Does having a good relationship with your father really affect your future life?

In traditional culture, father always plays a special role. For us, father is a bridge. He helps us adapt to school and society. Father is a mentor. He taught us the truth of dealing with people, social experience, strength and courage. Father is still a role model. We learn from our fathers the spirit of keeping calm and learning their skills of handling things flexibly and solving problems. The society's expectation of fathers requires them to be good employees, husbands and fathers. For sons, the father's existence and teaching will enable them to complete their gender, gain a male gender role and understand how a man should live in this world.

For daughters, the father will let them acquire female behavior patterns, at the same time have male gender characteristics, make them androgynous, make them both rigid and flexible, and become women in the new era. Father plays such an important and special role in our growth. Therefore, whether our relationship with our father is good or not will greatly affect the development of our character and largely determine whether we are promising. We discuss its influence on individual development from two dimensions: gender and relationship. Father-son relationship There are many families with bad father-son relationship, and the most likely reason is that the father is dictatorial to his son. Autocratic parenting will lead to estrangement, form a silent and depressed family atmosphere, suppress children's thoughts and kill their creativity. Children in this family environment may live in fear, and their behavior is often not from the heart, but forced to obey. In this case, the relationship between father and son will become more and more alienated, and when the child reaches puberty.

On the one hand, their physiology is close to maturity, on the other hand, their self-awareness develops rapidly, which will produce rebellious psychology. They are eager to become adults and hope to be recognized by everyone. At the same time, they look at everything around them with hostile eyes and think that others are always evaluating themselves. Therefore, influenced by physiological factors, psychological factors and bad father-son relationship, they often have extremely serious contradictions with their fathers, and even have extreme thoughts such as running away from home and committing suicide. Bad relationship between father and son, coupled with rebellious psychology, children will do things against their father's requirements. Therefore, for boys, if the father-son relationship is not good, it may lead to aggression, inferiority, depression and extreme thoughts and behaviors, which will undoubtedly have a great adverse impact on their development.

As said at the beginning of the article, a good father-son relationship often means the harmony of the whole family. At the same time, the father can also pass on his life experience to his son without hindrance, so that his son can avoid detours. Fathers will teach their sons many valuable personality traits: let them not be discouraged and face difficulties when they encounter difficulties and setbacks; Let them not be indecisive in the face of major choices in life, dare to take risks and pursue their ideals. In short, if the relationship between father and son is good, children will internalize their father's attitude towards people and things, successfully complete sexualization, integrate into male gender characteristics, and gain self-identity, thus guiding their own behavior. Father-daughter relationship The relationship between a girl and her father is usually much easier than that between father and son, because for many fathers, they can be very strict with their sons, but they can't show many aggressive behaviors towards their daughters. Therefore, physical attacks and verbal attacks will be much less, or even not shown.

However, there are also some families whose father-daughter relationship is not good. In this family, fathers often go their own way and don't respect their daughters' views and opinions. Over time, the relationship between father and daughter becomes alienated, and the sense of identity between them will also decrease. In this kind of family, daughters generally rely on their mothers and are very critical of their fathers. Their sexual orientation tends to be feminine, lacking many characteristics of men, such as soft voice, poor problem-solving ability and few heterosexual partners. When they grow up, because they are not closely related to their fathers, their fathers may distrust their daughters, so their social experience may be poor and they may adapt to social difficulties. On the contrary, those girls who have a good relationship between father and daughter are often dominated by their mothers, while their fathers play the role of gentle caregivers. They are generally cheerful, lively and sociable, which will undoubtedly have a positive impact on their interpersonal relationships. The relationship between a man and his father will greatly affect his development. In a family, a father should try his best to maintain the relationship with his children and try his best to impart his male personality characteristics and social experience to his children.