Will you fall in love in a roundabout way?

I won't, because feelings are not like this and I don't like it, so we are stable and married. But I can give you an analysis of this circuitous love phenomenon, as well as the reasons and influences behind it.

1. What is "circuitous love"?

"circuitous love" is a typical way of beating around the bush and not directly expressing feelings. Usually manifested as indecision, ambiguity, cover-up or playing with psychology, rather than directly expressing one's mind. In this mode, boys are more inclined to associate with girls as friends, while girls often follow boys' wishes, so it is difficult to accurately judge whether boys are interested in themselves.

Second, why do young people choose "circuitous love"?

1. Fear and anxiety

Many young people are afraid of paying too much and being rejected and hurt. In the eyes of these people, "circuitous love" allows them to try smaller gestures to gain recognition and love from each other, and also avoids the risk of rejection or injury caused by too deep a relationship.

2. Face and self-esteem

Circuitous love is often understood as a way to protect self-esteem, not directly facing the situation that may be rejected. Because if the other party reneges or refuses, it will cause serious harm.

3. Influenced by traditional culture

In the traditional culture of China, women usually have to be more cautious and show more femininity and charm in love, while men need to show determination and decisiveness. This makes young people more cautious in heterosexual communication.

Third, what is the impact of "circuitous love"?

1. misleading and wasting time

If both parties choose to use circuitous love, it is easy to have misunderstandings and emotional imbalances. Being in a circuitous state for a long time will waste a lot of time and resources and reduce the ability of rational judgment.

2. Affect real communication

When you use circuitous love to deal with another person, you often avoid or postpone facing your true feelings and hide what you want to say most. Because this way can easily cause misunderstanding and confusion of the other party, and then affect normal communication.

Mislead each other

Being in a state of circuitous love for a long time, it is difficult for us to sort out our true thoughts, and we don't know how the other party will handle it. This uncertainty will lead to misunderstanding, speculation and doubt. In the end, it may lead to many problems in emotional relationships.

Fourth, how to avoid circuitous love?

1. Frank communication

Expressing your thoughts and feelings directly and frankly is a powerful tool for building relationships. When you keep a frank and open attitude with each other, you will have more opportunities to show your true self and make you trust and respect each other.

2. Facts speak louder than words

If you find yourself attracted to a person, then actions are more important than words. Directly asking the other person for a flight attendant or inviting him out to play can produce many positive reactions and lay a solid foundation for in-depth communication.

Face up to rejection

If you are rejected, don't treat it as an injury or embarrassment. On the contrary, you should think deeply about the reasons, find out your own shortcomings, and then improve your emotional wisdom.

To sum up, it has become the norm for many young people to choose circuitous love in modern society. We can be more honest with ourselves and others and actively show our true personality and feelings. Only in this way can we better establish a truly healthy relationship.