Why is marriage with love the same as marriage without love in A Dream of Red Mansions?

Everyone feels that their love is unique, the most special and the best when they are in love, but in reality, love is nothing more than the same routine. They will enter marriage, experience troubles and often encounter financial difficulties; Their children will be born; Perhaps one party will be unfaithful and will get tired of the other party over time; Sometimes I want to end each other, and occasionally I want to end myself. This is also true love.

But we are in it ourselves, and few people can see through these truths. You can imagine how we once went from love to dissatisfaction. From love to marriage is easy, as long as there is a spark between us, love can be sublimated to marriage, but when we enter marriage, we know our real goal.

There is a very touching passage in a book I have read: the person who makes a marriage contract is not only the center of our emotional life, but also the person in charge of all our experiences, whether good or bad-this requirement is really rare, irrational and extremely unfair. This passage almost tells the truth in life. No one is responsible for our joys and sorrows, only ourselves! When we encounter unbearable experiences, we can cry or face them bravely. We should be responsible for our own lives. The future is in our own hands. Only by working hard can we be truly happy and happy, because the decision is in our own hands, and our happiness is not in anyone. We are our own gods.

Some people say that "junk marriage is not as good as being single". All marriages in the world are not necessarily perfect and happy. If marriage is in the garbage. Meeting such a marriage will not only make the rest of your life full of happiness, on the contrary, staying in such a marriage for a long time will only make your life miserable.