Adult's code of conduct: don't make trouble, don't be afraid of things, can carry things!

In this life, people will always learn all kinds of dogmas about how to be a man. Some people are sleek and sophisticated, while others are diligent and sincere. We constantly improve our wisdom in various contacts, and even lose ourselves by smoothing our edges and corners. In this life class, some people are prosperous and some people are in a mess.

Inevitably, getting along with people just right is not an easy task. As the saying goes, "to live a good life, you don't have to make great achievements. The most important thing is to have a clear conscience and feel at ease."

There is an old saying that the most basic principle of being a man is "not to cause trouble" and "not to be afraid of things".

In other words, you should be modest enough and have courage. The so-called "a gentleman is cautious about independence" and the so-called "not afraid of disaster" is the truth.

But in addition, there should be integrity and responsibility, that is, "being able to carry things", which is the boldness of vision of "who will go to hell if I don't go to hell" and the courage of "although thousands of people go". In today's society, whether in the workplace or in life, it is always found that "being able to move things" is a valuable quality.

Therefore, the most important thing in a person's life is to make his heart stronger and stronger, not care about small things, be responsible for big things, not cause trouble, not afraid of things, and be able to carry things!

Staying out of trouble is modesty and self-cultivation.

Never hate people who deliberately pick things up. There is an old saying in China, "Don't live if you do evil." A person who is always in trouble will get himself into trouble one day.

The so-called "don't make trouble" means "keep your duty", that is, be careful and don't make trouble.

Everyone has his own responsibilities. A gentleman does something and doesn't. Everything is measured. The so-called disaster comes from his mouth, not only his behavior, but also his words.

A classmate, who has always been a outspoken person, often offends many people with an unintentional remark.

Such people are afraid of meeting bad temper. One day after class, he joked with someone. After three or two sentences, the other party scuffled with anger. In the end, both of them went to the infirmary with black eyes and black bruises.

It's important to talk well. Distinguish between objects and occasions. People shouldn't feel embarrassed in public. Don't make fun of people you just met. Respect your elders and leaders. This is a person's emotional intelligence, but also a person's cultivation.

Not long ago, I saw a news that at a bus stop in Hangzhou, a woman broke the order and rampaged in line. An aunt in the back stopped her and kindly reminded her to line up in the back. Unexpectedly, this woman listened, regardless, and even called her husband. In the middle of the push, the aunt fell to the ground with a lumbar fracture and was admitted to the hospital. Both husband and wife were taken away by the police.

This is a trivial matter, and the result is out of control. The couple were punished by public security and had to go to the hospital to take care of their aunt's food, clothing, housing and transportation. There must be something hateful about the poor, which can be said to be a living example.

Life is not easy, natural disasters are irreversible and opportunities are hard to find, but most man-made disasters can be avoided. Think twice before you act, don't make trouble, don't pick things up, and be convenient for others. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" is actually to give yourself convenience.

Fear of things is courage and spirit.

The tree wants to be quiet, but the wind will not stop. People will always encounter all kinds of troubles in this life. If not causing trouble is a person's kindness and cultivation, then not afraid of things is the edge of kindness and the bottom line of cultivation.

Like, sometimes your kindness and kindness can't be exchanged for the same kindness. The world is full of pushy and critical people.

Not afraid of things is a person's courage, but also a person's best umbrella, because people who are not afraid of things are often "aggressive" and often "not easy to bully."

Do you still remember the Mercedes-Benz owners who defended their rights in Xi 'an? A girl bought a Mercedes-Benz for 660,000 yuan, and the engine broke down and the oil leaked before the car went out. In this case, it should be natural, even irrefutable, for the car shop to refund money or change cars. However, the car shop did not do this. The car shop adheres to the principle of "money and things are clear and will not be returned" and proposes to use "three guarantees" to replace them immediately after sale. She changed the engine before the car stalled. The girl felt very wronged, but there was nothing she could do. She can only deal with the store in various ways, communicate politely and even beg. This is a kind of right protection, but consumers stand in a humble position. However, the store was ungrateful, pushed from pillar to post and made no compromise. The female car owner couldn't help, and finally she just sat on the hood of the car, full of tears.

The female car owner said a very interesting sentence in front of the reporter: You reason with them well, they are hooligans, I will become a bitch, and things will be solved.

A person, facing an entire car shop and an internationally renowned car dealer, has to say that it takes courage. This female car owner is not afraid. She sticks to the bottom line of rights and interests as a consumer and never compromises.

Looking back, this kind of "fearless" people are actually easy to be liked and get along with, because they always know what they want and what their bottom line is, and such people live very easily.

Therefore, what is not afraid of things is actually to have an inviolable bottom line and the courage to face difficulties.

Nietzsche said that those who can't kill us will eventually make us stronger.

Yu Hua said that when we treated the world fiercely, the world suddenly became gentle.

It is not the best state to become strong and the world is gentle to us.

Being able to carry things has both strength and responsibility.

Some people say that the measure of a person's success is not the height at which he reached the top, but the height at which he bottomed out.

As many things as one can handle, so many things can be accomplished.

What is able to handle things is to bravely bear your own responsibilities and pressures, bear those inevitable hardships, do not escape, do not complain, take active actions, and then persevere.

Su Qin said that when he was in the worst mood, he would still eat on time, go to bed early and get up early, and be as self-disciplined as before. Such a person is a person who can take care of others. No matter how chaotic the personnel are, they will not be chaotic. People don't need so many extraordinary things. It's great to be able to move things.

Psychologically, the ability to carry things is called adversity quotient, that is, the ability to get rid of difficulties and setbacks.

There are too many adults in the world who have to shoulder or be forced to compromise, heavy family burdens, depression on the verge of collapse, and countless "dark moments".

In the movie "An Arrow Through the Heart", Li Baoli, a laid-off worker, reported that her husband Ma Xuewu was cheating, so Ma Xuewu was laid off and unemployed, and committed suicide by jumping into the river.

Old and young, the burden of life has all shifted to Li Baoli's shoulders.

She refused her friend's help and became a "shoulder pole" on the streets of Wuhan. Like a man, she carries a home with a pole.

Betrayal and abandonment, suffering and survival, Li Baoli silently undertook everything, and in the crowd, she lived forever.

People who can carry things can often walk wider and farther on the thorny road of life.

In the workplace, people who can move things are often more "reliable" and more reassuring.

Because such people are more able to withstand pressure and have a "sense of security".

Recently, a friend formed a partner with another colleague because of department adjustment. The project at hand is not too tight, and it is not difficult to finish it on time in an orderly way. What makes my friend particularly headache is that partners always lose their chains at critical times, do not flinch when encountering difficulties, leave things behind again and again, and the finished things are full of loopholes. My friend had to work overtime for several days to "catch up" and catch up slowly before stepping on the deadline to finish the project.

Having dinner together the other day, my friend said that the longer I work with people like that, the more I can deeply understand how important it is to be a reliable person.

We often talk about whether a person is reliable. There is a word in love relationship called "entrust for life", which means nothing more than whether it can reassure people. In life and work, that is to say, you can't carry things.

In fact, it is a very simple truth. No one wants to work with irresponsible people. If you don't worry, you have to take responsibility from time to time.

Born as a man, you will always encounter all kinds of things. In fact, what makes you comfortable in all kinds of human life is that you don't make trouble, are not afraid of things, and can carry things.

If you don't make trouble, you don't make trouble for yourself;

Not afraid of things means not letting yourself be bullied;

I can move things to make myself stronger.

This is self-cultivation, a rare quality, the wisdom that adults should have, and the underlying logic of all behaviors.