You can't divorce without having a son. How terrible can tradition be?

Imagine that you don't have a toilet at home. How do you solve your physical problems?

Following "Wrestle!" After many Indian movies, such as Dad, Mysterious Superstar and The Starting Line, burst into a circle of friends, we have a tasty toilet hero. It's about a social change caused by toilets.

From the beginning, the film shows us the difficult situation of rural women in India going to the toilet. Because there was no toilet at home, they went to the bushes outside the village to go to the toilet before dawn.

There are often nasty people who pat themselves with car lights when they go to the toilet, and then give out very lewd laughter, while those women can only cover their faces with veils in shame and shame to safeguard their poor dignity.

Even many women were raped and killed in this process.

Keshav and people's teacher Ye Jia are a very loving couple. They were free to fall in love until they entered the marriage hall.

But when Jaye married Keshav, she discovered that this was a rural area without toilets. There is no toilet, so she has to get up early in the morning and go to the toilet in the wild with other women in the village.

Jaye, who couldn't stand going to the toilet in the wild, gave her husband an ultimatum. Keshav thought of many solutions for Jay, from rubbing toilets, stealing toilets to building their own toilets, but all ended in failure because of the opposition of family and villagers.

Isn't it just building a toilet? It sounds simple, but when it is set in India, it is not just a toilet problem.

In Indian religious education, "man should not face the sun or the moon." Toilets represent filth, and the existence of a toilet at home is disrespect for the gods.

In the face of Jaye's resistance, no one understood her except her uncle and father.

What's even more frightening is that my mother, who is also a woman, and other women think that Jaye is "too cultured" and makes a mountain out of a molehill, without realizing how shameful it is to be convenient in the open air!

There are a few words in the film that make me particularly profound:

"The biggest obstacle to your women's affairs is your women themselves."

"Women in our country don't respect themselves, otherwise they won't go to the toilet in the wild."

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In the face of unfair treatment, I only know how to bear the burden of humiliation, and never thought about resistance and struggle. Inertial compromise will only make people fall into the abyss and find no bright entrance.

Real change must come from self-awakening, otherwise it is meaningless.

In fact, every country is the same. In the ever-changing social changes, tradition and new knowledge will collide.

The preference for sons over daughters has always been the "cancer" of many families in China.

A good friend of mine recently welcomed her second little daughter. It was a very happy thing, but the atmosphere in their home was extremely heavy.

"I let you do a B-ultrasound, ask the doctor is a man or a woman. Don't ask. Now, I have a daughter. What's the use of my son marrying you? "

This is the first sentence that my mother-in-law said to her after giving birth to a child. She was pregnant in October and died dozens of hours later. This is what she was waiting for.

Bauer has been born for more than three months, and her mother-in-law has never really seen her.

What is even more unacceptable to my friends is that my mother-in-law is in such a hurry to have a grandson that she doesn't know which village doctor got the "Zhuan Tai Pill" and insisted that she eat it, saying that she would have a son after eating it.

Since ancient times, it seems that having children has become a woman's function. If you have been married for several years and are not pregnant, you will be called "a hen who can't lay eggs". If you are not a boy, someone will look at you with colored glasses.

Even some women who gave birth to a son at the first birth are proud of having a son and feel that they have successfully become "winners in life".

Mo Yan's novel Frog vividly depicts the enthusiasm of carrying on the family line and preferring sons to daughters in rural areas of China.

A character in the book, Chen Bi, said painfully when he learned that his wife's second child was a daughter: "God doesn't allow me to do this ... God doesn't allow me to ... Chen Jia V wrote a biography, but I didn't expect it to end up in my hands ..."

It seems that the value of a woman is to carry on the family line. If she can't have a son, it will be a terrible crime.

Some time ago, I was screened by a news.

The old lady Zhang Aifen of Nantong, Jiangsu, encouraged her daughter-in-law to have a second child because of her first child. As a result, Ms. Zhang Aifen, who wanted to have grandchildren, was angry and killed her granddaughter, who was born only four days ago (repeatedly trampled to death with her feet).

The world is sometimes too dirty to imagine. We call for caring for life. People in Weibo were filled with indignation when they saw dogs and cats being abused.

But a new life that has been pregnant for ten months was trampled to death after only four days in the world because the gender did not suit the old man's mind. She didn't even have time to look at the world.

I really can't write a book in the face of the "son preference" behavior, and it's hard to understand why so many people are poisoned by this idea after we bid farewell to the agricultural society for n years.

What is even more unbearable is that quite a few people still hold this kind of thinking. The vicious circle from generation to generation after the daughter-in-law becomes a woman.

Many people regard the word "tradition" as a treasure. It sounds as if they have a son to carry on the family line and win glory for their ancestors.

In the final analysis, it is just using "traditional culture" to cover up your ignorance and using "ancestors" as a shield for your ugly face!

Ignorance of filial piety will make people more ignorant, and compromise will make you more ignorant.

Over the past five thousand years in China, there have been various unexplained or unexplained traditional customs, many of which are the products of a specific period and environment.

From the overwhelming "bad marriage" to "excessive bride price exhausted my old father", whenever such a thing happens, someone always stands up and defends himself, "Please respect our traditional customs".

I have to drag bad behavior into tradition. There are too many traditions. The ancients also had the custom of keeping filial piety for three years. Why is it not cashed now?

The progress of human society is to adapt to the needs of new environment, new era and new values and gradually eliminate those unhealthy, immoral and incompatible customs.

It is normal that some people can't keep up with this progress. Such people exist in every country and every era.

What we have to do is to make them smart and get rid of those bad traditions.

If you want to be yourself, you must think about it. It is likely to be a protracted war.

We never reject fine traditions, but some of them can't keep up with the times, so don't hesitate to abandon them!