A Few Tips for You Who Want to Become a Counselor

Serenity:

Hello. If you want to halfway transition to become a counselor, this is entirely possible, which is to be grateful that we were born in China, but our country's requirements for this profession will also become more and more demanding, which is why the National Counselor Exam was canceled.

Because you raised is not the life of psychological confusion, this Q&A I can boldly give you advice, and can give advice after the sharing of the pressure that this profession may face, hopefully, can help you to have a multi-perspective understanding of this profession.

First of all, I would like to share three realistic suggestions:

1. In order to comply with the future development trend of the industry, it is recommended that you complete a psychology-related professional studies and obtain a degree certificate, bachelor's degree, master's degree or doctoral degree can be, after all, counseling is a job that speaks of professionalism, and in the future, it will still be looking at the academic professional background. The first signs of this are already present, for example, the Chinese Psychological Association Clinical Psychology Registration Working Committee for the application of registered psychologists have a mandatory indicator is to have a bachelor's degree in psychology, medicine, education or social work.

In addition, because of the abolition of the national counselor's examination, studying for a relevant degree is also a knock on the door to enter the profession. Since you intend to pursue a career in counseling, try to major in psychology for a closer practical application.

This brings us to the exams, and if you don't feel too good about them, it is recommended that you deal with the subject of yourself first, which may allow you to understand yourself better and see what's behind the impedance.

2. Complete a one-year or two-year continuum of professional systematic training. Many organizations still care a lot about the consultant's systematic professional learning background when recruiting consultants.

Wuhan, Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen more of these courses, this industry is very common to go to class on a plane, the teacher and the quality of the course is more important. Recommended simple psychological, one psychological, sugar psychological, Zeng Qifeng psychological studio, Drim psychological, as well as Guangzhou Baiyun psychological hospital courses, are good. If you like the direction of Jung, then the Oriental Institute of Psychoanalysis is a good choice.

3. Adhere to the reading and learning, do personal experience (become a visitor), more accumulation of consulting volume (this is the practice of hard indicators, you can start from the public welfare consulting to accumulate experience), and adhere to the case supervision. This point will share more later.

I am also halfway through the transition to become a counselor, at that time we have nearly a dozen partners in the certification class relationship is good, there are a few months, we get together once a week, reading and learning, *** with the growth, and encourage each other, we all vaguely look forward to can become a counselor. Two years later, only I became a full-time counselor, and one began to work part-time and sporadically as a caseworker, while the other partners gave up in the middle.

To be honest, this road is really not easy, too many people in the early stage after investing a lot of money and time, and ultimately did not really step into this industry. There are many reasons for this, and I personally feel that there are three main areas of pressure.

There is a saying in the industry that counselors don't expect to break even in the first three years of practice, and this is not true at all. The first three years of practice, not including the learning period, before the first case of counseling, at least a full year of systematic basic learning period.

First of all, this is a career that requires lifelong learning, and when you come in, you'll find that the tuition costs just don't stop, because it's a job that tests specialized knowledge and skills. In the first few years, in the face of a variety of difficult problems, you will always be able to resist to go back to charge some electricity. This is normal, even if we are really learning personality disorder patients, the latter part of the knowledge and skills to fill the thickness, compared with the European and American countries on the professional requirements of the counselor practitioner standard, the gap is still very large.

The training fee for this industry is really not cheap, just a few days workshop on thousands of tens of thousands. When you accumulate to a certain level, finally can reach the Chinese and American classes or so-and-so psychoanalytic institute of such a high standard of training of the threshold of admission, you are excited to fill out the resume to apply for enrollment through the interview, tens of thousands of dollars and out.

The bottomless pit of tuition, compared to the weekly personal experience fee and supervision fee, is a small thing.

If you want to become a qualified counselor, you must accept the personal experience, so that you can make your personality more perfect. If you have a better personality, you will not be dragged into the mud in your counseling work, and you will not hurt each other with your visitors in your counseling work.

The supervision fee is as important as the personal experience fee, and Zeng Qifeng said that counseling without supervision is not real counseling. I couldn't agree more, and it's a responsibility to the visitor, and to yourself, to conduct counseling under the guidance of a more professional practitioner. Not only will the supervisor help guide you in your professionalism, but he or she will also invariably help you to share a lot of work pressure.

My personal feeling is that, for a novice counselor, according to the domestic industry's fee schedule, the personal experience fee and supervision fee to be paid every week add up to almost 1,000 yuan, or at least 800 yuan, otherwise the quality is difficult to guarantee. Some peers have written that the counselor's growth path, to prepare a set of three or four lines of the house, I think it is not so exaggerated, but to prepare for a 100,000 to 200,000, is still very much needed.

With the added benefit of personal experience and supervision each week, your work will be much less stressful, but that doesn't mean there's no more stress at all. Counseling is a job that respects the profession, but it's also a very people-oriented job, and I think it's a job that impacts lives with lives.

The stress of a counselor's job is different from that of the workplace, which is even more stressful, but not so much so that your chakras are scattered on the spot. I've seen a peer just come out of the counseling room, attacked by the visitor so much that the hand holding the cup trembled for a long time, and I've also experienced after the end of a counseling, frozen on the couch for five whole minutes can not move.

Interestingly, though, the great charm of this job is also that it has such unique work pressures, and it's only when souls really touch souls that you experience this kind of depletion. Do you think you're going to hate your visitors after you've been consumed? No, no, as soon as you recover your spirit, you will still love them, and you will find them more and more lovable as you go deeper into your work.

Why do you love your visitors even after they have been abused a thousand times? Part of the reason, surely, is because it's your job, you're paid to do it, and every one of us wants to do it right. The other reason, I think, is-- When there is a deep soul-to-soul touch, trust and link, this certainly inspires love. For example, when someone trusts you so much to tell you what seems to him/her to be the most shameful and secretive part of his/her heart, it's hard not to want to do everything you can to make it easier and happier and happier for him/her. Even if you have to be restrained and do nothing on the surface, when that person grows a little more, you will just be moved to tears inside.

Of course, you are also a normal person, if you hate a little longer, you find yourself afraid to see that visitor, or in that counseling, you have a strong sense of powerlessness. At that point, out of responsibility for the visitor and yourself, you need to talk to your experience counselor as soon as possible to see what's behind the emotions, to see which complexes you're hooked on, and while you're at it, you refine your personality a little bit more. So, sometimes it really is the counselor and the visitor who are growing together.

As your personality becomes more and more perfect, your experience becomes richer and richer, and your power becomes deeper and deeper, you feel less and less consumed, and it's a long but wonderful road.

As you get into the swing of things, you'll realize that it's a very busy job, and a very lonely one.

You're busy counseling, you're busy writing notes, you're busy typing verbatim scripts, you're busy meeting with experiential practitioners, you're busy meeting with supervisors, you're busy attending classes, you're busy reading a lot, and you're probably busy writing ...... Eventually, you realize that all the people in your life you get to meet are either your visitors or your experiential practitioners or supervisors, and it's all about seen one-on-one.

This is quite different from the office environment, where relationships, no matter how fake and flashy, come and go. Sometimes, counselors like to take classes for another reason, because there are so many people, and it's a lot of fun, and you don't usually get to see that many people!

Additionally, you will have a deep connection with your visitors, and an even deeper connection with your experience teacher, but these relationships are subtle, more real than real, but never real. There may be a time when you are confused and can't tell which is real and which is not, but when the visitor touches you y again and again, and the experience teacher accepts you again and again, it's easy to feel that there are too many falsehoods and disguises in the relationships in your life, and to feel that the quality of your social life is getting lower and lower.

So, you'd rather be alone than indulge in "fake". The trouble with comparisons is that they are the only way to get rid of them.

You are eager to meet the depth of exchange of friendship, how to meet it? The same person should be able to talk more, after all, there are too many similarities. First of all, the supervisor is no time to make friends with you, other peers? You make a few appointments with enthusiasm and then you realize that many of your peers have long since become lonely and unresponsive to your signals of friendship development. At this point you should not be discouraged, it is not your fault, it is just that they have long been bad at making friends.

Counselors and consultants to be friends, manifested in: when serious, WeChat group to discuss the defense mechanism and existentialism, and then summarize the new insights; lighthearted, WeChat group to attack each other, hold each other for a while, and then talk about self-awareness.

There are also some consultants who don't even bubble in the group, occasionally clicking a like under each other's articles, leaving a message, and then praising a reward. This is very warm.

Why do so many counselors like to write? I think, I'm afraid there is nothing more lonely than writing, to overcome loneliness with loneliness, to fight poison with poison, can not be more effective.

After two or three years, you finally broke down your own firewall, and thought, "What do you care about what's true? But soon you will find that you still can not go back to the once flourishing, because you have also been lonely into the fairy.

Regarding the loneliness of the counselor, I think it's a question of whether the chicken lays the egg, or the egg lays the chicken. Is it that one becomes lonely by being a counselor? Or did one choose to become a counselor because one was originally lonely? I think it's the latter.

Li Mengchao said that counselor is not a profession that wants to be, but a profession that is chosen. Zeng Qifeng also said that not everyone is suitable to become a counselor, and he even suggested that before a person decides to make the transition to become a counselor, he should first go to a professional for an assessment to see if he is suitable, or else spending too much time and money would be a waste of time. I don't think it's such an exaggeration, but having the ability to be more comfortable with loneliness, more empathetic, and more persistent does go a long way in the profession.

Some loneliness is not something that you can adapt to, and the reason why you adapted so quickly is that it really could be in your nature to do so. Maybe some years ago you immersed in the hustle and bustle is just a way of defending yourself against loneliness, and eventually you finally had the courage to dare to be alone in a big way.

I didn't write "The Stress of Loneliness" in the subtitle of this section.

The title of this section I did not write "the pressure of loneliness", is loneliness pressure?

By the way, I heard you say that you write your resume online, but I don't know what kind of job postings you are looking at. In fact, psychological counseling agencies rarely recruit full-time counselors on job boards, the industry prefers a collaborative approach, in addition to this circle is very small, want to recruit the right counselor, may be forwarded to forward the agency's public number will have an effect. The counselor position on the recruitment site is likely to be the emotional counselor that has been trendy in the past few years, which is very different from traditional counseling. It is recommended that you learn more about it.

These are some of my knowledge and feelings about this profession, only on behalf of my personal views, there are certainly many limitations and prejudices, after all, I have not been practicing soon, perhaps in a few years there will be a new understanding. I'm not sure if I've ever been in a position where I've been able to get a good deal on a product or service.

In fact, so much verbosity, are nonsense, the core point of the sentence, true love just do it, no matter what, a lot of counselors is so over.

I am grateful for the trust you have placed in me.

Clear heart