Parental rearing patterns in early childhood and their influence on young children

Parenting style refers to a tendency of parents in their daily activities of raising children. It is a summary of the characteristics of parents' various parenting behaviors and a relatively stable behavior style. Parents are children's first teachers, and children's self-confidence germinates and develops in the family. Therefore, children's self-confidence is closely related to parents' parenting behavior. Parents convey their parents' attitudes, behavior patterns and values to their children through specific parenting behaviors and attitudes. Different types of parental rearing patterns have different degrees of influence on the development of children's self-confidence.

1. The main types of parental rearing patterns

The doting parents who hold this kind of parenting style put their children in a special position, obey and serve them all, inappropriately meet their demands and desires in life, accommodate them everywhere and do everything for them. In such a family atmosphere, children are often emotionally unstable, selfish, conceited or self-abased, with low ability, weak will and lack of self-confidence, which is easy to form a character of dependence, cowardice and inferiority. When children grow up, they will be unable to bear any psychological setbacks and lack self-confidence and independence in the face of very different social competition.

Authoritarian type. Parents who hold this parenting style often force their children to do things according to their own wishes, do not allow their children to make mistakes or make mistakes, and frequently use punishment to enforce them. Children who grow up in this kind of family lack a sense of security and belonging.

Let it go. Parents who hold this kind of upbringing adopt an indifferent and laissez-faire attitude towards their children. Because parents do not give their children the necessary behavioral norms and reinforcement, they lack restraint on their impulsive behavior, which leads to their lack of social responsibility and self-control ability. At the same time, due to the lack of parental care and education, children think that they are not important in the family, thus losing their sense of belonging.

Democratic type. Parents who hold this kind of parenting style trust, respect and equality their children, attach importance to inspiration and guidance, and let their children have independent and free growth space. There is positive emotional communication between these parents and children, which not only respects and understands children, but also puts forward strict requirements for children; Pay close attention to children's every move, actively encourage children to be independent, and encourage children to do what they like and can do; It is not only reasonable for children to dare to express their opinions, but also to have guidance to follow, and it is not unreasonable to reprimand their childishness and mistakes. Therefore, children who grow up in a democratic family atmosphere are often cheerful, strong-willed, positive and confident, and can live in harmony with others.

2. Improve parenting style and cultivate children's self-confidence.

Judging from the behavior of parents, the result of children's self-confidence development shows that the democratic education model is undoubtedly the best education model, which deserves praise. Of course, because each child's personality is different, whether it is spoiled, autocratic or laissez-faire, the adverse consequences they have on the development of children's self-confidence are not necessarily causal. In other words, the effect of the same discipline type on children with different personalities may be varied, and we can't evaluate the actual effect of a certain discipline type only by the superficial behavior of children. But one thing is certain, that is, democratic parenting is beneficial to all children's personality and psychological development.

Parents should change their educational concepts and improve their own quality. Educational concept is the core of the whole family education. Parents should realize that they play an important role in their children's growth, especially in early childhood. Parents' educational attitude and parenting style directly or indirectly affect the formation and development of children's self-confidence to some extent. Therefore, it is a necessary prerequisite for parents to change their educational concepts, improve their own quality and optimize their parenting methods.

The trinity of society, school and family will build a complete education system. Parents' parenting style can only achieve the expected educational effect through the joint efforts of society, schools and families, and create a good environment for the healthy growth of children's body and mind. The society should publicize and popularize family education knowledge through various media, and publicize scientific family education model and democratic education model. Kindergartens can also guide and help parents to master scientific parenting methods and improve the effect of family education through direct communication between parents' committees, parents' schools and parents and teachers.