What does stepping on tiles in wedding custom signify?

◆◇Crossing the fire bowl and stepping on the tiles: When the bride enters the hall, she has to cross the fire bowl and step on the broken tiles.

The first symbolism: "stepping on tiles" means that the past is like broken tiles and a new life begins.

The second symbolizes that a fireplace and tiles should be placed in front of the threshold of the hall, and the bride is invited to step over the fireplace and then step on the tiles, which is commonly known as "crossing the fire" and "breaking the fire".

◆◇Ancient Wedding Customs:

(1) Marriage Proposal

Marriage proposal is equivalent to the ancient "Nacai" and "asking for name". In the old days, Zhangzhou's marriages placed great importance on matchmaking, "although the world contract, non-matchmakers do not conclude". The matchmaker is the key person in the marriage negotiation stage.

1. Exploring the family style

Also known as the "family style" and "family style". In the formal marriage before, both men and women should try to understand each other's family situation, especially the woman is more careful, beforehand to ask their relatives to go to the male family to explore the wind, to understand the other family members of the person, and to find out their economic situation.

2.Seek 庚

The man prepared the name card gift, let the matchmaker to the woman's home to ask for marriage. The woman agreed to propose marriage will accept the gift, and will be married to the girl's birth date written on red paper (Hakka white paper), generally write "Kun Zao year so and so month so and so day so and so," as a Geng post to the matchmaker to the male.

3. Marriage

The man received the woman's post on the gods, ancestors case divination, and then the woman's post on the table under the incense burner for three days. During this period, such as human and animal peace, no quarrels, illness or broken dishes and other love affairs, can be said to be "three days round" or "three days good". Three days later, please fortune-teller "marriage", according to the birth of both men and women to determine whether the two are suitable for marriage. In the old days, after the birth of their daughters, if the birth is not perfect, parents asked the fortune-teller to forge a prosperous husband, prosperous family, full of wealth reservoir of good "eight characters", so the proverb: "male life is not false, female life is not real. The marriage is purely a matter of self-deception.

If the two sides of the fate of the match, the man will be their own post and prepare gift cakes, red packets to the woman. Geng post is usually sent to the man's uncle, pick loaded with gift cakes and red envelopes of money in a red lacquer bamboo basket, to the woman's home from the door straight up to the hall, will be red basket on the table, told the woman's ancestors that there are people to the word of their offspring to propose marriage. The parents of the woman's ancestors after worship to open the post, but also asked the fortune-teller marriage.

4. Matchmaking

After the marriage, both sides prepared gifts, and the matchmaker accompanied the elders to the other side's home for matchmaking. The girl must personally receive the male guests, serving tea and honoring the guests.

The two sides are satisfied with each other can be betrothed, by the parents of both sides to agree on the bride price, bride price and trousseau thick and thin, and roughly determine the date of completion of the marriage. The date of marriage is preferred to be set in the year of the dragon, but not in the year of the tiger. The seventh month of the lunar calendar is the month of ghosts, and the wedding date will not be set in this month. The age of the man and woman together exactly 50 years old will not be married. Hakka people in the third and sixth months of the lunar calendar to avoid proposing marriage, do not marry, there is "Tianshui Bai, inauspicious" said.

After the two sides reached an agreement, the woman issued a gift list.

(2) Engagement

The engagement is the ancient equivalent of "Naji", "Nazheng" and "please period", and is considered to be the beginning of the wedding ceremony. From this point on until some time after the wedding, men and women and their relatives are not allowed to participate in the funeral, so as to avoid "red and white conflict", which is not favorable to the happy family. The betrothal includes the following rites and customs:

1. Wen Ding" or "Send Ding". Male female elders accompanied by the matchmaker, in the chosen auspicious day will be agreed upon gifts sent to the female family as a fixed employment. Gifts are generally fabrics, candles, sugar, thread, orange cake, betel nut, Lao, lotus seed, pork, gift cakes, peanut sugar, tobacco and alcohol, as well as rings and jewelry, often into 12 colors.

The woman's family should be iced tea and sugar glutinous rice porridge to entertain the male guests, to be married to the woman to go up to the hall to serve sweet tea. Guests to accept sweet tea should send a red envelope for the "pressure tea ou" gift. Female parents will be sent by the male side of the ring on the finger of the girl to be married, to complete the "food fixed" ceremony.

When the male guests leave, the woman should return the joint towel (two together face towel) and other gifts. At the same time, both men and women should give gift cakes and candies to their friends and neighbors to show that the marriage has been settled.

2. Hiring

This is also known as "hiring" or "sending a big decision". The man's family sends the agreed-upon bride price to the woman's family on an auspicious day. The bride price is emphasized in pairs, including an even number of bride price senders, and the cage and stretcher of the bride price should be labeled with red paper, with the eldest member of the male family picking one stretcher and walking in the forefront.

The bride price includes a wedding book, gold, silk and livestock, bride price, jewelry, fabrics, dresses, gift cakes, whole pigs, wine, chickens and ducks, carrying sugar, red rounds and other confectionery, etc. Among them, gift cakes, carrying sugar and other confectionery. The number of gift cakes, candies and pastries is determined by the woman to ensure that there are enough to distribute to the woman's relatives, friends and neighbors. In addition, each household is required to present a bowl of red dumplings. In some places, only the wedding book and gold, silk and sacrificial gifts, etc., dresses and other agreed upon gifts from the male party to send another time, known as the "Zoroastrian".

The male party to send gifts should be open invitation, listing the number of gifts. Such as: a pair of wedding books, a number of bride price, a hairpin, two chickens and ducks. Should be written on the "wedding book into the pass, the bride-price full seal, hairpin full vice, the German bird into a pair, the family mallard four wings" and other words. When the bride price is delivered, the woman's home to welcome the cannon, to gifts to honor the ancestors, and in accordance with the rituals to receive people. The woman can not accept all the gifts, to cut off the ribs and pig's feet for the male guests to bring back, known as the "bottom of the basket" or "return trip". The woman may also give back other gifts, such as the groom's clothes, shoes and socks, the future aunt's shoes and socks, and so on.

After receiving the bride price, the woman has to prepare the dowry. The dowry of the rich family is called "the whole hall surface", including the daughter's lifelong use of goods, from small toilet, needle and thread, to large deeds of land, deeds, and even coffins and life clothes, known as "life and death do not ask for people". In the old days, rich families married off their daughters with "□(Yinggan)"(媵婢) as dowry. The poor family dowry is only "half hall surface": a few sets of clothes, pollen, mirror trousseau, scissors, ruler, quilt, tent and some daily necessities. The dowry usually includes a toilet, which is a symbol of an early birth. In addition to prepare a pair of "road with the chicken" as a dowry, road with the chicken should be selected just crowing rooster and the hen will lay eggs. The day of the wedding with a red head rope or red satin, each end of the bundle of a chicken's feet, so that the rooster and hen side by side and squatting, loaded into the new rice basket, by the bride with (bridesmaids) mentioned the groom's home.

3. Sending the day

Men choose an auspicious day to meet the bride and the consent of the woman, they will write a red post to officially inform the woman of the date of marriage and sedan chair should be avoided when the people who are in conflict with the genus, and then act according to the rituals. Thus, there is a saying: "next door to do affection, etiquette in accordance with the line."

(1) add makeup and add Ding

After the recruitment, both men and women have to send gift cakes and candies to their friends and neighbors. After the day of delivery, the woman's friends and relatives to send red packets or gifts to the woman's home, called "add makeup"; the man's friends and relatives to send red packets or gifts for the man "add Ding". The gifts must be delivered before the wedding day, otherwise it is unlucky and the wedding family will not accept them.

(2) Tailoring Wedding Clothes

After the day of delivery, both men and women should choose a day to worship the gods and offer incense, and then tailor the wedding clothes, which is called "opening and cutting". In addition to the dress, but also cut the bride and groom's white underwear. After the wedding, the bride should properly collect this set of underwear, until her death and then change into this set of underwear into the coffin. It is said that this move contains the meaning of chastity; it is also said that Chen Yuanguang entered Zhangzhang and advocated the intermarriage of Han and She, when the She men were killed in battle, the She women agreed to wear white underwear to mourn the dead. The bride's wedding clothes are red jacket and red skirt, with embroidered red shoes, and the clothes should be embroidered with "?" shape for good luck. shape to pray for good luck, commonly known as "playing the word".

(3) pulling the face

Before the bride is married, we should choose a day to worship the gods and incense, and ask professional women to "pull the face", that is, with a fine line of cross-hair strung off the bride's face. Commonly known as "open face", indicating that the adult out of the cabinet.

(4) bed

Marriage before the male family to the cave room is properly arranged, first of all, to choose an auspicious day to bed hanging tents. The bed must be placed in the direction of the beams of the house, otherwise known as the "Tambourine", unlucky. After the bed is ready to invite one or two dragon (followed by the snake) boys climbed on the new bed roll play, symbolizing the bride even birth, said "turn the bed".

Cutting the wedding clothes, pulling the face and bed can not let the widow, Tiger women to participate in or watch. Congratulatory couplets, hanging scrolls and other gifts from friends and relatives should be displayed in the hall, and the hanging scroll sent by the groom's uncle should be hung in the center of the hall. Three pinches of incense and a pair of red candles should be lit in the hall.

On the eve of the wedding, the woman's parents will be invited to the man's home to decorate the bridal chamber with new bedding, mirror trousseau, chest and cabinets. Before the wedding, the groom can not spend the night alone in the new room, there must be one or two men of the same generation to sleep with, known as "warm room". Sleeping companion preferred for the dragon, avoid choosing the tiger.

(C) marriage

In accordance with the orthodox family rituals, the wedding of the "pro welcome" is one of the six rituals, and is attached great importance. But Zhangzhou in the Qing Dynasty, "the customs of the countryside are not personally welcome," has not emphasized the groom personally to meet the bride, many are invited to "good fortune" (the blessing of the person) to meet the bride on behalf of the door. But the details of the marriage is very careful, meticulous.

1. Out of the cabinet

The bride out of the cabinet ceremony is complicated, and the counties (districts) vary. In the Qing Dynasty, Zhangzhou married women to have a "nanny wing to line". Everywhere there are women who specialize in hosting such ceremonies, known as the "marriage". She has to accompany the bride to the husband's home, all the ceremonies hosted and guided by her.

(1) Head Start

The bride is bathed in a soup of fragrant flowers and pomegranate leaves on her wedding day and puts on her wedding clothes. The bridegroom asks the bride to walk to the hall, singing, "Please come out of the hall, be a good name." After the bride comes out, the bridegroom takes the bride by the hand and sits her down on an inverted bucket of rice in a large oracle (sound of two) (a shallow, flat, round basket made of gabions used for drying grain) in the hall, singing, "Sit in the right place, and the bride will be loved by others." Then the elders or the "lucky" women comb her hair, pin her hair in a bun, and put flowers on her head, which is called "Shangtou" (head-dressing). In some cases, the mother (or other female elders if the mother is not present) puts jewelry on her head in front of the shrine in the hall to show that she has brought up an adult. This ceremony is a remnant of the ancient maturity ceremony. The bride will also wear a phoenix crown, some places to insert jasmine grass on the head to get rid of evil spirits, insert pomegranate heart leaves to show that more knot your son, insert early rice ears to show that the early child.

After the bride is dressed, the whole family gathers to eat a farewell banquet. The feast is a fixed 12-course meal, known as the "Twelve Bowls of Round". After the meal, the bride says goodbye to her friends and relatives, and then retires to her inner room.

(2)Getting on the sedan chair

After the arrival of the men's wedding party, the bridesmaids repeatedly urged the bride to take with her a small mirror of the brake system and a bag filled with symbols of the "even birth of a noble son, a hundred children and a thousand grandchildren," lotus seeds, peanuts, osmanthus, pomegranates, jasmine hearts and other good luck, out of the hall to the gods, the gods and goddesses of ancestors and parents kneeling to say goodbye to the gods, ancestors and goddesses of God. and their parents.

Parents cover their daughters' heads, and the bridegroom sings, "The scarf covers the head, and the bride is a wise and capable son-in-law." Family members will be lit firecrackers thrown on the roof, and use the rice sieve to cover the bride's head, so that the bride does not see the sun, parents then help the bride on the sedan chair.

Inside the sedan chair, there are more red round seeds and melon candy, the bride all the way to throw the melon candy, meaning that this road can always come and go.

(3)Leaving Home

The bride gets into the sedan chair and throws out a paper fan from the sedan chair, which is called "letting go of sex (temper)". The father will be a bowl of water thrown behind the sedan chair, which is the ancient custom of marrying a woman to avoid "big return" (backtracking).

The sedan chair started, the bride should be in the sedan chair bawling, so-called "crying good life", "crying prosperity". At the same time, the bride's family immediately closed the door or a rice sieve to block the door, and in some places the bride's mother has to sit on the threshold, so as to avoid the bride's family's fortune, the earth's gas was taken away, but also means that the bride to avoid backtracking.

2. welcome relatives

Old times, to meet the bride with a sedan chair. 20 years, Zhangzhou city opened up the road, began to meet the bride with a horse-drawn carriage; later changed to use a yellow car, bicycle, car to meet the bride. Rural areas in the 1950s to gradually abandon the sedan chair, to take the passenger car to meet the bride; 70 years after the popular bicycle, tractor or car to meet the bride.

Welcoming relatives to choose an auspicious time to leave, usually arranged in the early hours of the morning. Before going on the road, the people concerned to eat a banquet, there are 12 dishes on the table, including a plate of roasted carp shall not move, the rest of the plate everyone must eat.

In the old days, the rich family to meet the marriage team on the road by two servants to hold a pair of red lanterns writing the family name in front of the team to guide, followed by the eight-note band, a dowry to send the oilcloth sedan chair, five to the bridesmaids and the younger uncle sitting in the red color of the bamboo curtain sedan chair, a top to the groom to sit in the official sedan chair without hanging bamboo curtains slightly decorated, a top of the four people to carry the decorations of exquisite sedan chair, and finally is the full of gifts, dowry to carry the □ (box, loaded with gifts) The last one is the dowry box (a large wooden box for gifts). The number of boxes of 12 boxes, 24 boxes, up to 60 boxes, commonly known as "hundred two kong" (120 people carry). General civilian marriage procession only one or two sedan chair, band and carry the number of box is also small, by the two boys with the root of the leaves of the sugar cane each pick a pair of red lanterns in front of the team, the team last one picking the bag, containing the bucket and the bucket of children and grandchildren (birth pots). In some places, the bride-welcoming team is made up of people who are "dragging the green" at the end. Most of the "drag Qing" is a boy, drag is complete branches of pine or banyan branches, some drag head and tail complete fresh bamboo.

When the bridegrooming party arrives at the door of the woman's house, firecrackers are set off. After three bursts of firecrackers, the woman's family opens the door and invites the procession to enter. The man's family sends two salutes, one reading "Marriage of Two Families" and the other "A Hundred Sons and a Thousand Grandchildren". The woman's family takes in the "marriage of two surnames" and gives the "one hundred children and one thousand grandchildren" one back to the man's family.

Next, the woman's family hosts a banquet to welcome the bridegroom. The male side to accompany the groom to meet the bride "robe frame" (bridesmaids) in the booth to try to steal two wine cups, brought back to the male family in the bridal chamber under the new bed, it is said that the bride can make early birth. Women's home on the male bridesmaids to steal wine cups to pretend not to find.

Eat a banquet, the male groomsmen urged the bride on the sedan chair. The bride to find a variety of excuses to put off, after several times urged to go out of the hall ready to depart. After the bride on the sedan chair, the bridegroom team took the dowry, sometimes plus the woman is ready to bring to the in-laws planted with the root of the bamboo, return to the male family. If the woman has a servant girl with the dowry, she will also go with the bride in the sedan chair. Hakka custom, the woman should be held in the hands of "fire dragon" (torch) to send the marriage with the trip, called "open road brake".

Welcome the wedding party along the way drums and blowing (musical instruments), each through the village, temples, bridges should be fired across the road. To the male door to the sedan chair will be parked in a large oracle □ (sound two), waiting for the auspicious time. Good time to arrive, the groom to kick the sedan chair door, so that the bride jumped, it is said that the groom will not be afraid of the future. Sending the bridegroom to open the door of the sedan chair, the younger uncle to hold a red lacquer plate with two red mandarin please the bride off the sedan chair, the bride returned to the red envelope. Then by the "good life" (high longevity, many children and grandchildren, husband and wife) of the old woman to help the bride out of the sedan chair. The bridegroom sings: "The bride steps on the earth, the birth of a girl good girl mold; step on the Yi in (stable), the birth of a girl fat lion lion." At the same time, some elders use the rice sieve (now more umbrellas) with gossip to cover the bride's head, and others spread red carpets or new mats or red-dyed sacks on the ground to let the bride walk through the door.

The bridegroom with the bride into the door, the mouth to sing good words, such as over the threshold singing: "over the door (sound fixed, the door), have to eat and have to wear" and so on. Bride into the door of etiquette in Zhangzhou, different places: some places at the moment to the fire in the hearth doused with water, and do not allow the bride to step on the threshold, so as to avoid the bride's temper, driving over others. In the event that the bride stepped on the threshold to go, will secretly lift the rice sieve in her head to lower the pressure on the crown, so that she is frightened to break this trick. In some places, on the contrary, to build a charcoal stove or burn a handful of straw, so that the bride "across the fire Kaoru", and to the bride to step on the threshold. Some places when the bride to the door of the elders to temporarily avoid, so as to avoid "collision". Hakka people when the bride to enter the door to slaughter a chicken, in front of the door to put a few bowls for the bride to cross, said "stop the door chicken.

If the bride's birth characters in the crime of "broken family" or "broken in-laws", the wedding hosts will be at the gate in advance to put a piece of intact tile, the bride stepped on a broken tile, next to the people then said: "It's all broken! It's all broken!" This is to avoid the defects in the eight characters.

3. Marriage

The ceremony of marriage in Zhangzhou consists roughly of the ancient worship and fm radio. The man has to hire an insider to officiate the ceremony, called a "steward".

After the bride enters the house, the steward holds a round bucket in his hand and guides the bride to the hall by singing good words and scattering grains in the bucket as he walks. The steward sings loudly, the new couple first worship heaven and earth, and then worship parents, and then husband and wife to worship into the ceremony.

After worship in the bridegroom under the guidance of the bridegroom to red satin to lead the bride into the bridal chamber, both sitting on the edge of the bed, while the hall fired a cannon, began to feast guests.

The bride into the bridal chamber, the groom's family to put the road chicken under the bed, and then sprinkle rice to lure, and find ways to make the rooster came out first, the bride's first baby boy omen. The hen laying eggs within a day or two is also seen as a good omen for the bride to give birth to a child early. Marriage Sending M in the bridal chamber before and after the non-stop singing good words, she taught the groom to use the scales to pick off the bride's head of the red or black silk cover, and guide the new couple to eat in the bridal chamber by the 12 dishes composed of the "bride's table". The bridegroom pours wine into a pair of wine cups linked by a red thread, and the new couple passes the cups to each other and drinks the fm radio wine together. Then, the bridegroom and the bride are given dishes to eat, and every time they eat a dish, she sings an auspicious word related to the dish. The 12 dishes symbolize 12 months, and every month is full of happiness. The "Good Fortune Man" lights a pair of red candles in the bridal chamber. From this night onwards, the light in the bridal chamber will be kept on all night for 13 consecutive nights.

The groom's uncle sits at the head of the banquet in the hall, and the groom's father, as the host, makes a toast to the guests. After three rounds of wine, the bride and groom to come out to toast, the end of the seat to send off the guests, to the door and stop. In some places, the bride has to stay in the cave, only by the groom and parents to come out to toast. In the Hakka wedding banquet, by the bride's uncle or brother sitting in the chief.

During the Qing Dynasty, Zhangzhou had the custom of watching the bride and haunting the cave. "On the day of the first wedding, relatives and friends crowded in, demanding to see the new bride and mocking the new son-in-law." After the wedding banquet, the new couple sat on the edge of the bed, male left and female right, the middle of the insertion of a boy, the bridegroom and others to sit, one or two boys on the bed tumbling and jumping playful, to symbolize the bride's early birth of a noble son. The bride to the crowd to distribute candy, peanuts, candied fruit, etc., the crowd ate while reading songs of auspicious words. In order to increase the festive atmosphere, anyone can feel free to joke with the bride, the bride must be seated at the end of the family and friends to watch, laugh and joke, by the marriage to cope with everything. Cave participants do not have to stick to their own generation and status, so there is a proverb: "caveman, no big fine." However, they are not allowed to stand on the threshold or bring umbrellas into the bridal chamber.

After the people in the bridal chamber, the younger uncle into the sweet dumplings, said "round", the bride should be rewarded with a red envelope, and then eat with the groom round. In some places, the round by the bride and groom personally rolled into. After eating the round, to send the marriage of the M exit, the new couple can rest.

Some places, the wedding of the "bride table" furnishings and sacrifices to the dead table similar to the wedding bed to be laid on the straw mat also belongs to the burial of the dead supplies, these two people want to grow old together, to death. Groom bride made of white cloth, three days after the wedding, wash and collect, in order to prepare for the death and then close to wear, this custom is also related to the concept of chastity and mutual loyalty.

(4) After the wedding

After the wedding, the wedding is not considered to be finished, and you are not allowed to participate in other people's red and white events for four months afterward. At the same time, it is also avoided that the happy events within the family "collide". Within a year, there can not be two happy events at home, such as children in two marriages, or a marriage a birth; in this case must try to add a happy event, commonly known as "three dozen scattered", there is no taboo.

In the Qing Dynasty, the old custom in Zhangzhou, after the fm radio "the more parents hold the soup cake? room, three days after the temple to see, see after spinning horse, is to perform women's affairs. Later, the post-wedding rituals gradually changed.

1. Out of the hall

The second day of the wedding, the bride will be out of the cave when the cock crows, washing and grooming, ready to formally participate in the in-laws of the family life.

The bride will first make a four-fruit soup, or sweet tea with dried cinnamon or honeyed jujubes, in preparation for the "worship tea". When the whole house of the elders on the hall, the bride will go to the hall to worship ancestors and gods, and then sweet tea to honor the elders, and from the mother's family to bring shoes to the in-laws, and then the in-laws lead the bride to meet with the whole family. Bye tea that is the ancient "temple to see" the legacy of rituals, the elders to accept the bride to worship sweet tea to be pressed in the tea tray on the red envelope. The red packet money from the tea ceremony is routinely returned to the bride's private property.

After the tea ceremony, the bride was accompanied by the bridegroom to the kitchen to take charge of the first cooking. The bride has to cook the first meal, to show their hands; in addition to feeding pigs, chickens, pounding rice, to show their diligence. The latter is sometimes only symbolic, the bride only pounded a few rice, sprinkle a handful of grain, stir slop tank.

Every time the bride does something or performs an action, the bridegroom has to sing an auspicious word for this kind of chore next to her. For example, when the bride stirs the slop jar, she should say, "Stir Pan (slop) and it will float, and it will feed the pigs and the cows."

2. visit the room

The third day of marriage, the bride's brother to sit in a sedan chair to visit his brother-in-law's home, commonly known as "uncle to visit the room", is the ancient "feast of the women" of the legacy.

Uncle with sugar, cake, powder, rubbing hair tea seed oil and a basket of flowers or paper pomegranate flowers, straight into the new room, the gifts on the bed, and invite the sister to return to the bride's home as a guest. The mother-in-law's family should hold a banquet to entertain A-uncle in a grand manner.

3. Returning to the Ning

After the wedding, after a certain period of time, the bride should "return to the door" (back to the bride's home), commonly known as "guests". The new son-in-law should sometimes be accompanied to go, commonly known as "return gift". The bridegroom also accompanied the bride back to the door at the same time, thus completing her task.

The fourth day after the wedding (in some places, the seventh day) the bride's first homecoming, commonly known as "do the first swing (second) guest", the Hakka people are called "turn Chao". According to the new son-in-law to accompany and prepare incense and candles, ceremonial artillery, gift cakes, pig's feet and other gifts. On the road, such as brother-in-law counterparts, the uncle sedan chair in the front, the new couple in the back. If you walk the groom to follow the bride, commonly known as "while (follow) a (wife) to eat".

To the bride's home when the parents-in-law to the door to welcome the bride into the old boudoir after the entrance and the ladies talk about the family, the groom stayed in the hall to accept the hospitality of sweet tea. The father-in-law should lead the son-in-law to meet with friends and relatives. Some local custom, the groom to red packets to the in-laws of the relatives. It is customary for the parents-in-law to host a banquet at noon, with the son-in-law sitting at the head table in the hall; the bride sits at the head table in the inner room, accompanied by other female relatives.

After the banquet is dispersed, the new couple should take a break and return. Return to the male sedan chair in the front, the female sedan chair in the back. For the first time the new couple shall not spend the night in the house of the parents-in-law, if indeed because of the need to stay overnight on the way back, but also shall not share the same bed, otherwise it is unfavorable to the mother's family.

When a daughter returns to her mother-in-law's home as a guest, the mother's family should present fabrics, sweet sticky rice with pomegranate branches, a pair of sugar cane with leaves on the red paper hoop, a pair or a nest of chickens with red cloth tied to their feet. Chicks with a small bamboo cage, hanging in front of the sedan chair (or car), commonly known as "lead the way chicken". Some places also give a pair of piglets, called "with the road pig". In some places, the bride's family to send a brother-in-law to hold a bottle of peanut oil to accompany the bride back to the in-laws; peanut oil is to add lamp oil, meaning that as soon as possible to add children.

According to the old custom, the bride 12 days after the wedding and a month after the wedding should also return to the Ning once, back and forth to carry gifts. But the husband and son-in-law is not necessarily accompanied, and the bride can stay in the mother's home for a few days. Later, the bride to return to the bride's home as a matter of course, without having to comply with special etiquette.