Children begin to rebel. What should we do as parents?

Speaking of rebellion, I think of the stubborn "demeanor" of children when they do their homework, with their noses up and shouting "That's what teachers teach". Speaking of rebellion, I recall how many times my child "mumbled" to our parents and even to his grandmother, so "arrogant".

In the face of children's rebellious behavior, our parents often feel helpless.

But is there really no way to deal with it? No, no, no. !

0 1. Let me talk about my child's rebellious behavior first.

Because of the epidemic, my children passively attend classes online at home. He doesn't have to go to school, just like flying by himself. The whole family is his and he is very happy.

But for me and his mother, it's like a bitter gourd face with wrinkles every day. Why?

Because there are homework and exercises after class every day, he is always not serious, either sticking his ass up or sticking his pen in his nose; Either sitting stagger, or playing with something in his hand ..... So inattentive and not serious, of course, our parents should remind him to correct his discipline problems. But every time I point out a question to him, he always says impatiently, Oh, can you stop bothering me in class? Can you stop bothering me every time I do my homework? What ................. said seems quite "reasonable".

02. Accurately grasp my child's rebellious "life gate"

Later, I groped and found that children are more concerned about their grades in class (the grading software given to students by their class teacher). So I caught his loophole and said that our parents' meeting would report it to the teacher through the grading software according to the students' usual performance in class and practice, and then the teacher would grade it on it. If you are still so inattentive in class, practice and homework and make so many small moves, I will report to the teacher truthfully. In this way, children really have more responsibilities.

So I think parents should correct their attitude and understanding of children's rebellious behavior. Rebellion is the normal performance of children, and it is also the result of physical maturity and improved thinking level. This is growth and progress, not a bad thing. It is necessary to learn to observe from the nuances and find the child's "key" in order to solve it in a targeted manner.

Later, because of the effective prevention and control of the epidemic, the children returned to school. When I brushed my circle of friends, I found that many people said that they were finally relieved, and the "God beast" finally came back ... So, I understand this feeling as a parent.

I think it's better to talk less and do more.

My colleagues and I often discuss parenting experiences together and share parenting matters with each other. I once talked to my colleagues, and the child was rebellious. I said, I hit the child again, which is really too much. I yelled at us, saying that you don't treat me as your son Yang, and you don't love me at all. Why did you give birth to me, .............? Wow, you can't think of these words in front of him who is usually obedient. It's really when a child is angry, and you don't know what he can say. Only unexpected, not impossible.

One morning, I found him getting up early, and then went to the closet to find clothes to change. I don't know why. God, I'm still glad he got up so early today, or did he stop sleeping in on weekends? It turned out that he peed again. Almost seven years old and still peeing. I've said it many times before, and now it's coming again. I just wanted to criticize him severely at first, but then I thought that this question was repeated many times at ordinary times, and I was tired of it. So I looked at him with gentle eyes, and then let our eyes turn to ashes before the collision. I won't ask any more questions. But I found that he was still afraid that I would criticize him and accuse him. Because he knew he had committed another crime. But I just don't say it.

As a result, this weekend, he took the initiative to help mop the floor, do housework, help collect clothes, and be caring and attentive to you. But all these can be seen, because he made a mistake and wanted to make up for it.

Therefore, at this time, I think that children's rebellion is sometimes that our parents talk too much. When you get along with rebellious children, you should know how to let go, because children hate reasoning with him every day. It is better to let him think and face independently and handle things in life independently. In this way, he can remember what he shouldn't do and let his physiology and thinking mature gradually.

We can accompany rebellious children in many ways.

In order to prevent children's rebellious behavior, I often watch games with children. We often read Disciples Rules, and whoever fails to catch up will lose. Slowly, the child's rebellious behavior will gradually fade away, and he can grow up quickly. I will have the opportunity to discuss parenting experience with you in the future. I hope every parent can be a friend and companion of their children.