China people admire strict father's loving mother. Will it match strict father's loving mother?

Educating children is the responsibility of both parents. However, family structure affects children's education. Families in China generally admire the collocation of loving mothers in strict father. In other words, the father usually plays a strict role, while the mother is a kind role. This kind of collocation is very common in many families, so is the collocation of loving mother in strict father really good?

First, the collocation of loving mothers in strict father is not good. In fact, I personally think that the collocation of loving mothers in strict father is not as good as everyone thinks, but it has become a fixed role of the family. In fact, many children have been afraid of their father since they can remember. This is mainly because fathers often talk about their children with a straight face and a harsh tone. When the father is talking about children, the mother will play the role of a good person and coax the children aside, so that the children will be closer to their mothers. In other words, this collocation way of educating children is just like China's saying, slap a sweet jujube. After a long time, it will not only make the distance between the child and the father more distant, but sometimes the child will rely too much on the mother, which will lead to the child's weak personality. Therefore, instead of loving mother strict father, it is better for two people to cooperate with each other, which is more conducive to children's education.

Second, how should parents cooperate to educate better children? 1. Parents should participate in their children's education. Although most fathers play a strict role, in the process of educating children, it is often because the relationship between children and fathers is not very close, so more than 60% of the educational responsibility will be pushed to mothers. In fact, in essence, this kind of education can be regarded as the father's lack of education for his children. Therefore, in the process of educating children, parents should not only participate, but also change roles with their children, and one of them should not always be fixed in a strict or kind role. Both husband and wife should give their children appropriate encouragement and criticism at the same time. In this way, children's feelings for their parents will also reach a balance point. Not too dependent on one of them.

2. Both strictness and love must exist. In addition to parents' participation in children's education, parents should also pay equal attention to strictness and love in the process of educating their children. Because living conditions are getting better and better now, people will love their children more, but in the process of doting, everyone should have a boundary. Once it exceeds a certain limit, it is a kind of doting for children, so the children educated in the future will become inexperienced and even rebellious, so it is very necessary to be strict, but there is also a measure of strictness. Children can't be suppressed blindly, so whether it is a father or a mother, in the process of educating children, one should be strict with children and have love, which will be more conducive to educating children.