My mother-in-law is always complaining that I am not good. What should I do with it?

In the face of this situation, recklessness is definitely useless, and even it will suffer. Others think that it is really the kind of person that my mother-in-law said. I suggest that you can take the following two steps to solve this problem.

First of all, I still want to describe what I heard to my husband, saying that I have lost my reputation and shown great grievances outside, but in the process of description, don't say that my mother-in-law is wrong, or even that it's not my fault, but that I didn't do well enough, which will make your husband sympathize with you. Then I got down to business and expressed the hope that my husband could talk to her mother-in-law.

At the same time, show your attitude to your husband and ask him to convey that the past has passed and you won't blame your mother-in-law, but don't say so about yourself in the future, which will really make you particularly sad. If she does something wrong, she can tell herself directly that she will correct the benchmark and be a good wife.

Besides, my husband must be made aware of the seriousness of the matter. My mother-in-law is not only ashamed of herself, but more importantly, others will unite to look down on him. Seriously, she will turn her home into a point that others talk about (indicating that she cares more about her husband and this home). As the saying goes, "Wash your dirty linen in public", no matter whose fault it is, you should not go out and say it.

Secondly, if communication is ineffective, then don't live together, reduce contact or even not contact. Many times, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is caused by long-term living together and mutual disgust. There are many contradictions in living together, such as different life concepts and habits.

This is the case with my cousin and sister-in-law. In the past, my cousin didn't work, but only took care of the children at home and lived with her aunt. They often quarrel over trifles. Later, when my wife went out to work in Shanghai, there was less overlap between them, and my wife occasionally bought something for my aunt. This elder sister-in-law is happy to see a person telling a person what his wife bought for her, praising his wife's understanding and filial piety, and saying that she married a good daughter-in-law at home.

At the same time, in my opinion, if the husband and wife have enough ability after marriage, it is best not to live with their in-laws. After all, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have no emotional foundation. And sometimes "two tigers are not allowed in one mountain", and both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law want to be the hostess of the family, which will inevitably lead to contradictions and affect family harmony.

Finally, I suggest that you listen carefully to some problems that your mother-in-law is complaining about, and if there are any, change them and encourage them. Think of this as an opportunity for you to learn and make progress, and let your mother-in-law look at you differently. Believe that when you become good enough, everyone around you will become "good people".