What social and moral problems exist in the moral construction of college girls' marriage and love?

Love is one of the eternal themes of human social life, and love and marriage formed through love are an important part of life. It is objective and normal for female college students to have moral problems in marriage and love. By analyzing the causes of the problems in the marriage and love morality of female college students, this paper explores the ways to construct the marriage and love morality of contemporary female college students.

Keywords college girls' marriage and love morality

China Library ClassificationNo.: G645.5 Document ID: A DocumentNo.:1002-7661(2011)10021-02.

At present, college students grow up in the period of the fastest economic development and greatest achievements in China, the most drastic changes in the social structure in China, the most liberated people's ideas and the most diverse values. The special growth environment has shaped the unique moral concept of marriage and love of contemporary female college students, which has brought challenges to our moral education. Therefore, we must combine the actual characteristics of college girls' views on marriage and love to help them establish a good moral view on marriage and love.

First, the current marriage and love morality of college girls

1. Diversified marriage motives and complex moral choices.

In this transitional society with diversified values, the moral choice of college girls' marriage and love is complicated. Most female college students are serious about marriage and love, with healthy love values and a certain degree of moral and psychological maturity. When they choose a lover, they pay attention to and emphasize each other's personal qualities and moral standards. They believe that similar outlook on life, values and common hobbies are the basis of love. But at the same time, it also attaches importance to the choice of the other party's appearance, material conditions and background, showing utilitarian characteristics; There are also a few people who solve loneliness. Female college students in the late adolescence are basically mature physically and psychologically, eager for love and hope to communicate with the opposite sex. Therefore, some female college students regard love as an emotional experience and pursue temporary emotional sustenance to enrich their after-school life and alleviate their loneliness.

2. Emphasize emotional experience and weaken moral responsibility.

Female college students are an unusually emotional group. They pursue sincere love and yearn for a beautiful marriage, and their love view is generally healthy and positive. On the value orientation of marriage and love, most people think that love is not only spiritual emotional fit and enjoyment, but also the unity of the two. Due to the uncertainty of the future, most female college students' views on marriage and love are increasingly divided, emphasizing the realization of self-worth, paying attention to self-feeling and self-experience, and ignoring the personal responsibility in marriage and love life. Don't pay attention to the future, let alone whether to get married or not. On the one hand, the attitude towards extramarital affairs is considered immoral; On the other hand, they are tolerant and think that as long as they don't destroy the family, love is supreme. The lack of moral responsibility shows that various values in real life often collide with the thoughts of female college students, which is having a certain impact on their values and even their outlook on life, which deserves our attention and consideration.

3. The openness of sexual morality and the dislocation of marriage and love programs.

In 2005, although the Ministry of Education lifted the marriage ban, most college girls said that they would not get married while they were at school, and they would live together on weekends or for a long time when their love developed to a certain extent. This shows that the traditional linear marriage procedure of love-marriage-sexual behavior has become increasingly weak in the minds of female college students. They have a more humane interpretation of premarital sex and begin to look at sex itself with a tolerant eye. The openness of sex, on the one hand, reflects the degree of social civilization and progress, on the other hand, it is easy to bring some ethical problems. The change of concept is not achieved overnight, it is not only restricted by the social background, but also often encounters the collision of my own cultural accumulation. Female college students who live together and get pregnant often hide, and the operation can not be guaranteed by medical safety, which causes great harm and hidden dangers to their health. At the same time, at the age when they should study and study with peace of mind, they have experienced things beyond their own age, which will bring irreparable pain to their body and mind.

Second, the current causes of moral problems of female college students' marriage and love

1. The impact of social transformation. First of all, from the economic point of view, the difference of social status between people is mainly manifested in the difference of economic status, which directly or indirectly affects the love value orientation of female college students, leading to their confusion in the choice of marriage concept and the disorder of marriage value orientation. Secondly, the influence of foreign culture. Influenced by traditional ideas and western thoughts, they cling to China's traditional moral ideas in their bones, pursue ways to publicize their individuality, and are unwilling to bear the responsibilities and obligations stipulated in the moral framework. Finally, the influence of mass media. The difference of moral choice of mass media and the diversity of moral standards. Some irresponsible media lack correct guidance in information dissemination and mislead their moral orientation.

2. Defects in school education. The ideological and moral cultivation course in universities only has a chapter on marriage and love, and there is no comprehensive and systematic curriculum arrangement, and there is a lack of moral education on marriage and love for female college students. In the moral education of marriage and love, there is a lack of understanding of the psychological level of girls' marriage and love, and the educational content focuses more on theoretical knowledge. When the problems in reality are not solved, college girls often turn to their peers or get answers from informal channels such as the Internet, which sometimes misleads them.

3. Alienation of family education. Mistakes in family education often affect the formation of children's correct views on marriage and love. For families in China, most parents avoid the education of marriage and love, especially sexual knowledge, which leads to the lack of family education on their children's views on marriage and love. "Some parents lack correct and specific guidance on their children's views on love and marriage, and some also put forward some inappropriate restrictions and requirements, which have affected the establishment of college students' scientific views on love and the formation of good love morality, and then induced the problems of college students' views on love." Nowadays, there are a large number of empty nest families, single-parent families or other problem families in society, which makes girls have different degrees of doubt about marriage and love, lack of trust and security, easy to be careless about their feelings, and unwilling to pay in marriage and love, which affects the quality and development of marriage and love.

Third, the ways to build the marriage and love morality of female college students

The overall trend of contemporary female college students' views on marriage and love is progressive, which is conducive to the development of moral education in colleges and universities, and moral education on marriage and love can become a powerful means of moral education.

1. Carry forward the traditional virtues of marriage and love. China's traditional marriage morality has its dross and its essence. China's traditional marriage and family morality adjusts interpersonal relationships and stabilizes social order from the perspective of marriage and sexual relations, and thinks that "cautious beginning" can "end well", which requires people to treat marriage and sexual relations with a serious and prudent attitude. Mass media and public opinion should actively publicize the positive aspects of traditional marriage and family morality in China. To guide female college students, we should not only grasp the traditional virtues of being a good wife and a good mother, but also explore the virtues and character that truly show their modern new female values, and combine them organically to build a moral system of marriage and love for female college students.

2. Moral education in colleges and universities should be more targeted and effective. First of all, we should strengthen the construction of campus culture, enrich campus culture, let students devote their spare time and energy to their favorite activities, let them show their talents and find ways to realize the value of life. Secondly, we should carry out moral education of marriage and love according to the physiological and psychological characteristics of college girls, guide them to establish a correct view of love, oppose utilitarian tendencies and irresponsible behaviors in marriage and love, and advocate the choice of pure and noble love. Combined with their current sexual confusion and problems, in the process of education close to reality, help them form a strong sense of sexual morality and enhance their ability to evaluate and choose morality.

3. The important role of family in the moral education of college students' love and marriage. Family is an important environment in which a person is in close contact for the first time and all his life. Therefore, the moral education of college students' marriage and love should start from the family. The first is the role of parents as role models. Harmonious family atmosphere and good relationship between husband and wife play an important role in the formation of college students' good marriage and love morality. Second, we should cultivate girls' chastity consciousness. Chastity is a symbol of the awakening of women's individual consciousness, which contains women's self-esteem, self-love, self-love, self-respect and self-protection. Therefore, parents, especially mothers, should guide and educate them to improve their understanding of sexual behavior, learn to refuse sexual behavior when they are in love, know how to use contraception in case of sexual behavior, how to deal with unexpected pregnancy, how to deal with sexual harassment and sexual assault, and how to learn to protect themselves.

Love is one of the eternal themes of human social life, and love and marriage formed through love are an important part of life. The problem of love and marriage of female college students is objective and normal. The key is that schools, families and society should form a joint force, and education should guide them to internalize correct life values and marriage ethics into personal morality and civilized behavior, so as to provide long-term support for their stable and happy marriage and family life and harmonious social development in the future.

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(Editor Li Xiang)