How to solve the bad habits faced by rural marriage?

Speaking of customs, every region must have its own customs, but I think some customs are no longer suitable for this era! China culture is extensive and profound. After thousands of years of changes, China's history and culture are worth remembering. However, I think culture belongs to culture, and we can't put some bad customs and culture together.

In recent years, I have learned through various channels that marriage in some areas has turned a happy event into a sad one! Recently, there is a small video on the Internet that deserves our attention. It is said that someone chased the groom at a wedding in a certain place. As a result, the groom ran to expressway to escape from marriage and was seriously injured by a car.

Another report is that the married person sprayed the groom with a dry powder fire extinguisher at the wedding, which caused the dry powder to contact with the fire, resulting in an explosion and extensive burns to the groom's body. Seeing that these tragedies are all caused by "marital discord", I think good customs can be used for reference, but some bad habits must be abolished. Hope to adopt!

In rural weddings, people often see some bad customs, which make people feel disgusted, sometimes make the wedding stiff and particularly embarrassing, and make the wedding that should be happy very disappointing.

What are the bad customs of rural weddings that should be changed?

In some places, the bridal chamber is particularly violent, and the ways and means of making the bridal chamber are also very obscene, which will make the bride and groom disgusted. They just want to have a good sleep after a busy day at the wedding. As a result, they had to deal with the bridal chamber at night, that's what it means. But now people see some obscene bridal chamber applications for it through the internet, which will make the couple feel particularly disgusted. Cooperate with them, they are tired and sleepy.

Pulling a cart is a habit in many places when you get married. In order to add some joy to the wedding, I stopped and asked for some candy cigarettes. However, now more and more people pull carts not for fun, but for money, ranging from three to five hundred to thousands. Marrying a daughter-in-law in the countryside is already bankrupt, and these expenses make the couple's marriage life more stressful.

How to solve these bad habits?

First of all, the village collective should set up a board of directors to publicize civilized weddings in large quantities, and don't let these bad habits be carried forward and passed down. Whether it's a bridal chamber or a car stop, enough is enough, which means enough to set off the atmosphere. You can't take this opportunity to make a fuss and make the wedding awkward. The village committee should play a supervisory role to curb this uncivilized behavior.

As China people in the new era, we should abandon some bad customs and should not strengthen inheritance, so as to create a happy wedding for our relatives and friends.

I don't think getting married in the countryside can be called a bad habit as long as you can accept it.

As for the sky-high bride price, there is such a thing, but you can't judge whether it is bad by the amount of bride price money, because everyone's acceptance ability is different. For example, you think that 65438+ million bride price is a lot of money, but it is nothing to others, and there are no specific regulations.

It is no exaggeration to say that malicious gambling on cars in rural marriages is a bad habit. Some people will deliberately block the wedding car and let the housekeeper buy cigarettes and wine, all of which are high-grade cigarettes, and some even let them buy dozens. People who stop cars are not classmates and friends, but irrelevant people. Some even ask for money directly, and only when they give enough heart will they be released. There have been such news reports, maliciously blocking the wedding car and letting it buy high-end cigarettes without restraint. Finally, the groom was forced to do nothing.

Don't forget to pick up legal weapons when you encounter bad marriage customs in the countryside.

When it comes to the bad habits faced by rural marriage, apart from the sky-high bride price and the comparison banquet, the most disturbing thing is the custom of "getting married". It turns out that the form of "noisy marriage" is a wedding custom that has existed since ancient times, which is also commonly known as "noisy bridal chamber". It is a way to increase the lively atmosphere of the wedding and enhance the feelings of the newlyweds. This is a festive festival. However, in modern weddings, the marriage custom still in use has gradually deteriorated, and even evolved into an out-of-control "vulgar game". The manifestations can be summarized as follows:

First, the object of marriage is expanding: now the object of marriage is not only the bride and groom, but also the best man, bridesmaid, parents-in-law and even brother-in-law and sister-in-law. No resistance is allowed, otherwise it will be disappointment.

Second, vulgarity: In many places, some marriages are full of violence, and some openly break taboos. Both the bride and groom need to accept the troublemaker's request, show their body parts, wear strange clothes and have private sex between husband and wife.

Third, the humiliation of women: in the marriage-seeking activities, the bride and bridesmaids have become the main targets of humiliation because of some people's selfish desires, and what's more, excessive harassment through marriage-seeking has emerged one after another, even leading to life-threatening. Although afterwards, the people involved in the marriage were also investigated for criminal responsibility, and there were many reports in the news media, some people's malicious marriage promotion behavior could not be stopped. In fact, many people are dissatisfied with similar vulgar marriages, especially those who suffer from them. They hate the "bad habits" of marriage in rural areas. However, there is nothing we can do, either because of our feelings, or because we don't want to ruin the atmosphere of the wedding, or because it is a local custom, and many people even often get caught up in it and play a role in fueling the situation.

According to the survey, although in recent years, with the development of economy and society, many areas have abolished the custom of marriage. However, in some economically underdeveloped rural areas, due to the relatively slow development of cultural life and civilized quality, the taste of life is dull and monotonous, and the culture lags behind, the phenomenon of marriage is still relatively common. In recent years, the nationwide activities to change customs and traditions have provided a historical opportunity to change the wedding habits at the grassroots level. 20 18 Document "Opinions of the Central Committee of the State Council on Implementing Rural Revitalization Strategy" clearly puts forward that we should pay attention to both material civilization and spiritual civilization, enhance the spiritual outlook of farmers, cultivate civilized rural style, good family style and simple folk customs, and constantly improve the level of rural social civilization. On the one hand, it is necessary to inherit, develop and promote the excellent traditional culture in rural areas and play its important role in rallying people's hearts, educating the masses and purifying folk customs. On the other hand, we should also carry out actions to change customs and get rid of stereotypes.

From the central government to the local government, a series of targeted policy documents have been issued, pointing to the stereotypes and bad habits in weddings, funerals and weddings, and achieved results in a certain range. For example, on 20 16, Dali Prefecture of Yunnan Province issued the Notice on Further Renovating Uncivilized Marriage in Dali Prefecture. Among them, it is explicitly forbidden to ask for marriage in roads and public places in counties and cities, and it is forbidden to have vulgar and vulgar song and dance performances, funny farce, nudity, obscene and exotic clothes, throwing eggs, littering, trampling on the grass, polluting water sources and so on. It also requires all organs, enterprises, cadres, employees and their families and children not to organize or participate in uncivilized marriages. However, in addition to the explicit provisions in the policy, we should pay more attention to changing customs at the spiritual level. In the final analysis, villagers need to change their ideas if they want to abandon their marriage completely.

Various government departments, such as marriage registration office, spiritual civilization office, village committee organizations, as well as some folk associations and wedding companies, should subtly guide villagers to change their thinking and understanding, cultivate new customs, form new marriage customs, and gradually eradicate the living soil of rural "bad habits".

In case of malicious marriage, ordinary people should not be forced to bear it because of face. When dissuasion fails, we should bravely raise legal weapons, report those suspected of violating the law and crimes in vicious marriage events, safeguard our own rights and interests, and form a good atmosphere of marriage customs.

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He is still noisy in some places, which is reasonable. In some places, he went too far, too far, and even indiscriminate. Even his parents, the best man and the bridesmaid, should have a good time. Do you want to make a fool of yourself happily?

There are also people who make trouble, which means that on the wedding day, three generations are big or small.

This means that three generations can play with each other and make fun of each other. The noisier the better. There have been many vulgar, vulgar and even unsightly marriages.

In a sense, in a sense, if you are the parents and host of the family, make it clear to these hosts and wedding hosts, which is known to everyone.

If your master is silent, then everyone will mess around. To what extent? To a large extent, it is still the opinion of the housekeeper.

Because there are too many men and too few women in rural areas, you can't help him make a choice through this economic lever. You don't want it. You can't afford this sky-high bride price. Many people can afford it, and most of them are single. Because of the sky-high bride price in the countryside, I really can't think of any good way at the moment.

These are two customs that are not conducive to this kind of wedding in rural areas: an analysis and an opinion.

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How to solve the bad habits faced by rural marriage?

The bad habits of rural marriage are mainly some excessive behaviors beyond the scope of making trouble in the bridal chamber. In this case, not only in rural areas, but also in cities.

Marriage is a beautiful moral. The more lively the bridal chamber is, the better the life of the new couple will be. However, the wedding now, a bit too much. In addition to quarreling with newcomers, I also quarreled with bridesmaids and even relatives and friends. If you believe it, you can search online for those videos of marriage. I really don't know if this is for the good of the couple or just to satisfy my own selfish desires. In the words of predecessors, it is "indecent" and "immoral".

As for how to solve it, it can only be solved by the couple themselves. Since I want to make the wedding glamorous, of course I will entertain my relatives and friends. But try to say hello to those relatives and friends before the wedding, for the sake of the couple's face and the parents' face, don't go too far. I remember when my high school classmates got married, the mop pole was interrupted, which made them cry. My classmate is a fireman, who has changed jobs and just finished fitness. I don't know if these so-called comrades-in-arms or friends really have feelings for him or how they did it, so heavy-handed.

Therefore, if you want to make the wedding so vulgar, you can only say hello to both friends, not too much. Secondly, if relatives can help each other, if excessive marriage occurs, it can be stopped. These are my views on this issue. If there is anything wrong, please let me know.

The times have progressed, and the previous three major pieces are essentially different from the current three major pieces. Why is the house so expensive? Why are cars so expensive? I can't pay you for a lifetime. Think about the deep-seated reasons yourself, and don't complain. Why is the monthly salary on the salary card so small? Don't complain about bride price. It is a fact that married daughters are spilled water. Even if the descendants of two people share the same surname as the man, what's wrong with asking for some money Other people raised their daughters so big. Do you want to marry someone and give it to you as soon as possible? Even if you have kittens and puppies, you have to give me money if you want! What's more, it's your business to get married, and how much bride price you want is my business. After all, I raised my daughter. I can live with you all my life. I can bear the wind and rain for you. Give me some bride price and we can talk, then hug your car with hundreds of dollars and go to bed at night! So don't say anything, try to make money!

The wedding is the most grand, solemn and sacred moment for everyone, and it is an unforgettable day for every couple. Marriage has a long history in our rural wedding custom, which is intended to add spice. Good wishes to express blessings are in some places. Make customs vulgar and marriage troublesome.

It is a very lively and happy thing that two people who love each other finally get married through various efforts. I don't know why the marriage customs in some places have become so barbaric, and even tragic events have happened. This has violated the law.

Therefore, I think local government agencies should intervene in advance and impose administrative penalties on this bad marriage behavior.

Rectifying the wedding atmosphere and improving the quality of the whole people are due respect for each couple. I also hope that the couple who are about to enter the wedding hall will not be bound by such an atmosphere. A civilized wedding starts with yourself.

The so-called vulgarity is actually a comparison. When I got married, the bride price was 88 thousand, and I didn't want a car or a building. My daughter-in-law bought a courier and brought it back. All my daughter-in-law's dowry is basically my parents' money!

Mainly a bride price. The key is that rural young men have been looking for men in recent years. If you don't give a lot of bride price, others will give it and the price will go up. Being single is very risky.