How to chase the girl Zhihu?

First of all, lay a solid foundation for beginners.

Everything is difficult at the beginning! Maybe you met your favorite MM and are ready to attack, so what kind of impression should you leave on MM in the previous interaction?

1, first of all, you should let MM see your self-motivated.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.

Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.

2. Mature, responsible and caring.

Because MM is petite and weak by nature, it needs to be mature. A leisurely man has a fatal attraction to MM ... don't be like a child. Girls want to find a lover. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility. Make her think that you can protect her and make her depend on her.

Remember not to be too serious, but don't be too casual.

Verbal humor can attract a MM and make her feel happy with you.

Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed. Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.

The second word, step by step, is to start from the end.

Now I have left a good first impression on MM, how to proceed with the next development?

1, don't be so specific, you can see at a glance that you are chasing others.

Think about it, most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feeling needs to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you put on a winning posture from the beginning, you will basically be rejected immediately.

2. Be sure to start with a low profile and don't create a "girlfriend".

First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !

This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.

Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.

Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. The key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get". That's true.

Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will think of your benefits.

Also, don't show the ambition of "you don't want to marry". It's an impulsive image of an ignorant little boy, and it's not good to be too fall in price as a man.

4. Create romantic opportunities appropriately.

I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.

You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical place, depending on your personal creativity and understanding.