What are the marriage customs in Shijiazhuang city? How much is the dowry? Please married friends help it!

Shijiazhuang City, there are many marriage customs, that depends on whether the men and women speak, but also depends on the economic strength of both sides. On the Shijiazhuang side, if the man has taken out a loan to buy a house, then the woman should accompany a car of more than 100,000 yuan. In addition, the man in the engagement, should give the girl 100,000 yuan of betrothal money, the woman in addition to buy a car, but also to buy a new house in all the household appliances, while the female parents to buy the boy a body on the suit, a platinum necklace, such as the woman's family economic strength is stronger, but also to the new house to add some furniture.

Marriage customs are complicated and with a lot of feudal superstitions. The general marriage procedures and rituals are as follows:

First, the marriage proposal

That is, the male family commissioned the matchmaker to the female family to propose marriage, if the female agreed to discuss the marriage, then the male family to go to the female family to propose marriage, commonly known as "matchmaking". In the old days, the heavy "door to door" and "life to choose", circulating "door to door, door to door, open mouth on the fence," the ballad. Generally speaking, the man entrusted matchmakers to propose marriage, first of all, their own identity, land, property and their own children to do a comprehensive consideration, and the situation of the woman's family with whether or not, that is, the two sides of the conditions are almost the same. But there are also matchmakers who receive heavy gifts, false. If the female parents are interested in, they will ask people to listen to the male situation, if the portal is considered equivalent, the two men and women will do the sticker. Geng stickers are made of red paper, written on the married children's names, years, three generations, the place of origin, commonly known as "four Geng stickers", the two sides later exchange.

Second, ask the name

Commonly known as the discussion of eight. "Eight" is based on each person's birth year, month, day, time, each with the heavenly stem, the earthly branch of the two words match, four **** there are eight words, so called "eight". Superstitious people believe that according to the birth of eight characters can be projected out of a person's fate is good or bad, everyone belongs to the five elements of a "life", such as gold life, wood life, water life, fire life, earth life, etc., where the five elements of each other can not be married.

The matchmaker first held male sticker to the female home, the woman's birth date, along with the bride price written on the back of the male sticker, the matchmaker to bring to the male party, the male party please life Mr. "Heshao", divination, such as men and women in the year of Geng eight characters without "Chongji", both parents agree, can be engaged. Can be engaged. Of course, there are other said, such as "women can not make a big one", "wife of a pair of big two", "wife of a big three hold gold brick" and so on.

Third, for posting

After the marriage of men and women said, to hold a posting, posting the date to choose an auspicious day. Men and women first send the matchmaker to the female side of the negotiation. The man will be negotiating the bride price and the groom's gung sticker into a small box, and with a red cloth or red damask will be wrapped in a small box, along with the bride price (including money, clothing, food), by the matchmaker to send to the woman's home. The female family received the bride price, bride price and male gung stickers, the female out of the gung stickers into the original box, together with the return of the dress dowry and wedding fruit by the matchmaker transferred to the male family, this procedure is called for stickers.

Fourth, over the gift

This is a man and a woman after the conclusion of the marriage contract, the man will be the bride price to the female family rituals. The bride price of the marriage contract is considered to be officially effective. In the old days, the general male family to give the female family 100-200 yuan of cash Yang, clothing, bracelets, rings and other gifts. Before the wedding, but also "carry food bucket" (with three rectangular planks into the shelf), at least three food bucket to send, stacked with rice, noodles, steamed bread, pork, etc., by a number of people sent to carry the female home.

Fifth, wedding preparations

Before the wedding to choose the wedding day, choose double double day, such as the fourth of April, August 28, etc., or three, six, nine auspicious days. After the selection of good, the male family prepared gifts and clothing, red invitation stickers written on the date to meet the date to be forwarded to the female family matchmaker, notify friends and relatives of the date of the wedding. And began to clean up the courtyard, painting, decorating the new room. The new room hung on the happy painting, there are unicorn to send a son, five sons, etc.. Window decorations are often made of magpies, mandarin ducks, swallows and lotus seeds. Home plastered all over the happy couplets and red "happy" characters. The happy couplets are mostly "a hundred years of harmony", "white heads together", "flowers bloom side by side", "绾结同心", "suitable room suitable for the family" and so on. After receiving the man's red invitation sticker, the woman's family starts to purchase dowry, welcome family members, and invite both men and women to return guests. The family elders invited the daughter to eat "away from the mother's face".

Six, marriage

The day of the wedding, the two sides have "Auntie not, Auntie not to send" taboo, and pick up and drop off the two sides shall not be entrusted to the widow, the second head of the marriage or phases of the bride and groom of those who are incompatible. This day is the male family's big day, in front of the house, in the yard and outside, all with water to splash the ground, cleaned spotless. Hanging red lanterns in front of the door, the yard, under the eaves of the house is full of friends and relatives sent hanging scrolls, clothing, quilt surface, showing a warm and joyful scene everywhere. When the wedding firecrackers, red lanterns and umbrellas, drums and gongs. Conditional also invited the honor guard, suona accompaniment. To the door of the woman's home, the woman's home will deliberately prior to the male party, "refused to the door", to be the male party will be "over the door gift" from the doorway stuffed in before opening the door to meet. Then lead to the guest room to eat refreshments and "horse face".

The bride in the sedan chair before the open face (also known as open face), that is, with a line will be strung on the face of sweat hair. After combing with relatives to say goodbye, and then cover the head with a red scarf masked, red scarf sewn on the corners of jujube, peanuts, copper (that is, the auspiciousness of the early birth of a son), chest hanging a mirror, to "avoid" the evil light. In the welcoming song, by his brother back people in the sedan chair, and a small brother or son of the inverted generation followed in the sedan chair, known as the "sedan chair children". From the woman's home, the groom rode in front of the male companion, the male married guest, followed by the northern horse. By the female party elders or two male relatives of the same generation, followed by the groom sedan chair around, the hands of the sedan chair pole with the line, escorting the dowry, commonly known as the "sender". Female guests in the sedan chair after riding or ride with.

In the past, some places in Shijiazhuang Xing so a custom, the girl in the sedan chair before crying a few mother, to show that it is difficult to separate from the meaning. Legend has it that a long time ago, there are so mother and daughter, dependent on each other to live a hard life, mother weaving, daughter spinning, tight dry slow dry or eat on the next meal. Mother watched her daughter grow up day by day, the heart is more anxious, always have to find a husband for her daughter ah. So she commissioned a matchmaker to find her an in-law and set an auspicious date for her marriage. Seeing the wedding day closer and closer, the mother's worry is also deeper and deeper every day. When the man's sedan chair came to the door, the daughter looked at her mother's gray hair and withered face, thought of their own departure, mother's life how to live ah, not alive and starve to death? Thought of this hugged the mother's head and cried. This cry touched a passing fairy, saw the two cried so pitifully moved the kindness, with a finger pointed to the girl's face tears, the tears will become a golden bright golden beans, the girl saw so many golden beans, enough to eat the rest of her life, it is happy to dress up on the sedan chair. Since then, where the girl on the sedan chair, are reluctant to delay on the sedan chair, really can not drag it down, will hold the mother cried a few times, that is, there are no tears, but also to squeeze out a few teardrops, so that the golden beans to feed the mother. The years have formed a "daughter away from the mother, cry a custom," has been passed down to today.

When the bride married back, to go around the village, not allowed to go the same way, said not to go back. Along the way, the sound of firecrackers, suona constantly playing, very lively. Sedan chair to the men's home stopped at the door, the groom dismounted to the sedan chair three bows, known as the worship sedan chair God. Bride by the bridesmaids to help out of the sedan chair. After the bride pulled color into the door, the first from the fire pit across. Symbolizing the days after the wedding "fire fire". Then step on the red felt into the hall to worship the marriage. At this time by the pre-existing invited people of high moral standing as bridesmaid (master of ceremonies), presided over the wedding ceremony.

This is the bridesmaid out of the class first sang: "bridesmaid bridesmaid, two steps a zhang, dragon and phoenix mandarin ducks, harmony a pair." Then read the happy song, the lyrics are auspicious language, such as "luan wind and singing", "flowers and moon", "the new room a flash of red flowers, the family has a gold bucket for the Dragon", "Siangfu hanging colored silk on the door, Miss Qianjin with the king's waiter" and so on. Then sing in turn: the bride and groom a worship of heaven and earth; two worship high hall (parents); three worship ancestors; four worship Cailang; five worship land; six worship Chunxuan; seven worship friends and relatives; husband and wife to worship. After the bride and groom performed the eight rites, then exchanged cups. Hear the bridesmaid sing again: "The exchange of cups and good, husband and wife to old age. Look at the groom - the head of the golden flowers to present auspicious, clad in landscape embroidered mandarin ducks: Wu boots white bottom red flower lining, a cool cast in all directions. Look at the bride - colorful phoenix crown inlaid, purple cape east flying phoenix. Her willow eyebrows and almond eyes are covered with red silk, and her golden lotus is hidden under her skirt. Husband and wife in front of the Hall of flowers and candles bright, a pair of mandarin ducks coincidentally become a pair, then the music class played the song of the dragon and phoenix, in the music song, the bridesmaid sang the auspicious song: "green mountains and green water forever reflecting the room in the laughter and talk about the heart; flower platform pointing to the earth of the mandarin ducks spectrum, the lucky star shines brightly in the four times of the Kang. "Bridesmaids sing, the people have laughed back and forth, so that people feel the wedding custom interesting, and kindly amusing.

At this time, by the male family members on the ground in the next transmission of sacks phase store, so that the bride from the upper walk through, each for the succession, leading the bride into the bridal chamber in this way. The end of the cave before the groom holding a bow and arrow, through the bride's head to the cave shot three arrows, meaning to drive away the evil. There are also places to the bride's head to raise the grass festival and so on, then the bridesmaids sing: "Into the bridal chamber to the head up, the unicorn sends a son to follow up" "a handful of corn a handful of jujube, girl and boy running all over the place," a kind of happy song.

Before entering the bridal chamber, we must invite a woman with both parents and a living husband to the new room for the bride and groom to put the bedding. And a handful of five-color grain sprinkled under the mattress, to catch a grain harvest of good luck. A few red jujubes are placed under the bed, meaning early birth. Under the pillow put a few peanuts, meaning boys and girls "flowers" inserted "birth". When the bride enters the bridal chamber, the groom unveiled the bride's "cover", when the neighbors began to "make trouble in the bridal chamber". The custom of haunting the bridal chamber has a long history, and all households believe that the more people come to their own house to haunt the bridal chamber, the better, the more people show their own decency and honor. As the saying goes: "no size of the bride for three days", this day, regardless of men and women, young and old can enter the room "to see the new daughter-in-law," teasing the bride, regardless of meat and vegetarian together, intended to try to make the original shy girl into a generous splash of daughter-in-law. At night, there are people lurking in the cave window to listen to the bride and groom say private words, commonly known as "listening room". If the rain, snow days are not willing to go, the mother will be a broom gently leaning against the window to complete the "listening room" this ceremony.

On this day, the male family married back, in addition to entertaining their relatives and friends, but also enthusiastically entertained female guests, and show the dowry, that is, the female representatives of the elders of the family and friends will be rewarded for sending things one by one sing show, delivered to the male representatives to accept, commonly known as "set the table". At this time, there are good children and nephews, to the groom's mother or aunt, sister-in-law face black, to make fun of.

Seven, after the wedding rituals

The next day, the bride and her relatives to see the family, ancestor worship, graves, the female rate of relatives to the male family to recognize the relatives, to take back the new couple, called "back to the makeup" commonly known as "back to the face", to the bridegroom to a good meal to be treated. The good thing about the elder brother and sister-in-law, sister-in-law often wrapped in dumplings with chili peppers and other things, in order to make fun of the groom. Return to the male family on the same day.

On the third day, the newlyweds, carrying gifts, sedan chair (or car) to the woman's mother's home, commonly known as the "three Chao back to the door". The male family sent people to send buns in the female home, called "satchel basket", and the groom back. After two days, the bride's parents and then send their daughter to the male family, so-called "two back to the three live. Six days later, and then pick up the female back, after the full moon and then send the female in the male family, called "over the month". At this point, the marriage ceremony to the end of all.

During the Spring Festival of the first year of the newly married, the bride and groom should pay tribute to the parents of the bride's family. The time is generally in the first two or three days of the first month. There is a folk song sung: "the first day of the first day of the year, after the second to the third; small two, cleverly dressed, with New Year's goods and pastries, rushed a donkey happy to go to the New Year." When you go, you can't go empty-handed, you must bring some New Year's loans and local specialties, just as the folk song says: "Drinking wine, smoking cigarettes, and New Year's cakes with a big basket." This also indicates that the married daughter does not forget her parents' nurturing.