Boyfriend's family adheres to the traditional concept that men are outside the home and women are inside, but I don't want to give up my job. Is it my fault?

Our country has been influenced by Confucianism for thousands of years. Up to now, the idea that men dominate the outside and women dominate the inside is still dominant in some areas. However, being a housewife does not mean giving up work and pursuing the career you love will never be a mistake. Pursuing ideals is everyone's right. It is wrong to insist on your own ideas and let the woman give up her job to cater to herself.

Love may only be about two people, but marriage is about two families. In this case, the man's family clearly only considers himself, but one person stubbornly imposes his own ideas on you. The combination of the two families needs the joint efforts and cooperation of both sides, rather than blindly asking for or forbearing. When there is a contradiction, we should think about how to put forward a plan acceptable to both parties, rather than forcing one party to accept the other.

Maybe now you choose to compromise and resign because of love and marriage, but it is likely to become a contradiction in your later life. In your later married life, every time you quarrel, every time there is a contradiction, you will always think of your concessions, your efforts, your giving up your job and your ideals because of marriage, which will never become a thorn in your heart.

What's more, after your resignation, your husband or his family will gradually pay less attention to your opinions because of the loss of financial resources, and your position in the family will become weaker and weaker. Without financial resources, it may mean that you have no right to speak, which will make you less confident and make your communication with the outside world poor. This will become an endless vicious circle. Therefore, it is by no means your fault that you don't give up your job. Maybe you should think carefully about whether what you lost because of this practice is within your acceptable range.