"People, you can always help others, but can not let the person being helped feel deserved", what do you think?

Life who will encounter difficulties, in the case of others have difficulties, we have to be in their own power to reach out to the people in difficulty, try to do snow in the charcoal, charity, help the needy, do not want to return, which is the traditional virtues of the Chinese people.

Some people say, ? People, can often help others, but not let the person being helped feel deserved? , which is a very objective and correct statement.

One, why help others

Helping people, charity, help the needy, this is the traditional virtues of the Chinese people, within the scope of their ability to allow, try to give a helping hand to those who need help, give people roses, hands.

But in recent years, there are individual unscrupulous people, others to help him, he has to deliberately touch the porcelain, so that many good people dare not lend a helping hand, so that some of the people who help people chilled, disturbed the social atmosphere. But this kind of person is after all a minority, the positive energy of society will let them gradually have no foothold.

Two, how to help others

1, to help others to be just right, too much.

The old saying goes, ? A bowl of rice to raise a benefactor, a bucket of rice to raise an enemy? If you continue to give him rice, he will take it for granted, and in the end he will even feel that what you give him is too little, why do you give him only a few bowls of so much rice? Not only do you not know how to be grateful, but it breeds hatred towards you.

Help too much, easy to let the other side of the dependence of the psychology, once the help stop, he will feel that you do not do a good job, that you help him is deserved. You may remember that Sun Li once sponsored a student to go to college, but the result was backfired by the person who sponsored him, which is a typical example.

2, willing to help others, do not always think that others should be grateful to you know, grateful.

Taking the initiative to help others is a good deed, do not think about giving must have a return. If the other side did not return, you feel that the other side is an ungrateful person, feel that should be a drop of water, the spring to return. Originally, to help others is to be happy, convenient for others, if you have this kind of thinking, you are certainly not happy, so in helping others, we should be less calculating, more action.

3. If you help someone and they want to give you something in return, you should accept it gladly.

I don't know if you know? Zigong's redemption? and? Zi Lu received an ox? and Zi Lu received an ox? Zigong did not accept the bonus after redeeming the man; his own behavior was noble, but what does it make other people who redeem people from Lu in the future? Did he accept the prize money or not? How many ordinary people are there who can behave as nobly as Zigong?

After Zi Lu saved the man, he gladly accepted the oxen of gratitude from the other side, which made the common people feel that doing good deeds would be rewarded, and naturally led more people to do good deeds, which shows that sometimes doing good deeds can change the customs and teach the people.

So, when you help others, others sincerely want to return your time, you should still accept each other's thanks, so that both let each other's hearts at ease, but also can drive more people to do good. Lest the person who receives help feel a psychological burden, feel that they owe others too much.

4, to help others, to provide methods of thinking is very important, teach a man to fish as well as teach a man to fish.

Whether it is to help a poor area to get rid of poverty and become rich, or to help a student's learning, it is more important to give them the method.