What are the benefits of getting married?

Once, we participated in a civil marriage, and the political judge who presided over the wedding compared marriage to business. "If you have more assets than debts," he said after a while, "your marriage will be successful."

When a couple vowed to get married, what he said made us feel disappointed and encouraged, so we drafted this balance sheet on the pros and cons of marriage:

Marriage means long-term emotional commitment and support. Married couples with deep feelings have the opportunity to gain more intimacy and trust. When they get married, people swear to love, respect and protect each other. Affectionate partners know the meaning of these words very well, and they will accompany each other in good times and bad.

Marriage will provide greater economic security. In most marriages, both parties will combine the skills of two people to make money. If one person is sick or unemployed, another person can take on the task of supporting the family. Marriage can also bring personal income tax, housing property rights, medical care, land property rights and other economic benefits.

Marriage is a socially recognized relationship. In some societies, it is more convenient to get married in order to have a better social life. Couples are more comfortable participating in each other's family activities and friends circle.

Getting married will make it easier to raise children. Single-parent families are becoming more and more common and accepted by society. If parents are together, the task of raising children will be greatly reduced.

Marriage will promote good health. Marriage has a far-reaching impact on men's health. Unmarried or divorced men are twice as likely to die of cardiovascular disease and four times as likely to die of some kind of cancer as married men. Single men are more prone to depression, wasting property, having car accidents and committing suicide.

Research shows that both husband and wife who are happily married will get tangible benefits in health.

The disadvantages of marriage

Everything has advantages and disadvantages, and marriage is no exception. Here are some disadvantages of the marriage balance sheet: you can't come and go at will anymore. You have to give up some autonomy-it varies from person to person. For example, if you don't say hello to your partner, you can't go out with a group of friends as in the past.

You must accept and get used to your partner's shortcomings and hobbies. He threw his clothes all over the floor after taking a shower, didn't he? Do you insist on throwing away the Sunday newspaper before reading the sports news? For some questions, you can stick to your guns and learn to accept some suggestions.

You must constantly discuss and compromise. Living alone, you can do whatever you want. After marriage, most things need two people to discuss. From the color of the kitchen wall, to who controls the TV remote control, to how to control the family property, you and your partner should understand each other.

When you are in trouble, you can't just walk away. Sometimes, you wish you weren't married-even if it's just for one night or one weekend. Of course, you can find time and space alone. However, the vows when you get married mean that you have to solve the problem.

You may be forced to deal with unbearable relatives in your partner's family. When you get married, you have the obligation to deal with your spouse's family, including some relatives who are not important to you. After marriage, you are no longer lonely. Your partner's family is an important part of his or her life circle, so the wisest thing for you is to find those relatives you like and put up with the rest as much as possible.