Some people say that the "invisible patriarchy" is sweeping through families with two children, is it true?

Since this topic has been brought up again and again, more and more families have begun to realize the importance of their daughters. However, there are some families who, while appearing to show fairness to both boys and girls, are in fact just making the favoritism less easy to spot.

In the hit variety show "Teenagers Speak," a high school girl took to the stage to complain about her father's favoritism, and counted the "three sins" of her father's preference for boys.

①Smacking her daughter for being fat, she raised her son to be a chubby little man

The girl said her father hated her for being fat, so she started losing weight in the fifth grade. However, when her brother was born, instead of disliking him for being fat, her dad raised him to be a little chubby.

②Never Worried About His Daughter's Grades, but Cared for His Son

The girl said her father never worried about her studies. Instead, he took care of her brother by driving him to and from school every day.

3) Strict with his daughter but lenient with his son

The father has been quite strict with his daughter since she was a little girl. But when it comes to his own son, he is always very forgiving.

However, in the face of his daughter's questioning, the father continues to be sophomoric.

The daughter asked, "Have you ever controlled me since I was a child? Ever give me a parent-teacher conference?"

Till now, the father still refuses to admit it, and even calls his younger brother over and tells him to tell his sister, "Sis, I won't compete with you for favor anymore."

This statement may seem as if the father has compromised. But judging from the expression on the father's face, it was quite disdainful, even resentful.

Though this patriarchal favoritism was no longer plainly on the surface. But this kind of invisible favoritism is like a blunt knife cutting flesh, hurting the daughter's heart even more.

Invisible patriarchy, how are they?

1, double standard for two children

Like the father of the high school girl, strict requirements for the daughter, but quite tolerant of the son. This kind of double standard happens in many families from time to time.

They think that their daughter is going to be the one to go out on a limb, so they have to be a little bit stricter with her, so she can be more capable in the future. But it's not the same for the son, he'll get married and have kids with the help of his family, so try to make him happier.

There are even parents who raise their daughters to be good, just so they can enjoy their daughter's rewards later on in a dignified manner and have her help her brother.

No help?

Then you're a white wolf, if you didn't have the support of your family, could you be where you are today?

Just this one move, eat your daughter to death!

2. Equal in small things, but never consider the daughter's thoughts in big things

Maybe they show it in their lives that the two children are rained out and quite equal. For example, when I buy something for your brother, there is a share for you. However, in the big things, such as the distribution of inheritance, buy a house, these things, the benefits of the first time to think of the son, there is something to contribute to the ground but the first to think of the daughter.

It is simply the family version of "something Zhong Wuyan, nothing Xia Yingchun"!

3, to the girl obviously lack of patience

While they will always put the equality of men and women on the lips, but once the son on a thousand good and good, patient very much. But when it comes to their daughters, they don't have the basic patience, and they don't even care much about her studies.

They think that what they are doing is not patriarchal, but they are just hiding the truth. Children are very delicate, and they know exactly what is fair or not!