What does ancient marriage mean?

Ancient marriages were the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers. If parents are gone, it's up to my brother to decide. If there is no brother, the marriage will be presided over by the nearest uncle, uncle or elder. Generally speaking, married daughters have no right to inherit their parents' inheritance. Even if parents have no sons, married daughters have no right to inherit their parents' inheritance, and can only be inherited by designated adopters. )

Of course, in ancient times, there were very few young men and women who decided on lifelong events privately. In this case, if you meet enlightened parents, you will rely on your children. If you meet stubborn parents, even men and women elope.

In ancient times, there was no so-called openness, so most marriages depended on parents' orders and matchmakers' words. There are many factors to gamble, such as early marriage. , but there is no way. In ancient times, women were not allowed to go out, and they could only stay in Xiulou when they were unmarried. Many legendary love stories are stories of love at first sight outside the high wall of Xiulou. The introduction of the matchmaker is also entrusted by all parties.

From the Han Dynasty, women could not appear in public. A well-behaved girl from a government family can only stay in the boudoir before becoming a monk, learning needlework such as piano, chess, painting, darning and embroidery, so the boudoir of a young lady is generally called Xiulou. Born in a poor family, a daughter may do some work with her parents, but she also does it at sunrise and stays at sunset. You can't go out alone.

In ancient times, parents were agents for their children to talk about marriage, because men and women could not meet before marriage. After the parents of both parties negotiate, they can find a matchmaker to fix them up. If parents are gone and there are no brothers, then the elders of the same clan are needed to support the marriage.

The ancient matchmaker system is a pioneering work, which is equivalent to getting married with a marriage certificate now. In ancient times, the combination of matchmakers' words was recognized!

In ancient marriage, the words of the matchmaker came from Mencius-Teng Wengong II: If you don't wait for your parents' orders, the words of the matchmaker will peep at each other and follow each other over the wall, then your parents and people are despicable! "

This means that if you don't listen to your parents and matchmakers, you will be despised by people in society and regarded as a bitch. Under the arrangement of parents and matchmakers, marriage and love make the church reasonable and "legal"!

In ancient times, it can also be said that during the feudal dynasty, to what extent did the marriage model decay? For example, parents refer to their abdomen as marriage; The matchmaker arranges blind dates between men and women, and the man only looks at the size of the woman's feet. Feet are beautiful and good women; There are also blind dates where men and women are not allowed to meet, and the woman "peeks through the curtain"; Wait, both men and women can't understand each other's personality cultivation, hobbies, personality and character; Whether the three views are consistent, not to mention. These, first, stem from the backwardness of society and the decay of the dynasty; Second, it stems from the decadent marriage model and the patriarchal atmosphere!

For example, in feudal society, the marriage between men and women was not independent, and women were definitely vulnerable groups in society. When a woman marries a man's house, she is basically a servant and a tool and role of traditional inheritance. There are many rotten "child brides"!

When the husband has a new lover, or for other reasons, the man can unilaterally dissolve the marriage relationship between the two at any time, that is, divorce and marriage separation, and mercilessly throw the woman's advice into the emotional desert and abandon it in the boundless journey of life. From the present point of view, the women in that period were really pitiful, and the man's behavior and decadent marriage model were really shocking and indignant!