How can we get rid of the shackles of traditional thinking and live a high life?

What should a woman do to get rid of all kinds of bondage? What about live high? Ma Xiaoyun, a doctor of psychology, has answered this question well in her new book "Undefined Women".

The Undefined Woman first explains the influence of the collective subconscious on women from a psychological point of view, and then accompanies us to break those unreasonable rules and restrictions from five dimensions: psychological confusion, self-cognition, love and relationship, work and dream, and physical and mental healing, thus becoming a stronger and braver self.

Restrictions of traditional social rules

Gender "female" is the first ordeal after a woman is born. You are a girl, so you are defined as a "weak" carrier by your elders. There is no need to inherit the heavy responsibility of the family and fight for the cause. Be a good girl, learn to do housework, read some books and get married.

When you grow up, if you don't follow the established script, you will be spurned. Even if you study well and have a successful career, as long as you don't enter the marriage hall before the age of 30, the pointing eyes and comments behind you will drown you out.

Because society has long drawn rules for women, and you are not allowed to rebel.

The confrontation between self and tradition makes it difficult for many women to take a brave step and be forced to become aphasic.

Sadly, many women live in the eyes of others all their lives to meet their expectations.

I have never seen my real inner needs, and I dare not express this inner desire, so I am walking on thin ice.

Poisonous fairy tale script

In addition to the restrictions and harsh criticisms of women by ideological dross that have been visible for thousands of years, there are also some soft poison scripts that are eroding women's brains. Like a fairy tale.

When we were young, we grew up listening to the stories of Cinderella, Mermaid and Little Red Riding Hood. We thought that the suffering princess didn't need any effort. As long as she resigned herself and waited hard, the prince riding a white horse would fall from the sky, save herself and live a happy life from now on.

But will the truth really be as beautiful as a fairy tale? Don't! Fairy tales give girls illusions, make them content with the status quo, give up their struggle, and pin all their self-ideals on men. Unconsciously became a vassal.

In real life, a princess may not be happy when she marries a prince. After the initial sweetness, there is no right to speak and security in this marriage relationship, and the two will only go further and further. Women are often the biggest victims, and suffering does not necessarily bring men's pity. After being forced to leave, they will lose confidence in their hearts.

Poisonous fairy tales convey values that distort the mind.