Why do some parents find it difficult to communicate with their children now?

It is a common phenomenon in our society that parents have difficulty communicating with their children. Most parents are busy with their work and lack discipline and patience for their children.

Many parents have a common phenomenon, that is, when talking about other people's children, they are talking about everything. When it comes to their children, they are speechless. I always feel that my children are not good here and there, but I don't know how to say it. If I speak, my children may not listen, and even if they do, they will not do it.

It is difficult for my son to communicate with his father. If they don't agree, they will start working. Sometimes I ask his father if he can change his bad temper and have a good talk with his children. His father said I couldn't understand what he said, so I wouldn't say it if I asked him again. If he doesn't talk, his father has to ask, and he has to do it. It is not that the father is impatient, nor that the child is impatient, but that both fathers are impatient. I didn't say much about them, but it was useless. My son and I talk about everything. We are usually together, not like mother and son, but more like friends. Every day when he comes back from school, he will share with me what happened in kindergarten. His father envied him, but he never took the initiative to communicate with him.

I find it difficult for parents and children to communicate with their children. The main reason is that there is little communication with children and they can't communicate correctly. Don't communicate with your child as an elder, try to be friends with your child, communicate with your child with your heart and respect your child, and you will gain more.

Bad parenting styles Parents' parenting styles directly affect the quality of communication with their children. Parents should be close friends of children. Many parents have experienced what their children are going through in the past, but the children have not experienced what their parents have experienced. Therefore, as parents, don't put your parents on the shelf in front of your children, and take the initiative to approach them emotionally. Parents should actively study, play the role of "adapting" to the changes in the social environment, take the initiative to learn and get in touch with their children's world. For example, often surf the Internet, discuss network knowledge with children, take children to watch TV, movies and go shopping as much as possible, and find common language with children, so that children can only think that you are friends. Only when I have feelings with you will I be close to you. At present, there are some incorrect parenting styles in the family, the most prominent of which are: doting and pampering. Because there are many only children in the family now, parents always take children as the center, take care of and protect their children too much, and think everything is particularly "thoughtful".

It is not a feeling, it is a practical problem that is difficult to communicate, and it is also a common phenomenon in society.

Have different ideas

The thinking of the elderly and the thinking of the young are an insurmountable gap. For example, young people's shopping methods are mainly online shopping, while many elderly people's thinking is still in the past and more traditional.

Online shopping, WeChat, new things that young people play now, I don't understand. The spillway is getting bigger and bigger, and I can't even talk together. Sometimes I sit with my parents and don't know what to say.

Like to preach to the younger generation

Old people like to teach the younger generation with their own experiences and experiences, but everyone has their own ideas and certainly doesn't like to do what their parents say. Everyone is an independent individual with his own ideas, preferences and interests. Even if parents don't like it, they shouldn't stop their children from liking it and force them to change.

Controlling children can lead to conflict.

I don't know if you have such an experience. Wechat avatars are always vomited by parents.

Today, I changed a WeChat avatar that conforms to my aesthetics. Soon after, my mother saw my head and ordered me to change it. She thinks my head is ugly and unlucky. Liking to control children is actually a contradiction between families. If there are more contradictions, it will be easy to have a cold war. If there are more cold wars, communication will become more and more difficult.

Many parents actually don't put their children on a parallel line, because it is very difficult and rare for parents to apologize to their children. Try to communicate with your child as a friend and put yourself and your child on the same level. Maybe there will be unexpected joy.

First of all, we should realize the following differences:

First, the age gap between the two generations leads to different life experiences;

Second, the difference between educational level and educational content;

Third, different horizons, people of different ages and industries have their own different circles, and the circles determine your horizons;

Fourth, the differences in attitude, reaction and acceptance of new things;

Secondly, the above four points lead to the following two differences between the two generations.

One, three views are different, although personality is hereditary, but a person's three views are definitely gradually formed the day after tomorrow;

Second, the way of thinking is different: two generations have different starting points and ways of thinking when dealing with the same problem and phenomenon;

About people with different views and ways of thinking, don't say parents and children. Even among peers, the differences in outlook on life and way of thinking will become a big obstacle to communication between them, and because of the huge age difference between parents and children, the obstacle to communication between them will be even greater. If there are no doomed factors such as family, blood relationship and responsibility to maintain it, it may basically be a stranger. However, apart from the blood relationship, which can never be changed, the most important thing is that people are born, and family affection is the most difficult emotion for human beings to ignore and avoid. Therefore, if two generations want to achieve harmonious communication and exchange, I have the following suggestions:

First, as a parent, you must be able to clearly understand the advantages and disadvantages of children, and understand their needs, desires and ideas;

Second, as a child, we should understand that parents in the world are also different, and we should also understand the actual situation and shortcomings of parents;

Third, only by doing the above two points can two generations understand and respect each other and respect the world and situation they face, which is the most basic prerequisite for establishing a harmonious communication atmosphere;

Finally, the most important thing is that parents are responsible for education and children are educated, so parents' guidance and education are indispensable. If parents are upset because of poor communication with their children, they should first reflect on themselves and set an example.

Why do some parents find it difficult to communicate with their children now? This problem should be normal and common. With the development of the times, young people keep pace with the times, while the elderly can't keep up with the development of the times and are left behind by society. Old people still use some old eyes to deal with new problems, which is simply out of touch with society and cannot be popularized. On the other hand, young people keep pace with society and use modern methods. This is the difference between the two generations, but also caused a gap. If the old people still stay in the previous era, the gap with the young people is getting bigger and bigger, and it is difficult to communicate with each other. Therefore, the elderly should quickly get rid of the past and learn from the present, so as to keep up with the society and communicate with young people to reduce the present. So it is not difficult to communicate with your children, but the society is developing too fast.

Thank you. The living environment can't be compared with before. Children are different now. Children didn't know anything before. You see, children are smart since childhood and play mobile phones more than adults.

If you want your child to understand your hard work, you can slowly teach your child to do some small things at home. When a child does something wrong, you can say a word of comfort to the child and don't speak loudly to the child.

In fact, today's children are also very sensible and understand some truths. Adults can't educate their children according to their ideas, but also think for them.

* * * Interest and outlook on life are different! The children have no patience to listen to your sermon! Will you be grateful? There are too few children! This also has something to do with you! You can't wait to pave the way for his or her growth! And the result? People may not appreciate it! ! Your efforts are thankless! Bore yourself! What's three highs here! Why do I let him or her be independent! Go your own way and be strong in everything! Otherwise, please raise a filial son! What's the point? And go into the society and suffer everywhere [finally complain! You work hard! People thought that everything they paid was taken for granted! You're not angry and you won't ask such a question.

Thank you Wukong!

Now some parents find it difficult to communicate with their children, mostly because they have few children, have been spoiled since childhood, are used to letting themselves go, do whatever they want, and make ends meet. When they are students, they still don't listen to their parents, so it is difficult for them to communicate with each other well.

But don't be too anxious or impatient. When he grows up, he will naturally change himself slowly.

Why do some parents find it difficult to communicate with their children now?

Why do some parents find it difficult to communicate with their children now? The specific reasons are as follows:

Generation gap, the age of growth is different, the social environment is different, the experience and things are different, and opinions and opinions are naturally not asked.

Second, the educational level is different, the educational background is very different, and there is basically no * * * same language.

Third, some parents are rigid and ignorant, and can't keep pace with the times.

Fourth, parents spend more time with their children, which further alienates language communication. Without knowing what the other party is thinking and doing, it is naturally more and more difficult for parents and children to communicate.

To change this situation, we need the joint efforts of both sides. Parents should learn from the old, keep pace with the times, accept new things, and children should pay more attention to their parents. More communication may change or improve this relationship, don't you think?