave her affairs to others. When she was old, Tang Ying always insisted on refusing to hire a nanny. Every time her son said that she needed someone to take care of her, she shook her head and said, "You can touch yourself, why do you need someone to wait on you?" ? !

1986, Tang Ying died peacefully in his apartment in new york. When she left, she didn't hire a nanny, but the room was unusually clean and refreshing. She lay there quietly, as if she had just gone to sleep.

Tang Ying used her life to show people what a real Shanghai socialite should be like: she should remain calm and elegant even until the last moment of her life.

Tang Ying and Lu Xiaoman are both famous people in Shanghai, with similar fates but different endings. The fundamental reason lies in their different choices at critical moments in life.

Choice determines fate, and it is always people's thoughts that determine choice. In other words, what really determines the living method is the idea.

Tang Ying always knows what choice she should make at the most critical moment. The key to all this is that all her ideas are based on "truly loving yourself".

A person who truly loves herself is destined to be able to hold on forever, because she knows how to love and cherish herself!

The link is: Lu Xiaoman's bleak funeral: the ashes are unclaimed, and the memorial tomb was built by his nephew 23 years after his death.