China traditional etiquette

Seating ceremony

In traditional society, etiquette is orderly, and seats also have primary and secondary points. Noble people sit on the table, and humble people sit last. There are certain rules for who sits in it and where. If you take the wrong seat blindly, not only will the host be unhappy, but you will regret your rudeness afterwards. If you are not sure what kind of seat to take, the best way is to listen to the host's arrangement.

Indoor seats face east, that is, guests sit in the west seat, and the host usually accompanies them to sit in the east seat. Older people can be arranged in the south, that is, the north block. The younger generation who accompany the wine is generally in the north, that is, the south seat. The rule of sitting posture is that when eating, the human body should be as close to the food table as possible, and when not eating, the body should be as far back as possible. The so-called "empty sitting" and the setting of banquet ranking are established by convention, which is very different in time and space. However, according to China's current concept of learning, the position should be discussed first, followed by age, and then gender (female before male) should be used to express the concept of valuing women.

Of course, this is the general pattern that will be followed after the chief seat is determined. In today's life, it depends on the specific situation. When dining out, the seat position is generally determined by the orientation and decoration design style of the restaurant or room, or the orientation of the door, sunrise, or the center of gravity and prominent position reflected by the design and decoration style of the hall and room. Usually when the waiter sets the table, the mouth cloth is folded into the shape of flowers and birds, and the first shape will be very eye-catching, so that people can know it at a glance.

Walking gift

In the process of walking, we also pay attention to the handling of interpersonal relationships, so there is walking etiquette. In ancient times, people with low status often walked in front of people with high status, so they had to bow their heads and pay tribute to respected people in small steps. It's called courtship.

In the traditional walking etiquette, there is also the principle that "if you don't walk in the middle of the road, you can't stand in the middle of the road", that is, you should walk beside it; Don't stand in the middle of the door This not only shows respect for the venerable person, but also avoids pedestrians. If a distinguished guest comes, you should get up to meet him at once.

Social ceremony

Social etiquette refers to people's basic qualities and communicative competence in the process of interpersonal communication. Socialization plays an increasingly important role in interpersonal communication in today's society. Through socializing, people can communicate with each other, build deep friendship and get support and help. Through socialization, people can exchange information and enjoy resources, which is of great benefit to their career success. In modern society, when people meet for the first time, the most commonly used is the handshake etiquette.

Do you know those exquisite things here? First of all, there are priorities in shaking hands. The order of shaking hands is mainly to respect each other's needs. The order is mainly determined by the social status, identity, gender and various conditions of the handshake. The order of two people shaking hands is: superiors first, elders first, ladies first; And subordinates, juniors, men and guests should greet each other first, and then reach out and shake hands with each other. Don't stretch out your hand in front of your superiors.

If two people are similar in status, age and position, it is polite to reach out first. If men and women meet for the first time, the woman can nod to each other instead of shaking hands with the man; If receiving guests, both men and women, the hostess should extend her hand to welcome them, and the host can also extend her hand to welcome the female guests first.

If a person shakes hands with many people, it should be superiors first, subordinates later, elders first, juniors later, hosts first, guests later, women first and men later. If one party ignores the handshake sequence, reach out first, and the other party should shake hands immediately to avoid embarrassment. Of course, the handshake gesture is also very important, and the handshake must be right; Even if it is inconvenient for us to use our right hand, we should try our best to express it. Never use your left hand, which not only disrespects each other, but also lowers the fuse of your own essential teaching.

The best distance to shake hands, the distance between two people; The best posture to shake hands is to stand at attention with your feet, your upper body leaning forward slightly, your right hand straight and your four fingers aligned. Shake hands in the best condition, tremble slightly three or four times with a little strength, and look at each other, but be gentle. When shaking hands, pay attention to look directly at the other person, smile kindly, and remember that it is extremely impolite for Fucheng not to accept the other person's hand.

The gift of speech

The Book of Rites once mentioned that a gentleman must not lose his foot, face or slip of the tongue. Therefore, a gentleman looks and fears, looks and fears, and keeps his word. In short, a gentleman should behave appropriately, be solemn in appearance, be careful in using words, and not say anything wrong. Therefore, the appearance of a gentleman is enough to make people respect, the appearance is enough to make people feel dignified, and the words are enough to convince people.

Speaking is the most intuitive embodiment of a person's speaking level, so pay attention to your speaking etiquette in daily life and important occasions. The difference between language etiquette and general language is that you can't use offensive language that infringes on others, but build emotional communication ties through civilized and polite language. First of all, we should be good at using honorific, modest and elegant language in communication with others.

Secondly, keeping a proper distance from people is usually for communication. To achieve this goal, of course, we should first pay attention to the content of the speech, and then pay attention to the weight of the voice when speaking, so that the interlocutors can understand it. In this way, you must keep your distance from the interlocutor when you speak. Keeping a proper distance from others when speaking is not entirely due to the consideration of whether the other person can hear himself clearly. In addition, there is a question of how to be more polite.