How to deal with people in today's society in China

Harmony is the most important thing in getting along with people. Recently, I reviewed the Biographies of Historical Records, Lian Po and Lin Xiangru, and gained a deeper understanding of how to get along with others with harmony as the most important thing. Lian Po was a general of Zhao during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. He has made great achievements and won a great reputation. Even when he reached the official position, he was still under Lin Xiangru, so he tried to compete with Lin many times and deliberately humiliated him. As a prime minister, Lin Xiangru put national interests first in everything, did not care about personal gains and losses with the general, and skillfully avoided the dispute with Lian. The virtue of attaching importance to peace finally persuaded General Lian. General Lian corrected his mistake and humbly apologized. From then on, peace will prevail and the country will prosper. Harmony is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, and "harmony is precious" is just a typical example. The philosophy of valuing harmony requires people to have kindness, humility, gentle spirit and kindness, which is complementary to other religious teachings such as fraternity and kindness. In fact, getting along with people is an inescapable reality from ancient times to modern times. The most basic and important knowledge to master in life is how to get along with people. Whether you get along well or not has a great influence on your study, work, life, thoughts and feelings, behavior and even life safety. There are many ways to get along with people, and harmony is the most practical one. And can form a resultant force. From the big country to the small family, unity from top to bottom and harmony from left to right will be invincible, invincible and invincible. "Unity is strength" and "home and everything prosper" are well-known truths, all of which come down to the word "harmony". And can resolve conflicts. As the saying goes, if you smile, your hatred will be forgotten. Many contradictions in life can be solved as long as they are handled in a friendly way. If both sides of the contradiction meet each other half way, we can roll with the punches and turn the small things into nothing. And the defensive ability when attacking. When you are rude to others or do harm to others unintentionally, you will be in a passive position, which will be completely different from the result of discord. If you can treat others with kindness, you will turn passivity into initiative, take defense as attack, and value harmony, thus gaining the understanding and respect of others. If you insist on your own opinions and have no goodwill, it will expand the situation, or even both sides will be hurt and it will be difficult to clean up. And can be soft and tough. Some things can't be done by force, but soft methods can be used. Sometimes, it's just a show. A drop of water can pierce a stone, but a rope can saw wood. There are countless examples of soft life center. People who know how to cherish harmony in real life are always more popular than those who disagree with each other. As the saying goes, slapping doesn't make people laugh. You can, so why not? Therefore, relatives, colleagues and neighbors should live in harmony to achieve * * *, be kind to others, make suggestions, talk about ideas, and solve problems in a gentle rain; Tension should be eased, disputes should be reconciled, knowledge should be modest, and people should be gentle; It is necessary to cultivate the heart of kindness, popularize the virtue of kindness, create a harmonious situation, and make all undertakings develop smoothly. Of course, harmony is not a panacea for all diseases, nor is it unprincipled tolerance and accommodation, nor is it weakness. Harmony is the most important thing, not being a "peacemaker" in everything. Facing arrogant enemies, ferocious gangsters and criminals, we can never make peace. Small can be flexible, and the principle must be adhered to. Only among the people can there be peace. Therefore, when getting along with others, we should also remember that harmony cannot be achieved. How to do the best still needs lifelong study and practice.