Ye Mengde's "Shilin Family Training" family style and family training_Quotes and Sentences Excerpts

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Song Ye Mengde "Shi Lin family training".

1. Cultivation of the body to be strategic in order to warn the sons.

The gentleman is poor but ambitious, in order to cultivate the heart of benevolence; although rich and noble, but the appearance of respect and humility, in order to eliminate the arrogance of the air; life is comfortable and comfortable, but can make the qi and blood does not slack, this is the reason to follow the matter or etiquette and law; hard work and fatigue, but the appearance is not withered, this is the cause of the love of friendship; although angry, but do not deprive of the things that should be given to others, although very fond of it, but do not give more than a share to others, this is a good idea, this is a good idea. This is the triumph of propriety over selfishness, that in spite of anger you do not deprive others of what is due to them, and that in spite of your love you do not give more than your share.

Take my words to heart, and use them to improve yourselves, so that even if you do not attain to the highest good, you do not fail in it.

You must not neglect this matter.

If you are poor and have no will, you are already at the end of the road; if you are rich and arrogant, you are bound to be criticized by a thousand people sooner or later; if you are happy and have lost your will to fight, you are already at the end of the day; if you do not insist on hospitality when you are weary, you will be prone to misunderstandings; if you deliberately deprive others of the benefits that are due to you because of your anger, and if you give too much to others because of your love for them, this is a case of a narrow-mindedness, and the benefits make the wisdom go away. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing.

The reason why the above articles can become the key to cultivate the body, is because it can make a person whether in good or bad times, even in the emotional out of control at the moment, can have a harmonious environment, sober decision, exuberant fighting spirit and noble personality.

2. To be kind to one's relatives and not to be deceived.

Sima Wen Gong wrote a chapter in his book "Pedantry", in which he said: "A pedantic old man has no other secret to serve the monarch, but not to deceive the monarch for a long time.

This is how you should treat your parents.

This is the world's greatest maxim.

It is not easy to tell you how to treat a ruler, so let us talk about how to treat one's parents for the time being.

I see that no one in the world can avoid being deceived by the younger generation.

The man who loves a child, and teaches him a lesson, and the child obeys, but does not act on it, is deceived.

And it is also a deception to conceal one's own faults, and to keep silent, and not to let one's parents know of them.

The idea of hiding in the heart, avoiding the importance of not daring to all will come out, is also a deception.

Pretend to do some superficial good-looking things, not necessarily out of true feelings, this is also a deception.

Zeng Zi was able to mourn for his dead relatives by abstaining from food and drink for seven days. Although this does not serve any purpose for our dead relatives, it is done out of heartfelt feelings.

Zeng Zi's filial piety has reached such a high level of difficulty that it is difficult for future generations to emulate it.

If one wants to gain a reputation for filial piety through one's actions, one cannot fully show the true feelings one should have for one's loved ones, and one should realize that doing so is also a fault.

If a loved one has passed away, and the descendants are still afraid to do it because it is too difficult to imitate Zeng Zi, let alone a loved one living in the world to deceive him and what is there to be afraid to do?

Now that you have heard my teachings, you should follow them one by one and not lose sight of them.

The first thing you need to do is to repent of your faults and not to repeat them.

You must not let your parents hear your affairs; if you have any thoughts in your mind, you must tell them all, and must not conceal them in the least; you must do what a son of man ought to do, and not what a son of man ought not to do.

To adopt a civilized way to gain a good name, this can also be said to be filial, but only if it is not deceitful.

Could there be a second way in which this same mentality could be used in dealing with a monarch?

Emphasizing not deceiving others does not mean violating one's right to privacy.

In the past, we have seen a lot of people who are not aware of what is going on in the world, and we have seen a lot of people who are not aware of what is going on in the world, and we have seen a lot of people who are not aware of what is going on in the world.

A person who is good at cheating is doomed to be reviled at work and in life.

Do not equate loyalty to fools, this is a very easy to do but very rare moral qualities, this quality is a basic work ethic, and sometimes even make up for the lack of ability.

3. Deliberate and frugal.

I see people talking, but there are four types of types: the habit of spreading absurd and false stories of the people, every time the mouth talk, regardless of the interests of the person being discussed, only along with their own interest in speaking freely.

Those who are fond of inquiring, make a great deal of noise about things which are roughly similar on the face of it, even though they are overstated, and they do not know it.

Those who are absorbed in the feeling of good and evil, though the people they like are ugly, they try to cover them up; and the people they hate, even if they are good, they subtly denigrate them.

Those who are involved in the interests and exclusion of others, will deliberately create problems set up a conspiracy, dumping others to fear that they are not strong, vilification of others to fear that they are not deep.

And there are only two types of people who listen to what they say: the simple people who do not know right from wrong and believe in it comprehensively; and the careless and fast-talking people who do not care about what is at stake, and spread it all over the world.

This is the reason why one should not be careless about what one says.

Now as regards the first four evils, I know that you may be able to avoid them, but as regards the last two, I am not without anxiety.

The reason is that you are not yet y involved in the world, and have not yet experienced the difficulties, and are not yet able to perceive clearly the deceitfulness of human affairs, so that you will not be able to follow and sink into these faults.

So if you want to speak carefully, first of all, you should be able to reduce the irrelevant matters, choose friends must focus on simple and calm people, do not pursue the external affairs, naturally, will not enter the place of right and wrong.

All the people who travel with us are good and decent people, and they naturally like people who can consciously guard against harm, so the words of right and wrong won't reach your ears.

If you have no choice but to hear some rumors, you should think about the words of those simple people who pass them on without any intention to believe them; and for the words of the careless and fast-talking people who pass them on, you should take them as a warning and don't spread them so easily, so that you may be able to save yourself from some faults.

The exhortation to be prudent in one's speech seems to give the impression that one is not cheerful and too cautious. But think carefully: whenever and wherever possible, who is exempt from the disputes and mischief that can be planted by the words of the mouth? The author describes in detail the process by which words are spread and changed by the mouths of people of all minds, and fully demonstrates that careful speech is an important means of respecting others and protecting oneself.

The modern world advocates openness and freedom of speech, and most people focus on improving their ability to express themselves, which makes it easier for them to cause slander and mental harm to others.

Once such a thing happens, modern society is a legal society, the mouth of the person who caused the disaster will be more difficult to escape the blame.

To be careful with your words, not only do you have to choose your words according to who you are talking to, but you also have to listen well and minimize the spread of the word.

This is in the art of speaking than the usual requirements to improve the ability to express another level.

4. Not to be two-faced and to speak metaphorically of the sons.

The sage holds a nature consisting of the heart of supreme sincerity and perfect morality, rooted in the supreme morality consisting of the middle way.

If these are issued from the heart and manifested in words and deeds, not only is nothing they think about out of order, but there is no hole for bad and evil thoughts to enter, and capricious behaviors that are not in accordance with the law can not be imposed on them, so the saints have no faults.

The so-called faults are not manifested in actions and manifested in words (which are considered faults), and people usually think that faults are considered faults only after they have appeared.

The fault of Yan Zi is the kind of fault I am talking about.

The meaning of non-secondary is to be able to stop when it has not happened, to have put an end to it before it has manifested itself, that is to say, the faults that appear in speech and action are second faults.

You should admonish yourselves with the thought of not second-guessing, and learn from the mind of Yan Zi, which is my ordinary wish!

Exhort yourselves with this!

The meaning of not repeating one's mistakes is not that one should not repeat them in word and deed, but that if incorrect thoughts well up in the mind, it is already a first mistake; if they are further manifested in word and deed, it is a second mistake.

This requires people to be able to recognize and eliminate wrong thoughts when they begin to emerge in their minds, and to eliminate them before they take shape, which is a very high level of freedom from faults and cultivation, and requires a high level of moral wisdom and a long time to cultivate the habit of self-righteousness.

Lu You's Family Discipline

Lu You's Family Discipline

Lu You's Family Discipline

Lu You's Family Discipline

Lu You's Family Discipline

Song Lu You's Family Discipline

The first is the "Family Discipline" of Lu You, which was written by Lu You in the Song Dynasty.

1. The talent of life is limited, but the world can not be exhausted in fact.

The talent of life is certainly limited, but most of the world can not put it into full play, to the old must hate life.

Although I do not have much talent, but also a person, not to the age of forty, has not written a book, after forty years of age, the energy is gradually exhausted, and will soon be aging.

Cherish the meaning of life, to calculate and use the years in hand.

Do not worry about their own talent, for fear that the talent in their own body did not get enough to play; do not worry about the talent is not useful, for fear of not seeking a suitable for their own talent to put the direction.

Great talent has great use, small talent has small use, as long as you seize the time, the talent of life is enough to illuminate the life.

2. The latter's talent is sharp. The most likely to be bad.

After the talent sharp appearance, the most likely to become bad.

If this happens, the father and brother should be worried about it and should not consider it as a good thing.

The father and brother should be anxious about this, and should not consider it a matter of joy.

He should be checked and disciplined, and he should be familiarized with the Five Classics and the writings of the sons.

He should be disciplined with the principle that people should be generous and respectful, and should not be allowed to socialize with frivolous and shallow people.

This is the first time that I have seen the world's most important book.

Otherwise, it is worth worrying about things that affect more than one aspect.

My words are a message to the future generations, and everyone should remember them carefully, so as not to leave any regrets behind.

The talent of the people, used to build a career, may become the world's heroes; used as a cock and bullies, can also become a black sheep.

The ability of the intellectually dull people to make things happen is limited, and their destructive power is correspondingly limited.

Therefore, Lu You was afraid that his children and grandchildren would become black sheep.

The talent is certainly enviable, but the power to destroy society is much stronger when you have talent without virtue.

3. If you think about it, you will be able to stop your greed.

Those greedy people in the world, whose desires cannot be filled like a gully, are certain that they are no longer worthy of reproach.

As for the common people, when they see other people's clothing and treasures, they cannot remain unmoved, which is actually a disease.

It is probably human nature to adore what he does not have, and to hate what he has already got, just to think what is the use of this thing if I have it? The first thing that I want to do is to make sure that I have a good understanding of what I'm doing and what I'm doing. This is the first time that I have ever seen a person who has been in a position to do this, and I have never seen a person who has been in a position to do this.

If a person's nature is indifferent or transcendent, or if he has achieved a high level of learning, he does not need to rely on this approach.

The method of curbing greed created by Lu You really stems from his grasp of human nature and penetration.

Novelty items in the hands of others are not colorful, magnificent, and once you get it into my hands, it immediately seems to glow in the wind, mediocre, and after a few days, it is already new into the old, there is equal to no.

The newest item in the world is the newest item in the world, the newest item in the world.

Any precious thing once in my hands will not suffer this kind of fate.

In that case, why should I be envious of things that are not yet in my hands? Is it only to arouse the awe and admiration of others? If it is all about the feelings of others, what is the meaning of my own life?

With this idea, can cut off a lot of trouble and drag.

4. The first thing you need to do is to get rid of all the things that you have to do.

The customs are getting worse every day, and there is more than one cause for concern.

I am glad that I am dying of old age.

I would never have come out as an official if I had not died soon.

My family originally made a living by farming, and if I could resume farming, it would be the best policy; closed-door study, not to participate in the imperial examinations, not to seek to be an official, it would be the middle policy; to do a small official at ease, and not to aspire to the glory and development, it would be the next policy.

In addition to these three strategies, there is no other choice.

When you hear this sentence today, you will definitely not think it is correct in your heart, and you will understand it y only later.

When you have leisure time to look at this sentence with the brothers used to warn themselves, unnecessary to say to others.

Such a negative and desperate words, Lu Fangweng why it as a secret three policy passed on to future generations? It should be said that this is not just a kind of positive words of indignation.

The next policy is to stay in a small official position, not to admire honor and glory, and to earn a living without incurring too much risk, and not to be infected by official vice, but to be subjected to the constraints of some rules of the officialdom, so it is the next policy; to close the door to study, and not to attempt to serve, of course, to maintain the reputation and integrity, but not to be free from the worry of earning a living, so it can only be a middle policy; if it can be resumed for the agriculture, it can be self-supporting, and to preserve the reputation, so it is the most superior policy.

It's a good idea to have a good idea.

It can be seen that Lu You regarded the issue of preserving integrity and making a living as the first choice for his children and grandchildren.

This is not an exhortation to the children to avoid social responsibility, but because the officialdom is dark and evil people are doing evil, not only let people have no way to serve the country, and not with the dirty, there is no place to stand.

In order to preserve the high winds, Lu You came up with these three strategies for his children and grandchildren.

Song Zhao Ding "family training transcript" family style family training_quotations and quotations

Song Zhao Ding "family training transcript" family style family training_quotations and quotations

Song Zhao Ding "family training transcript".

But the word "honesty and diligence" is accessible to all.

Item 1: At home, filial piety to father and brotherly love should be the top priority.

The first is that the first two are the same, and the second is that the second is the same, and the third is the same.

The previous person left the admonition, the children and grandchildren each have a book, and Sima Wen Gong's "family model"; you can copy a copy of each, to read from time to time, enough to be worthy of emulation, do not have to wait for me to say through.

The second item: Anyone who is an official must be honest and diligent.

People's talents and endowments, each with its own shortcomings, it is difficult to maintain consistency.

But the two words, clean and diligent, is everyone can do.

The first is to use the principle of harmony to deal with others; if you are in harmony with others, you will be able to live in peace and stay away from harm.

The third item is that the oldest member of the family should be in charge of the affairs of the family as well as the income and expenditure of rent and tax.

If you want to put your favorite person in charge from the very beginning, you have to listen to everyone's opinion and agree with them.

The fourth item: if the children and grandchildren are not capable of behavior, and spoil the family culture, we should rely on the person in charge of the family affairs to convene all the children in front of the hall to admonish and fix him, and urge them to correct their mistakes, and for those who behave excessively, we should be admonished in the court in the hall where the gods and Buddha and the ancestors' tablets are enshrined, and then be admonished in the court if they commit the crime again.

The fifth item is that the person in charge of the family affairs should lead all the sons and daughters to make arrangements for all kinds of sacrificial activities in the year, and must meet the requirements of the sacrificial rites, and the remaining offerings must be shared by the whole family.

The sixth item: on the first and fifteenth day of each month, they should bring out food and wine for the rituals, and the whole family should be gathered together as in the usual rituals, and should not be slack or slow in doing so.

The seventh item: on the festival day of memorializing the deceased relatives, monks should be invited and fed to recite sutra and transcendence, and the whole family should eat vegetarian food.

The eighth item: All the property of the family, the children and grandchildren, cannot be divided.

There are also explicit rules, which must be strictly observed in accordance with the constraints of the regulations.

The ninth item: the rent collected every year, according to the population distribution, regardless of the size, each person has a share.

Above five years of age, one-third share; above ten years of age, one-half share; above fifteen years of age, the whole share; only for the flesh and blood of their own families; a woman who has married and has not yet left the family is treated in the same way as a son-in-law and a nephew.

Other slaves are excluded from the distribution.

Item 10: For the inventory of the family and the rent, tax, income and expenditure, detailed records and documents should be made and signed by the head of the family and the eldest son of each house.

Other extensive additions and subtractions should also be decided by ****consultation.

This is the first ten of the thirty rules and regulations that Zhao Ding formulated, from which you can get a glimpse of the ancient Chinese family system.

From the above ten specific family rules, it is easy to see that the ancient Chinese family system has at least the following characteristics: First, the moral goal of family management is filial piety and friendship, honesty and diligence, and study for the study, this moral direction is good and noble, but also unquestionable.

Second, in the model of the family, although in principle, the requirement to the longest one as the head of the family, but if there is a suitable person, but also to listen to all the same can be; the head of the family in the financial accounts should be strictly built, full disclosure; important expenses, but also to discuss.

It is clear that this system of management, although regarded as patriarchal in later times, was in fact not devoid of democratic elements.

Third, everyone is equal in the economy.

In the distribution of property, the whole clan, regardless of age, are all the same, even the distribution of the rest of the sacrificial food and wine, but also the broken disk.

Fourth, the sacrifice is the most common and most solemn folk activities in the ancient Chinese family, modern people regard it as feudal superstition, it is in fact a different kind of Western Christian folk religion. Is the Chinese civilization has been inherited since the beginning of history in order to respect the heavens and ancestors as the main theme of the real local Chinese religion.

Fifth, the management of the ancient family system is very strict, on the ungrateful children and grandchildren to take the hall training, the court training and then the court training and other means.

This is a powerful and important means of educating the children to change their ways in addition to schooling and social education.

The traditional virtues were established and passed down by this means.

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