Escape from traditional habits

I think it is necessary to find a reason to escape at first. Because I care about other people's eyes or expectations, I find a reason to escape with peace of mind. But when escape has become a habit, I don't even bother to find reasons. I said I didn't like it, and then it was gone. The subtext is me. You love it.

People need motivation to do things. No matter what they do, they always have a motive. Unless it is dominated by the subconscious, it is all motivated. When we avoid problems, our inner motivation is not to face difficulties or difficult choices or painful things. At this time, in order to relax ourselves, we will find ourselves a good reason to face the evasive behavior.

But after escaping again and again, you will find that escaping has become a habit. What reason are you looking for? You don't even bother to find out why. You can use it directly when you are avoiding the question. I don't like it? These words are an invincible response.

I take myself as an example. I'm 28 years old and still have no date. Generally speaking, it's because I'm too high to be too low. I know in my heart that my parents have been arranging blind dates for me, but I can't do it once. Later, I broke the jar and fell. When my parents arranged a blind date for me, I told him directly that I would not go. My parents asked me why you didn't go. I confidently told them: I don't like it.

Before that, I don't want a blind date. I will find various reasons to prevaricate and coax my parents. I hope they don't blame me. But later, I found that I didn't have the strength to find too many reasons, and my parents wouldn't believe me, so it was futile to find reasons and excuses at this time. I might as well just tell them I just don't like it. What can you do with me?

It can be seen that dislike represents an act of being lazy to make excuses.