Rural youth find objects difficult, where the problem lies

Currently, the vast majority of rural areas, male youth to find objects difficult has become an indisputable social fact, some people say: "Rural youth to find objects difficult to find, difficult to get to the sky," although a little exaggerated, but it does reflect this more serious social phenomenon.

A few days ago, Henan Zhumadian region, a single beauty of the Spring Festival back to the village, just back to the village on the first day of the blind date 20 young men, it is said that the local unmarried young women are few, older young men are everywhere.

There is also news that Pizhou City, under the jurisdiction of Xuzhou City, Jiangsu Province, held a county-wide matchmaking conference, and 100 unmarried men reportedly came, but only 20 unmarried women came to the scene.

The difficulty of choosing a spouse for a young man is obvious to all, and the age trend is showing an older age, especially in rural areas, it is even more difficult to choose a spouse, in many villages, thirty-something bachelors can be seen everywhere, and if in the 2000s, thirty-something children can be dragged to a bottle of oil.

What is the reason for the difficulty of choosing a spouse for a young man in the countryside?

Some people say that it is mainly due to the imbalance of the male-female ratio, which seems to have become a **** knowledge, but the male-female ratio is actually only about 100:107, but the actual situation is more serious, which is not simply an imbalance of the male-female ratio so simple.

In my opinion, the deeper reason still lies in the rural single men.

The first reason: "not economically independent, difficult to bear the responsibility of supporting the family," the current rural single young people mainly in the post-90s, most of them in the parents carefully cared for under the growth, did not go through any trials and tribulations, the level of education is not high, most of the junior high school education, coupled with little skill, so can only play odd jobs or into the factory to do factory work, but the only way to do it, is to do a good job, but also to do the work of the family. Or into the factory to do factory work, but even if the part-time work is often difficult to be quiet, three days fishing two days sun net, so there is no learned skills, which led to the economic difficulties of independence, full of nibbling on the old family.

The second reason: personality defects, many single young people addicted to the game, brush the video, play a lot of fun, but in reality it is a barrier to communication with others, always care about their subjective feelings, ignoring the other party's interest or will. The fact that you have a personality is a double-edged sword, if your personality can make others feel comfortable, naturally you can attract the opposite sex, if the personality hurts others, the relationship does not blow up.

A friend in the matchmaking industry told me, "Some older men are still chauvinistic, self-righteous, rude, and have no **** feelings, and will not stand in the woman's point of view to communicate with each other, and every blind date is a failure to end."

"Some lads, you help him point out the problem, they not only do not appreciate you, but hate you, like this how can find a girlfriend?" The friend lamented.

The third reason: their parents' views are also relatively backward, that the village built a house, a little spend a little bride price to do a banquet on everything. In fact, the reform and opening up for more than 40 years, women's thinking, including their parents have changed a lot, the traditional village has a house to give a little bride price can not meet the requirements of the woman.

The fourth reason: the current rural women's economic independence and changes in the concept of choosing a spouse, in the past, the traditional rural women are not out of the house, the husband and mothering children, living a life of men outside the women's home. But what about now? Women can go out to work, they can earn money, do not have to rely on the man, once the economic independence, so their choice of spouse requirements are higher, whether it is material, spiritual they hope to find a suitable partner.

Secondly, the cultural level of rural women has increased dramatically compared to the past, the vast majority of them have accepted the nine-year compulsory system, some of them went to high school, technical school and university, which is completely different from the rural girls before 2000, economically independent, the cultural level of the enhancement of the rural girls, so that the rural girls are transformed into a different world, can not be seen from the countryside. Therefore, in terms of choosing a spouse, they hope that the man in all aspects of the show excellent side.

Some girls say, "I'd rather not marry, can not be wrong," although the real life of rural older unmarried women are also a lot of them are not worried about marrying, but refused to commit to marry.

So how do rural youth break the mold to find their other half?

As the saying goes, iron still needs its own hard, rural youth should first change their own concepts, especially macho individualism must be discarded, strengthen their own cultural learning, improve their own cultivation, to be a person with emotional quotient, to be a man of humor and fun.

Secondly, there must be the ability to support the family, the economy must be independent rather than relying on parents, so it is also imperative to learn a skill, and can no longer be confused, nothing.

Economically not independent, even if you rely on parents can not be long, after all, once married, the population increased, spending increased, parents can not help too much in old age.

Some people say that girls are too materialistic, so it makes it difficult for rural men to choose a spouse. In fact, to put it in another way, it's not that girls are too materialistic, it's that they've progressed, they're better than they used to be, and the boys are outdated and their mindset is still stuck in the past.

If you are fragrant, butterflies come, if you are wonderful, blessings come, if you are excellent, fate comes, the world is a truth.

Instead of envying fish at the abyss, it is better to retreat and knot the net, their own strong, their own excellent, where to go, you are the most shining that boy!