How to express male identity

People say that women live by their ears, and praise is the sunshine in women's life. In fact, men, too, like to hear others' affirmation and praise of themselves, which will make them feel valuable and confident. It can be said that proper praise is a shot in the arm for men.

The road to a man's heart must pass through the bottleneck of his self-esteem. You know, flattery can make you invincible all over the world, and it is also a slap in the face for men.

Successful man

Because of the traditional social selector's orientation of male role, men are very concerned about their image in the eyes of others. His self-esteem is closely related to his work and career, and anyone's comments on his work will make him sensitive. Therefore, no matter whether a man is engaged in a wonderful career or ordinary labor, he wants you to applaud his career achievements.

Just because men expect your attention and recognition of his personal career achievements, the general praise that can be used on anyone, such as "you are very capable or attractive", can only make him feel that you are perfunctory, and the most appropriate way is to praise some of his personal characteristics. A successful businessman once said, "So many people have told me all day that I envy your achievements now, and I'm tired of listening to them. The icing on the cake makes me not excited at all, but the sentence' Your success is because you have superhuman recognition ability in product positioning' really excites me for a long time. "

Of course, praise for a man's achievements is not necessarily expressed in words. Sometimes, being a dedicated listener will make him feel smug because he is appreciated.

A gentleman

The so-called demeanor is a taste that men give people in their manners. Don't think that men are really casual and unrestrained. In fact, they are very concerned about what others say about their behavior. Once his girlfriend talked about the reason why he broke up with his boyfriend. Just because she teased her boyfriend's embarrassment at a friend's party, it greatly hurt the other person's self-esteem and threw out a sentence: "Since you think I'm rude, I'd better leave."

This is also the case. Actions speak louder than words. Only when you are satisfied and appreciate each other's manners will you fall in love with him. The way to praise a man's cleverness in this respect is to compare him with other men and show your appreciation. Fan Wen said: "On one occasion, I took a taxi with my girlfriend. After getting off the bus, I opened the door for him. She said that the men she met before never knew what gentlemanly manners were. This sentence greatly satisfied my self-esteem and made me feel like a very popular man. "

Dignified appearance

Many men admit that while paying attention to women's shame, they also want to look better than Pan An.

However, men are particularly afraid of women treating them as embroidered pillows because of their social role orientation, so they are particularly sensitive to women's praise of their external image. Words that excite women, such as "You look beautiful" and "You are dressed well", will make men feel particularly uncomfortable. In his understanding, there is a kind of ridicule here, as if to say, "You little sissy, why are you dressed as a woman?"

Therefore, if you really want to express your appreciation for a man's appearance, you must judge the situation and take it easy.

Finally, in view of a man's self-esteem, you should remind yourself never to tell a man which celebrity he looks like or acts like. Maybe climbing a star will boost your self-confidence, but for a man, it is a violation of his self-esteem.